Wordless Wednesday: Love Is Healing.

My mom once told me that to get through the hardest parts of labor with my older sister, her first baby, she put a beautiful picture on the wall as visual therapy. She stared straight at it from her hospital bed to gather the strength to continue.

And continue, she did.

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I don’t even know what her picture was. Was it a photo or a painting? Was it light or dark? Exciting or mellow? I do know that it seemed to work for her. I guess such things vary. Despite prizing my vision very much, and despite being in the visual arts field, I actually prize music above all else to ease my way through pain and anxiety. It’s my sense of hearing. It’s comforting sounds and words and the melodies and lyrics that bring me back into my core. Grounded back to the earth when I’m spinning too fast away from it. Cookies help too, but only in certain situations, and I certainly wouldn’t recommend stress eating, but I do indulge every now and then. And I like it too. When I am very stressed, I can barely eat at all. I don’t know what’s worse.

Tuesday.. yesterday.. (or today if you’re reading this early) was a DAY. It started poorly, and it only got worse. And then it got worse again. There were certainly beautiful and shiny parts of it. Happy client testimonials and napping lap cats. A really good coffee over an even better conversation. Happy kids. Amazing loved ones. Finishing a big, emotional job. Healing.

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It didn’t help that I needed to immerse myself in work during such a hard day. And while visual therapy doesn’t and won’t always work for me, often because photography is one of the reasons I’m somewhat stressing, I was very uplifted by finishing the set from the day after my sister’s wedding. That’s right. The day after. These are not her official wedding day photos because, hello, matron of honor duties are HARD, but I’m amazed that the three of us pulled ourselves out of bed the morning after, went outside, and put something beautiful together. It shouldn’t have been easy, but it kinda was. It had flow.

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I took a long time to upload and edit these photos, mostly by design. She already had a photographer for her wedding day, so I wasn’t under stress. And it’s because I wanted to draw out that magical day, which is somehow already six weeks past.

How can this be?

I want my soul to be warmed. I need it. I thought I’d share. All you can see is love here. I see it so much, that I can even see past the fact that when I normally look at my own photos, all I see are technical details and imperfections. I see luck and timing. I see chemistry too. I see all of the things an anxious and self-conscious person sees when staring at their own art.

That’s unacceptable today. Today, I just choose to see the love. It’s the only thing that matters:

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About Tamara

Tamara is a professional photographer, a mama of two, a Lifestyle Blogger/Social Media Influencer/Brand Ambassador, and a nearly professional cookie taster. She has been known to be all four of those things at all hours of the day and night. She is a very proud contributor to the book, The Mother Of All Meltdowns, the Stigma Fighters Anthology (volume 1), and The HerStories Project: So Glad They Told Me. She is also a proud Community Lead and a regular contributor to the SoFab Food blog, and the Target Made Me Do It blog. After two cross country moves, due to her intense Bi-Coastal Disorder, she lives with her husband, daughter, son, dog, cat, and 11 chickens in glorious western Massachusetts.

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Wordless Wednesday: Love Is Healing. — 120 Comments

  1. My Mom gave birth to me while looking at a carving my dad made for her. She still has it in her bedroom. Me? I needed the drugs.

    LOVE your photos, as always. If we’re ever in your area, I’m so hiring you!

    • Oh, that is so nice!

      I made about three birth mixes. It was so much fun to see which songs the kids were actually born to. Scarlet was a Beatles song and Des was a Grateful Dead song.

  2. These are so amazing! I love the silly ones. And your sister is so gorgeous, but I’ve gotta say… the look on her new husband’s face — so much in love with her!!! I hope he always remembers that feeling.

  3. I see more than love here. I see joy and laughter, too. It’s funny – when I got married almost 20 years ago, I would have never posed for a photo in the port-a-potties. Now I’d be all over that! I hope Wednesday is just a regular day, not a DAY.

  4. Loved the photos and they are a gorgeous couple, Tamara! LOL…that’s funny that you or someone graciously placed the bottom of her dress over her shoe for the headstand 🙂 I hope tomorrow (your today almost) is better than yesterday (my today). Huh? *shaking head feverishly* (getting time zoned gets confusing) 🙂

  5. Absolutely gorgeous. So much love in these photos coming from both sides of the camera. On a side note, I remember focusing on a spot on the wall during labor. A painting would have been much nicer!

  6. Wow!!! You all killed this day after shoot! I was impressed reading that yes, you actually made it happen the next day because hello! That’s exhausting, but there is so much love and gentleness about these shots. I love the love!

    Oh and crap. I didn’t even think about all the technical details you can’t help but see when you look at my blurry iPhone pictures lol sad. Thanks for never judging me gf!

