I believe this is my fourth year and counting (might be fifth) and it’s going to be a heck of a time finding photos to accompany this post – considering that I’m almost officially two years behind in photo editing. That doesn’t mean I haven’t skipped ahead and snuck behind and cut corners and taken shortcuts, and somehow still edited and published photos when I wanted to, but that means there’s still a hidden bulk out there. There’s so many photos unedited and unseen. Maybe it will be a New Year’s goal to get some of those out there. I’d like to do things wholly and completely – and madly in love too.
I always welcome the new year. I’m definitely the type to cry on Christmas Night because “it’s all over.. all of it..” but the over factor is simply not true. After Christmas, we have our closest friends over as house guests. Then the kids dip their feet back into the pool of school and routine, and I do too, only to all get pulled away BACK into vacation mode only two weeks later. We’re going to Florida in mid-January so can we really complain about the impending end of holiday vacation and the -9 degree nights? I suppose we could, but not for too long. The renovations are nearly done, the flights and hotels are booked, the pineapple juice didn’t expire 7 years ago (long story), and the house guests are here, so without further ado..
1 – What did you do in 2017 that you’d never done before?
Guys, I MET Tim Curry. Not only that, but I looked him in the eye and said everything he had meant to me, and how much I wished for his own joy. It was MAGIC. I also attempted to work three jobs during the busy season, and I suppose it was more than an attempt. I saved more money than I had ever thought possible, I achieved blog page views that used to only be the stuff of dreams, and I learned how to diffuse arguments and tension with Cassidy in healthier ways. There were many wins.
2 – Did you keep your New Year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
I think I always do to some extent. I don’t know that I ever make grand resolutions but I make small to large goals. This was the year I wanted to get super serious about blogging. Late 2016 and early 2017 were a bit of a dead zone and it freaked me out. Everything changed around March. I became more than a blogger – I became an Influencer. I worked to the bone to find success and I believe I did, but it’s hard to tell myself that. See, I work and work, then get a break and worry about not working. Totally nutty, me. In terms of exercise, eating better, and drinking more water, they’re works-in-progress.
3 – Did anyone close to you give birth?
My sister-in-law had the adorable Joey in September, and that’s three kids for my brother’s family now. My older sister gave birth in late November, and here’s Emersyn Jane waving at you:
4 – Did anyone close to you die?
Not to make light of it, but Tom Petty’s death really crushed me. And my 5th grade teacher passed away late this year. I have written about her quite a bit in my blog, and I wrote about it here. I have dreams about her as if she hasn’t gone.
5 – What countries did you visit?
Same answer as every year. One day, I’ll have an answer for this. 2017 was not the year.
6 – What would you like to have in 2018 that you lacked in 2017?
Better balance. Like when I’m busy, I’m too busy, but when I’m not busy, I don’t enjoy it. I just worry I’ll never be busy again. So I’d like to have less catastrophizing, if possible. And I’d like to gain back all my feels. Sometimes I can’t stop – writing, crying, feeling, loving. Other times it gets stopped up like a dam. I spent the later part of 2017 not feeling all my feels. That’s uncool. I want to feel my feels. I want to dream my dreams. I’d love to have some patience too!
7 – What date from 2017 will remain etched upon your memory?
mm.. I like November 25th. That’s when my niece was born.
8 – What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Oh man. I already jumped the gun! I stayed sane(ish). My page views have been awesome since March, and I have saved a ton of money. I met Tim Curry!! I’ll say that every year I say that my biggest achievement has been riding a roller coaster, but in truth, it didn’t happen until 2017. I know this because once I rode two roller coasters at Disney, I realized that they felt different than all of the kiddie fair roller coasters I’d ridden. Mainly because they actually felt like something at all.
9 – What was your biggest failure?
Clearly, balance and patience were high up there. I was a nervous mess for some of the year. Obviously that’s going to happen and that’s ok. It’s pretty much embedded in my DNA. It’s likely that I shouldn’t be so hard on myself from it. I let go of my second born, to kindergarten, but I didn’t sail through it like I thought I would. It still freaks me out a lot.
10 – Did you suffer illness or injury?
I didn’t. Unless you count mental illness, but I’m going to give it a hard pass.
11 – What was the best thing you bought?
HELP. I bought help. Virtual Assistance. Virtual Assistants. I needed people to do the work I didn’t want to do and I finally realized it was pretty darn cool to pay people to make you feel pretty great and more relaxed about your work!
