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You Make Loving Fun

“Don’t, don’t break the spell
It would be different and you know it will
You, you make loving fun
And I don’t have to tell you but you’re the only one”

Don't, don't break the spell, It would be different and you know it will, You, you make loving fun, And I don't have to tell you but you're the only one

Rider. He just makes loving fun.

So it’s no surprise that “You Make Loving Fun” came on while we were pulling into the parking lot for Sawyer’s six month well visit the other day. When I got back into the car, it continued, because I had plugged in my phone which was connected to Pandora via bluetooth. And I just thought: “This song is about my family.” Of course it’s about Cassidy, because I do think it’s a romantic song, but we wouldn’t have these kids without romance. And they make love so easy. I really intend for this post to mostly be a cute photo dump because I’m still on the high of us celebrating Rider’s second birthday yesterday. On one hand, I can’t believe it’s been two years, and on the other hand, I can’t believe it’s only been two years because we’ve accomplished so much since then. I was pregnant at the beginning of the pandemic, and even if the history books will one day even write 2022 as the beginning of the pandemic (or endemic or whatever on earth this is and will be), Rider’s pregnancy, birth, and early babyhood were very much representative of that weird time. Even though I was pregnant before COVID, or at least before we knew what it is. Even though we still don’t really know what it is/what it will be, but I digress!

And really, it’s all about how Rider makes loving fun.

At the risk of digressing again, what I mean to say is that Rider’s pregnancy and even birth (and even early babyhood) were during a time in which we thought COVID would go away. With the first wave, or the second, or even the third, and definitely with the addition of antivirals and vaccines. And yet, no. That’s not what happened. And it was such an innocent time of keeping ourselves safe and healthy, and then keeping him safe and healthy. And if it’s confusing for him as a toddler to see masks or not see masks, and not understand why I sometimes wear them and sometimes don’t, he’s turned into a gorgeous, eloquent, social, vibrant, curious creature. When I was pregnant, we were all home. When he was born, we were all home. And while I don’t miss the beginning of the virus, I do miss the beginning of the virus lifestyle, which was just about discovering and nurturing what’s truly important. And when the real world creeps back in, as it will always do, well, we’ve built our defenses and our shields out of love and light. Rider was born because of, through, and with love and light. Sawyer too, but this post is about Rider.

Don't, don't break the spell, It would be different and you know it will, You, you make loving fun, And I don't have to tell you but you're the only one

It’s humbling to be raising such beautiful, kind creatures (who are also whiny, inappropriate, stubborn, and messy) because I feel like my light is dimming, while it’s shining on them. It doesn’t have to be that way, though. Staying in the present is important as we all need each other. In Rider’s life, we have kept safe and healthy, as much as we can, and we have nurtured another pregnancy, birth, and early babyhood. Rider became a big brother! We have battled COVID together, we have finally traveled by plane together, we have danced on a dance floor together, we have attended a romantic wedding together, and he only shrieked once and didn’t even have to leave the ceremony. (unlike Sawyer at another wedding a month later, ahem)

Don't, don't break the spell, It would be different and you know it will, You, you make loving fun, And I don't have to tell you but you're the only one

Rider now has language explosion after language explosion as he figures out the world. He has shown me a lot, and is the perfect third piece to our four kid family. We used his first birthday party to announce the fourth pregnancy, and I almost feel kinda guilty not having a pregnancy announcement this year (or ever again). I can’t even believe Rider exists, and he’s such a force. He just makes loving fun, plain and simple. I know what it’s like to have a teen, tween, toddlers, and infant, and I could never tell you which kid is the easiest and which one is the hardest. They are all four, all of those things, at different times, and each is such a perfect puzzle piece of this jumbled family. Ever-changing and with smooth and rough edges. Always trying to figure out how to piece it all together, and also ok knowing that they never will and I never will, but gosh, can we make this love adventure a really fun and really long ride. Rider is not a baby anymore.

Yet, Rider and Sawyer will always be “the babies” to me.

Don't, don't break the spell, It would be different and you know it will, You, you make loving fun, And I don't have to tell you but you're the only one

You came out screaming, which was such a contrast to your three siblings, but those strong lungs are going to do great things. You’re a mountain mover and a mountain climber and I have a mountain of love for you. There’s a Fleetwood quote about love magic at the end of this post.

And this family helps me remember that.

Don't, don't break the spell, It would be different and you know it will, You, you make loving fun, And I don't have to tell you but you're the only one

Don't, don't break the spell, It would be different and you know it will, You, you make loving fun, And I don't have to tell you but you're the only one

Don't, don't break the spell, It would be different and you know it will, You, you make loving fun, And I don't have to tell you but you're the only one

Don't, don't break the spell, It would be different and you know it will, You, you make loving fun, And I don't have to tell you but you're the only one

Don't, don't break the spell, It would be different and you know it will, You, you make loving fun, And I don't have to tell you but you're the only one

Don't, don't break the spell, It would be different and you know it will, You, you make loving fun, And I don't have to tell you but you're the only one

Don't, don't break the spell, It would be different and you know it will, You, you make loving fun, And I don't have to tell you but you're the only one

“I never did believe in miracles
But I’ve a feeling it’s time to try
I never did believe in the ways of magic
But I’m beginning to wonder why”

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3 Comments

  1. A beautiful “capture” of a moment that you will be so happy to have in your future. Your photographs are truly beautiful. What fun to be a photographer in a time when you can see the results of your efforts in real time. Wishing Rider a very happy 3rd year of life, and to all of you as well!

  2. A most enjoyable post Tamara, and of course these precious pics capture all the Love.❤️ l made a wish on that rainbow for each one of you. Happy Birthday Rider!🎂 Long may you ride those rainbows 🌈 in the sky, along with your your flowing golden locks!

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