Things I’ve Never Told You

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On Thursdays or Fridays, I like to take myself out to lunch.

Yesterday was a perfect cup of butternut squash soup, and a perfect green salad with a citrus vinaigrette. There’s this little coffee shop, bakery, pizzeria, breakfast joint about 10 minutes away through the woods, and it looks like a little storybook house. In a village with a thatched roof and pizza smoke blowing out the top of the building. I hesitate sometimes to post about it on Facebook because people will think I’m bragging. The truth is, I have a least favorite part of the northeast, and it’s that odd place where NJ, CT, and NYC meet. It’s good if you like brake lights and car exhaust, but I prefer twinkly fairy lights and pizza exhaust. That’s just me, though. I thought of it today because I thought about how Thursday lunches began.

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Des only had daycare and then preschool three times a week, leaving Thursdays and Fridays open. We used to go out to lunch. I’m not sure he ever appreciated it the way I did, or so I thought then, but I really pulled out the stops. We’d go to an airport cafe near Cassidy’s work to watch airplanes arrive and depart. We’d go to mill river cafes and eat sausage and cheese boards while watching the raging water. Sometimes it was diner french fries or clam chowder in bread bowls. Whatever it was, it was ours. There’s a romance of a Thursday and Friday lunch. He’s older now, but oh how the child is still there. It’s the way he waves out at me from the bus windows and hugs me fiercely in the school lines. Don’t go changing.

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I think a lot about life before this – these two kids in elementary school with after school programs, school bus schedules, and homework. The baby/toddler time is contained. It’s safe and padded. Story time mornings. Nap time afternoons. Routines and structures and lunches, in the face of what could be chaos. No school. No daycare. I am so glad I had those five years with each of them, overlapping and intertwined. It was both chaotic and structured. It was both easy and hard for me.

Whatever it was, it was ours.

And to think about going back to that is both the easiest and hardest thought. Five more years, with nearly ten years gone; moving on. Who would I be? Who would they be? How would it be? Whatever it would be, you know it would involve lunches.

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For all the ways I’m diligent and in control, there are just as many ways I’m out of control. That’s sort of my thing. I make a point to having nothing out of control, when meanwhile it’s all creeping up and out until it’s unbearable. The thing is, this world is a little too crazy and too full of whim and whimsy and chaos and the unexpected to have all your ducks in a row. All your balls to the wall. The sooner you embrace that and own it, I suppose the happier you’ll be. That’s why I work at such strange paces – either full speed ahead, or snail’s pace. There are things that take me way too long for weird reasons.

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I used to keep unedited photos for a rainy day, or just the soothing aspect of them. I’d stockpile them for sleepless nights – which rarely happen – but just to have some warm glow and to sit and work on all the details of the things I CAN control. It’s sort of like when you have a great book to read, but you can’t read it yet. Or maybe an ice cream pint waiting in the freezer for its next indulgence. The photos were/are like that. Except that more time passed. Soon, three months became six months became one year and became what is now 2.5 years behind. I edit my client and blog photos, and the best few of any set, but the bulk just grows. And how much longer can I really let them sit like that in outer space? Growing and stale.

Not to be morbid, but what if something happens to me and they’re never seen? I am about eight months behind on replying to blog comments, which explains why you occasionally get a random reply from me that no longer makes sense. 2.5 years of photos! I’m looking now to close that gap, and I’m starting today. Photo Share Friday, indeed. Here is a perfect day I had with then three-year-old Des. It might have been before lunch. It might have been after lunch. Whatever it was, it was ours.

This is me linking up, as one of my favorite things to do, with Finish The Sentence Friday. This week’s topic is Photo Share Friday And there’s still time to write yours. Come link up with your spin: HERE. What’s your photo? What’s its story?

What would you share?

Great Tips to Make Photography Your Number One Hobby

You need to make sure you have a great camera if you are serious about taking your photography hobby to the next level. Read how to make it your number one!

Photography as a Hobby

So photography has always interested you, but perhaps you’ve just been messing around with it as a hobby. Well, now is the time to get a little more serious and to make this into your number one hobby. There are so many things that can go a long way toward helping you with that, and you need to make sure you focus on doing what you can to make photography your main focus.

This is such a great hobby because it allows you to be creative and it is something that can be done alone or with other people. The best photographers out there are the ones who reached a stage where they decided they needed to start taking this more seriously. They decided to take a look at a few of the amazing tips here and use them, and it is important for you to do the same.

Buy a Great Camera

You need to make sure you have a great camera if you are serious about taking your photography to the next level. There is no sense in harboring ambitions of becoming a famous photographer when you are working with a poor camera. Now, choosing the right camera is a big step, and you may need some help. Compare digital cameras with MoneyPug to help you make the right decision and choose a camera that is perfect for you. It’s important to get an idea of the options out there before you proceed any further.

Get More Creative

Getting more creative is really important to make sure you are getting the most out of the photography experience. Come up with ideas that are going to be breaking boundaries and exploring different ways of taking pictures! There are a lot of ways to do this and get positive results. Innovation is your friend, and you should make sure you make the most of it.

Print Pictures

Printing pictures is a really great way of boosting and improving your skills as a photographer. You have to make sure you are focused on boosting your techniques and your eye for doing things, and the best way to do that is to get a good look at a proper photo. There are so many things that you need to make sure you get right when you are looking to get better as a photographer, and this is one of the most important.

Photograph Different Things

It is also essential that you make sure you photograph as many different things as you can these days. This is the best way of improving your range and changing the way you approach framing and snapping. Whether it’s photographing the new family dog, snapping shots of people going about their lives, or capturing nature at its finest, photographing different things is essential.

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Come up with some ideas that will help you to make the most of this experience. There are a lot of things that play a role in becoming a great photographer, and these tips can help you a lot with that. Consider what is involved in the process of becoming a great photographer, and use the ideas on here to help you with that.