    • Haha! You are funny.
      I definitely don’t look at the technical details on other people’s photos. Unless they ask me to, in which case I will. However, I am definitely not judging your photos! With other people, I can look at the moment and not the details. And I hope that’s what people can do with me.

  7. You once again outdid yourself. I can surely see the love between the two of them in your shots. You’re not only an amazing photographer but an amazing person as well. Thank you for sharing your sister’s special day with us. Can’t wait for you to photograph us. I’m still taking that trip to you. 🙂

  8. Just amazing. Such a gorgeous setting for a beautiful couple who are obviously so much in love. It makes me want to hug and kiss my husband…but he’s in Tulsa 🙁 And, you know my favorite one is the handstands!!

  9. They are such an incredibly good looking couple that it would be hard not to get great photos. Of course, that is being said by someone who literally knows nothing about photography. But yours always come out well – they eye!!!! I like music to relax as well…and I also lose my appetite when I am very stressed. Must be a sign of genius, right?

    • You are so right. It is both. They are so good looking and so in love, that you would have to try to take bad photos of it. My only part in it was finding lighting and location.

  10. Beautiful! I have to admit that when I saw the outhouse pictures I immediately hoped that her dress wasn’t getting dirty!

    My Tuesday was not good. Not good at all. I haven’t decided if I should blog about it yet!

    • I feel the same way about my Tuesday. It regards medical news that are not my own to tell.
      As for the outhouse, it was a trash the dress shoot, so I can all but assure you that she would not have even cared! I would have.

  11. Emotional reponse quicker than a grade B Hallmark Christmas movie! Hey, I saw a red felt M or W in the woods. I see where it comes from !
    When this snow melts, there it will be and will try to grab it before the next storm…to have and to hold!

  12. Fabulous fun and colourful pictures. You take and make some amazing pictures. I think your sister is very fortunate to have 2 superb photographers at her wedding. How could the memories ever fade.

    Your point about music is a good one. It is proven time and again to be highly influential in moods.

    • I appreciate that so much! I was so happy we were able to do this, so I got in my own photo shoot. I was itching to do it on the day of the wedding but it wasn’t my job to do.

  13. Yes, you can definitely feel the love in these photos! And I’m amazed that your sister was able to do a handstand while wearing her wedding gown. Your Tuesday was my Monday. And my Tuesday when I updated my bookkeeping for the year. ::Sigh::

  14. Wait…these are the day AFTER the wedding?! Stop it!!! Haha the day after my wedding I’m pretty sure I had bags under my eyes, hair still sprayed in an up-do with bobby pins falling all over the place and pretty much didn’t leave my bed all day. Ha! She is stunning, and kudos to you for capturing all these gorgeous moments!!!

  15. Sorry for your very hard day! i have come to expect more of those this time of year. How do people look so stunning the day AFTER their wedding? AMAZING!! The porta potty ones crack me up!!

  16. BREATHTAKING!!!!!! Oh, do I feel the love… SEE the love… and because of the magic of it all, I somehow hear sweet music too. “I see skies that are blue…” That entire song just played through my heart while looking at all of these unbelievably gorgeous photos. Ah… And I think to myself… Despite all the furry of pain and the fretting of anxiety… truly? What a wonderful world THIS is.

    Thank you for the therapy today. <3

    • What a nice song for it! I should have had a soundtrack of their wedding song. Nothing would sound quite like our friend singing them down the aisle sounded like, though.

      Thank YOU for letting this be your safe place today.

  17. You were definitely successful in capturing what you set out to – their love and their spirit! I love the photos! Loved the leaves one. Very playful. As well as the porta potty one!

    • Thank you!! I just hope I’d do the same if under the pressure of it being their wedding day. I suppose so because I’ve done weddings before, but this was awesome.

  18. The love those 2 have for each other jumps off the screen!!!
    I think my favorite is the handstand – so fun. Although that last one is pretty great. And, his shoes – really?! So very sweet!!!

  19. I love the idea of day-after photos. Seriously, they look so in love and well RELAXED! They are really a beautiful couple! I was wondering where the porta-potties came in when you posted those earlier in the week -ha! Great session!

    • I definitely can’t wait to see the wedding ones too. I wonder if they’ll look less relaxed. They probably will look just as great! They really were the calmest bride and groom ever.

  20. Wow! Those are awesome. I am not a lovey, romantic type, but those seriously made me smile. I can see the love, for sure!

  21. The first time I gave birth I did so looking at my husband’s face. Probably shouldn’t have done that since the birth was via c-section and his face showed just how unlovely looking at your wife’s intestines is! Great job on these pictures Tamara, they look so lovely and pulled together for the day after! Love triumphs all 🙂

    • Haha!!
      I have often felt grateful to be a woman, because either way you give birth, I would not want to be on the other side of it. Not that the side we are on is roses.