12 – Whose behavior merited celebration?
What an odd question. The answer is all of us – fighting for our rights to party. But no, all of us looking to make the world a better place for people – and not one riddled with difficulties and obstacles. You know who you are, morons.
13 – Where did most of your money go?
Into my business, into Disney World, and mostly – into this house! Note: it’s not done. It won’t be done until later in January but we’re using the new bathroom and sleeping in the new bedroom. It feels great but isn’t home yet. We’re getting the floors done and that can’t happen unless we’re out of the house because we’re doing it on two floors. Once that’s done, we can move the bed and decorate and just have a grand old time! So right now, it’s pretty empty but it’s big and gorgeous. The “mannequin” will be Iron Man in our bedroom, but Scarlet calls him Todd. He’s fun to wake up to, don’t you think?
14 – What did you get really, really, really excited about?
We saw two moose in October! I’m pretty darn excited about most things. Breakfast. Popcorn. A good movie. Alone time. A bath. Affection. So when you factor in travel and home renovations and life dreams and Tim Curry, I’m all up in arms!
15 – What song will always remind you of 2017?
There are a few and I won’t overthink it. Only two actually came out in 2017!
16 – Compared to this time last year, are you:
Happier or sadder? A little of both, really. More love and more loss.
Thinner or fatter? I started the year a bit fatter (cute and huggable, really) but I’m ending it thinner.
Richer or poorer? 100% richer, despite just dumping more money than I thought possible into this house.
17 – What do you wish you’d done more of?
RELAX. Like, for real. For Gosh sake, do I even know how?
18 – What do you wish you’d done less of?
WORKING. Yelling. Seething.
19 – Did you fall in love in 2017?
20 – How many one-night stands?
I’m still at a solid zero. There was one incident in the early 2000’s but I don’t think it qualifies.
21 – Who were your best friends?
I use that term heavily – like I’m holding a precious gem on my tongue. I have a lot of best friends. I’m not a one best friend type of girl but I think I’m pretty lucky to have the kids, husband, mom, sisters, pets, and friends I have.
22 – What thing did you do that was meaningful to others?
I think the smaller scale stuff is what carries the weight. I used to think I had to be everything to everyone, but now I think if I can change one person’s day or life, that’s the stuff. So I hope it was in giving more of myself to others.
23 – What were your favorite TV programs?
Curb Your Enthusiasm, Stranger Things, Westworld, Doctor Who, This is Us, Jane the Virgin, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, The Good Doctor, Life in Pieces, Superstore (!! really freaking funny), and I started watching Grey’s Anatomy which is entertaining.
24 – Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
I suppose I do! They’re political people, though, and not in-person people.
25 – What was the best book you read in 2017?
I’m currently reading “Take Me With You” and it’s a slow read but oh so divine. I also loved “Big Little Lies.”
26 – What was your greatest musical discovery?
More Sia. More Bruce Hornsby. More Tom Petty. And the wonders of the Hamilton soundtrack.
27 – What did you want and get?
Quite honestly, work, money, and love.
28 – What did you want but did NOT get?
Our house renovations to end in 2017! More moose.
29 – What was your favorite film of this year?
I honestly don’t know but I went on a work trip to see Bad Moms 2 with my friend Danielle, and it was hilarious.
30 – What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I turned 37 and I was just so happy to be older than 36 – the last age my father was. The birthday was on the quieter side. Every now and then I ask for and get big, but that was 30 and 35. So maybe 40 will be something epic.
31 – What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
My gosh, is this thing still going on? I’m fading out here! I think politically, it could have been better. There were some victories for sure but it was a weird year full of uncertainties and tragic artists’ deaths and weird weather.
32 – What kept you sane?
The thought and fact that there are many people out there operating on or near my frequency.
33 – Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
Even hearing Tim Curry’s voice makes my heart a-flutter! I have to admit that when I see Lin-Manual Miranda on TV, I sit up and take notice. A lot!
34 – What political issue stirred you the most?
How could anyone even choose anymore? Women’s rights. Race. Homophobia and transphobia. A million other things.
35 – Who did you miss?
I miss all of them, always. It’s like a dull roar in my ears.
36 – Who was the best new person you met this year?
I think it’s obvious that it was Tim Curry!
37 – Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2017.
