Maybe cake too. Also in case you couldn’t tell, Cassidy is going to take over my blog again today, for another inspired Ask Away Friday Husbands Post. It may seem like it’s too soon after his last Ask Away Friday post but this one was actually planned before the switch with Christy/Andy. It’s sometimes hard in summer to find open dates for the fun things you want to blog about. Echo and I scheduled this first, and then I couldn’t resist scheduling Christy earlier in the month when I had a rare July opening.
Echo and I have swapped before, but was before I really knew her. You see, we’re Facebook friends now. That’s some serious stuff right there. And I’ve gotten to enjoy her sense of humor and her heart even more since last time. She posts seriously amazing science and art projects for her kids on her blog. And she has the best memes ever. Check her out. You’ll love her. We “met” on twitter way back when, and she bravely volunteered to be my Ask Away Friday partner. One day, when I inevitably go back to Minneapolis, which will actually happen because we have beloved family there, Echo and I will hit the Mall of America.
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#AskAwayFriday was created by the amazing Penny from Real Housewife of Caroline County as a place for us to connect with other bloggers by asking them ten questions to really get to know them. The sky is the limit with the questions you ask!
Tiffany from Mrs. Tee Love Life Laughter,
Christy from Uplifting Families,
Stacey from This Momma’s Ramblings
Amber from Bold Fit Mom
1. You’ve had some great opportunities, working on movies. Who would be your dream director to work with?
First of all, thanks for asking me back…and so soon. I’d go with Joss Whedon. I love the way his brain works, he seems like he knows how to have fun, and I’d be working on Avengers 2. He also wrote The Cabin in the Woods which is an absolute favorite movie of mine so maybe I could talk him into doing another movie in that franchise.
2. You are extremely creative. What is your favorite thing that you have made so far?
Thanks! I think my answer here is going to be my garden. It has 4 quadrants with 4 different entrances that meet in the middle where Scarlet’s Faerie Garden is. The quadrants are: Strawberry Square, Hay Bale Hollow, Blueberry Gulch, and Pallet Place. As far as harvests, it never ends up quite where I pictured it in my head but it’s a very pretty garden. It’s fun to look at.
3. What is your favorite Tamara memory? The one that comes to mind before all others.
The look on her face when she held our kids for the first time.
4. Do you read Tamara’s blog? What is your favorite thing about it?
I do read Tamara’s blog. Always have, always will. I have learned a lot about her from her blog. My favorite thing is when she writes something that resonates deeply with a wide swath of people, even if it doesn’t necessarily resonate with me. I’m always fascinated when an artist or a musician is able to create something which transcends their “niche” audience, achieves escape velocity. It’s easy (easier) to write to your niche. I like it when her writing and photos hit people from all sorts of walks of life. I’m not sure if that’s even a valid measure of “success” but I like to see it happen with certain artists.
5. If you had a blog, what would it be about?
This is a tough question to answer. I think I would only have a blog if a) I felt I had something important to say, b) it had never been done, or c) it was important to my general health to put it out there (or any combination of a, b, c). I love to cook but I don’t feel I have anything to add to the thousands of cooking blogs already out there. I love to travel, but who doesn’t? I love Doctor Who. Could I do a blog about a guy who travels to filming locations of Doctor Who and eats at the local restaurant there? Sure. Without googling it, I bet it’s been done already. So I guess my answer here is: until such day that the aforementioned criteria are met, I have no idea what my blog would be about.
6. Which Doctor is your favorite? I love the Tardis Shed, by the way.
Thanks! It’s #4 – Tom Baker. They always say the first Doctor you see onscreen is “your” Doctor. That’s true in my case. I remember being 4 or 5 years old and we only had 3 channels on tv and of those 3 channels I was only allowed to watch PBS (Sesame Street, Electric Company, Mr. Rogers). I am pretty sure I remember the first time it came on and I thought “this is definitely not like anything I’ve ever seen”. I was immediately drawn to the “reluctant hero” archetype and that figured heavily in my playtime growing up. I was immediately drawn to pretty brunette companions and that figured heavily into my adult playtime. As a young kid, this show often terrified me. The show never talked down to anyone so at a very young age I was grasping some pretty heavy concepts, emotions, and words. I really can’t imagine what would have happened if I hadn’t happened upon it on PBS. Tom Baker had (and still has) a profound impact on my nature.
7. Of course your family and pets come first, but what is your most prized possession? The one item that you consider irreplaceable.
If we are talking inanimate objects, I have a keychain that says “CAPTAIN”. It belonged to someone in my immediate family who was tragically lost at sea. It’s really the only thing I have of his and I have carried it around for a few decades now. When I misplace it, it’s a very particular kind of panic. One day I’m sure I will lose it forever, and I’ll be at peace with that. But for now, it’s still around. I probably wouldn’t even grab it if the house was burning down. I can replace most photos and movie props and artwork. When the Captain keychain is gone, that’s that.
8. How has being a dad changed you? What do you do, now that you have kids, that you never thought you would do?
Jeez, one could write a book here. A couple answers:
A) How has it changed me? I’m less selfish. I’m less reckless. I now only see Phish shows close enough that I can sleep in my own bed afterward. I’m harder on myself. I’m more appreciative of my parents. I’m more patient than I have ever been.
B) “What do you do, now that you have kids, that you never thought you would do?” – Well, it’s already established that I am a kid at heart. Kids have this amazing way they see, feel, and interact with their universe. We all remember that from our own childhood, right? And then life tends to try to replace that with other ways of being as you grow up, or at the very least diminish it. For me, having kids is like having my own personal wormhole back to my childhood. Literally, daily I think to myself “You’d have to be a fucking idiot not to go there”. Why wouldn’t I? Most of the time I do. So to answer your question, I choose to join them in their world and I get to experience that feeling of being a kid again in a way I never did before I had kids. The best is when I am there for hours and I can forget everything but that. I’m sure there will come a day when the opposite is true but 5 years into this ride I can say that having kids makes me feel young. Parenting reminds me of this Grateful Dead lyric:
leap from ledges high and wild,
learn to speak,
speak the wisdom like a child,
directly to the heart”
9. You and Tamara are so good at making things magical for your children. Why is this so important to you?
I just want to blow the roof off my kids’ imaginations. I want to smash the doors into a million pieces. Because eventually somewhere down the road, life and the people in it will try to repair those doors and roofs in an attempt to corral their imagination for no good reason. I want them to have as much time as possible with no limitations in that arena. I think the more you start with, the less of a chance it has to diminish. I also think the universe is a truly magical place to live and has a lot to offer that’s not readily apparent. It’s like an onion – many layers. You can live easily on any layer but I’ve found there is real joy in peeling back layers and seeing what’s out/in there. I think a healthy imagination is a good foundation for that. I also want our kids to believe that anything is possible and “magic” is a fun way to reaffirm that. There will be plenty of years for Scarlet to know her parents got her two kittens but right now and for as long as I can keep it going, she believes that faeries brought her two kittens. The more we say it, the more I believe it.
10. Ten Favorites:
Movie: Raiders of the Lost Ark
Thing to eat: sushi
Animal: my dog
Song: “Do It Again” – The Kinks
Room in your house: Kitchen
Book: The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy
City: San Francisco
Color: TARDIS Blue
Item of clothing you own: I have an ALIENS t-shirt I got in Provincetown, MA in 1986. It still fits and it’s the softest thing ever. I still wear it regularly, conscious of the fact that each time it goes out may be its last. (shirt photo below)
Beverage: (alcoholic or non!) Water
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