  22. These pictures are so filled with love. You did such a lovely job, as always! I love the picture of them throwing up the leaves, it’s so beautiful. You can just feel their love, even through pictures. I love that you were able to capture that : )

  23. What wonderful beautiful works of art. Your sister and her husband’s love certainly shines through in these photos. Great job!

    I am a music person too. If not music, then silence. Both help me think, and be, and do. Especially when it’s a tough time, whether emotionally, physically, or spiritually. 🙂

  24. omg girl – I teared up through every single one. than I laughed.. because peeing in porta potties of course, and then the dangling heart and the shoe message made me cry again. so much beauty and joy — it’s the only filter. pure magic.
    ah, c’est amore. 🙂

    • Aww.. My dear. Don’t lose faith! I have known Cassidy for 10 years and although I sometimes want to hit him, I can assure you he is an upstanding human being. There are a lot of them.

  25. This is such a unique photo shoot for wedding photos. I love it! I always see ones where they are planned and people are posing, except maybe the reception photos. Maybe I don’t get to see wedding photos often enough. 🙂 I think lavender essential oil makes me relaxed and so does funny movies…oh and crocheting! I’m hoping to do some of all of these things (well, I’ll probably have a diffuser to put the essential oil in) during labor. 🙂

    • I saw somebody crocheting while sitting in traffic the other day!
      And these are the day after the wedding, so on the wedding day, there were more posed and reception photos. This was just my take.

  26. You are an amazing photographer and they are a stunningly beautiful couple. I concur, all I see is chemistry and lots of LOVE! And His shoes – oh my, that is adorable.

    • Oh, I wish!! Due to budget constraints, I’ll need you to pay for my airfare. haha. But then free photo shoot!!
      I imagine being a photographer in Brazil would be fun for me.

  27. I’m glad you chose to see the love. There’s so much love in these photos – from the three of you!
    I agree – it’s so hard to be working on a stress day. I’ve had many this week but I’ve got to somehow force myself to work. Geez!

    • I remember having trouble with that when I worked in a regular job at regular hours. Some people bury themselves in their work when stressed or grieving. I would be paralyzed!

  28. Oh, Tamara… There is so so so much love in these photos. I know what you mean–we can be such harsh critics when it comes to our own work, but I’m so very glad you are able to look beyond that to see what you really did capture so beautifully–the love that exists between your gorgeous sister and her handsome hubby. Every photo. You did a wonderful job, truly 🙂

  29. omg his shoes!!! Lol I love all these photos!! They are such a cute couple – they also look really fun! Haha 🙂 I need something – I don’t know what. My mind and heart are asking for something but I am at a lost. I feel aimless the last few days, antsy and like I’m awaiting for some kind of revelation. I feel so restless at work but I have no pretty pictures to look at so I’ll enjoy yours. Music helps though – it always helps; it’s on 75% of my day. Hope you’re all feeling better Tamara! Take Care -Iva

    • I feel that way today, my dear. I feel like I want to explode or something. Need a change.
      I’m glad you’re enjoying my photos! I hope you’re off work today and curling up at home.

      And I’m all better, thanks! It took well over a week!

      • Same here! I’m not off, not yesterday nor today, but I will be curling up at home afterwards 🙂 It’s Friday and that makes me happy. One day at a time. I need a change too haven’t figured out what that means or what I need yet. Hopefully, over time I’ll get some answers. Eh – patience is a virtue! Glad you’re feeling better love, take care! -Iva

  30. So sorry I’ve been MIA from your blog – just got back from vacation last night, and despite a holiday hangover, I want to get caught up on my favorite blogs today! You’re right, love is all that matters, and the love just glows in these photos. So beautiful, and they will be so happy to have them as the years go on.

  31. Awww you can just feel the warmth in these photos! I love the ones of them on the ground with the leaves. It’s just got such great color in it. And believe it or not I had both boys naturally with no drugs…crazy enough! The first time was 26 hours and not sure how I survived 🙂

    • That’s the thing! They really didn’t plan them! They didn’t even really plan ones for their actual wedding day because the photographer did most of that.
      We seriously rolled out of bed after no sleep. They came back to my parent’s house from their honeymoon suite. They tried to look the same as they had the day before. We just walked around and came up with these on the spot! The red felt letters, the port-a-potties and the upside down ones were all them. The rest were mostly me!

  32. Any dude who wears a gray suit and brown shoes is a good dude in my book.

    See, the love and hope you see in these photos? We’ve been seeing that in your work for so long now.

    It’s like, on steroids here. And not just anyone would have captured it this way.

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