To get to know (more) about what I want and to pay attention to what makes me happy, or doesn’t. When you get to know this more, it becomes easier to ask for help and to ask for what you want. And it becomes easier to let go.
38 – Quote Song lyric that sums up your year:
“Baby, I’m a house on fire
And I want to keep burning
I wanna keep burning”
Janine Huldie says
Yay I made it to end! So much great stuff from 2017 and like you I am excited for another round of Disney in 2018. Only we won’t be returning until July. But still Disney plans truly keep me sane no matter how many months out. Oh and like you totally get sad on Christmas evening. We are definitely twins on that and do much more. Happy New Year now to you and your family <3
I think it would take me until the end of 2018 to finish this. So I’m just gonna go with reading your responses and thinking about what mine would be is just going to have to be good enough for me. The question certainly bring a lot of thought and truth. Can’t lie to yourself after all. Looking forward to Disney always.
Kristi Campbell says
What an awesome amazing list of questions! I hope to do less catastrophizing in the future too. And OMG your dress! I said that before I know but still. Gorgeous. Like you! Here’s to us both worrying less and having people on our frequencies. And OMG Florida in January is genius. It’s so easy to get sad after Christmas and then New Years. Have such fun. I can’t wait to see the photos. The ones in this post are fabulous as always. xoxo
Dr. J says
That was very nice to read, Tamara! Of course I thought of my answers to those questions. I often ask questions, of others and myself. In med school I asked an attending a question. I guess he didn’t like it because his answer was “I’m the one asking the questions here!” You can learn a lot about a person by the way they answer questions. You are a wonderful question answerer.
Tom Petty’s death was a shock for me and my brother. Tom was a Gainesville, Florida boy.
This is a really awesome survey. I think it is a great summary of your year. I ended up accidentally watching the first few minutes of The Good Doctor (I didn’t turn off the tv quickly enough after Dancing with the Stars) and fell in love with it as well! I also binge watched Royal Pains. I think I like tv shows with doctors!
lisa thomson-The Great Escape... says
Such a beautiful post, Tamara! I always enjoy your answers to the big questions. You’re so honest. Congrats on becoming an influencer. My goodness you do put alot of work into the blog and your posts are all so wonderful. Your photography and words could sell anything…not that you’re trying to do that but seriously, I can understand why you’ve reached the “next level” in blogging. You’re very inspiring. Have a happy new year and enjoy! I look forward to more posts and beautiful pics in the new year.
p.s. Brilliant Disguise is one of my favorites!
What a way to recap your 2017. I love that you include the good and the bad. The lesson of paying attention is one that I try to work toward. It is equally important to identity the places where you find joy and disappointment. This allows you to pursue contentment in a purposeful manner. Happy 2018, Tamara.
Can I tell you how much I love that a Hamilton song was in your top picks? “Dear Theodosia” is one of my favorites too – I sing it out loud in my car and I always cry. I’m glad 2017 was a great year for you, Tamara, and I wish you an even better 2018!
Oh, btw – we were just at the Grand Canyon and we saw a huge elk in a parking lot. HUGE. Not quite a moose, but close. I thought of you anyway.
You had a fabulous 2017! So cool that you got to meet Tim Curry. He is pretty spectacular. Good luck with the renovations! We eventually want to get our floors done. And I’m going back to Disney in October.
I loved all of your answers to this. And your niece! Oh, she’s just perfect 🙂 Mazel to your sister… she must be so excited! You had quite a rollercoaster of a year… And it seems that most of the highlights were really stinking incredible. I love that you got to meet Tim Curry!! And your home renovations–they are GORGEOUS! I love the floating mannequin 🙂 I’m hoping to do more travel this year as well (definitely somewhere warm. I’m so jelly you get to soak up sunshine soon!) and balance… it eludes me always. Also, you have been rocking and rolling with the blog and I am SO PROUD of you but I’m glad to hear that you will devote some time to yourself this year <3 I just signed up for an email marketing course today. I'm really excited–I'd love to learn and grow as much as possible this year.
I read this last night, and I thoroughly enjoyed it, so I phone-typed out this long reply……and then WordPress decided it didn’t know who I was an lost my entire comment. I was like “Noooooo!!!” Then of course I tossed my phone on my nightstand and fell asleep. Ha! Excellent summary of 2017. It was a shocking cultural year. Horrifying, actually. I’m still not over the whole alt-right racist thing. So disturbing.
Hoping for better in 2018! Beautiful photos!