What Does It Mean To Possess Personal Freedom?
It’s true that most people in life wish to be free. Not everyone is. But there are gradations to freedom. Some of us even define it differently. For instance, think about the life of a young chef, hoping to become a master one day. She works and she works, for up to fourteen hours each shift, learning from a pretty blunt and overbearing mentor. But she decides to discipline herself to learn the skills of the trade, and soaks up the information like a sponge.
Now, she’s, of course, being paid to do this, and it’s her dream and ambition, but that kind of restrictive lifestyle – always in the kitchen, always working, always sacrificing her social life and potential relationships – some may consider that the antithesis of freedom.
Yet through this effort she becomes stronger, more intelligent and capable, and ultimately is able to own her own restaurant thanks to building a name for herself. She has willfully sacrificed for the freedom most important to her, which was freedom in itself from the beginning. So – how can we define personal freedom? It’s not all living in a commune or hiking across the country or being free from any and all responsibilities.
How can we think about this topic, then? And moreover, what do we do with that information once we’ve reached our conclusions? We’d love to explore this topic with you, as, if nothing else, it’s interesting:
Following A Goal
Often, the journey is worth more than the destination. For instance, when trying to reach your goal weight, you’ll notice that you’ll feel better slowly and incrementally improving your life through great eating habits, working out and getting good sleep than you will thinking ‘wow, I’m finally here.’ This isn’t to say there’s no pleasure in the destination, there is, but it’s also important to consider where that pleasure is found. It’s not always in the result. Anyone who has followed a discipline or art form for long will tell you this.
So, like our prior example of the chef, why not find your own craft, hobby, or passion? For some, the freest they will ever feel is when they start a family, accepting that responsibility, and becoming all the happier for it. We cannot say exactly what will work perfectly for you, but we can stay almost certain that if this process works well for others, it’ll work well for you, too.
Understanding Your Nature
Understanding your personal nature is important. Of course, you can never fully know it. But you can find out, over time, what your interests and beliefs are. This can help you understand what it is you want. You see it in some people – after a lifetime of trying to please other people or do things that they’re not so interested in, they finally see what it is they want. Some might leave a job in the big city to run their own animal sanctuary. Others might decide to move to another country. Others might simply stop partying every week to come home and read.
It’s important to watch yourself and see what most interests you, and how you respond to trying new things. This allows you to explore from your very own vantage point of freedom, because it means you’re never restrained by anything other than yourself. That’s a great life skill to learn – even if some fail to learn it.
Standing Up For Yourself
Standing up for yourself and what you find most important is also a measure of freedom. To consider what this means to those willing to go all the way, visit this website. However, you can also find that standing up for yourself, in the smallest ways, allows you to more easily apply what it is you desire.
Perhaps you are a people-pleaser. You spend most of your time wanting to do right by people to ensure they like you, and to feel like you’re a good person. This has culminated in your boss asking you to stay for overtime four weeks out of the last six. You’re tired of it. You’ve become someone who says ‘yes’ to this request no matter what, and so becoming someone who says ‘no’ is now almost out of your reach. Or so it seems.
But one day, you realize you’re not interested in performing overtime. You’re not gunning for a promotion right now. It’s making you resent your boss, who you otherwise are on good terms with. Honestly articulating why you cannot do so much overtime from here on out, without aggression, can help you move past issues like this and feel more like yourself. This can also help you feel like you’ve achieved a victory here – because you have.
Sometimes, a more forceful ‘no’ is needed. But now you’ve trained this muscle, you’ll be able to apply it more confidently from here on out.
It’s important to stay unapologetic about the things you really shouldn’t feel apologetic for. Perhaps you feel as if you have to justify changing your hair or trying a new style? Why is that? Is it because you feel you’ve overstepped your boundaries in trying something new? Well, who set those boundaries to begin with? You, or someone else?
Staying unapologetic can help you evade unnecessary guilt, and it’ll also help you feel more free in who you are. So long as you don’t harm anyone, or act in an illegal manner, it’s fine for you to explore and do just about anything you wish for in life – to a reasonable degree of course. Are you a 50-year-old bricklayer now wanting to try to learn salsa dancing with a friend? Why should you feel unable to do this? Just because some of your friends might not look at it with an open mind?
When we can overcome these limiting beliefs, we finally understand what freedom is.
With this advice, we hope you can understand how to find your personal freedom, and more importantly, how to apply it.