Stressing Less? While Doing More!

The irony is not lost on me that during my first Friday of co-hosting Ask Away Friday AND Ladies Only Blog Share Link Party (am I slightly insane?) that the theme of #LOBS is about humor, lightening up and stressing less. Yup. So here I am, co-hosting two linkups. Stay tuned for what will surely be some incredible posts about humor and stress relief. First, we have Ask Away Friday:

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My partner this week is Jenny from Express Bus Mama. And oh dear, Jenny, how did we meet? I am so terrible at remembering these things. I can’t imagine blogging life without each and every one of you, so it’s like you’ve all been here. Jenny is a wife, a mother, an express bus commuter, and in the awesome pursuit of happiness. She writes about motherhood, balancing working with motherhood, and learning how to figure things out along the way. Be sure to check out her answers to my questions HERE.

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And now, my answers to her questions:

1. I’m slightly obsessed with long hair and won’t be cutting mine anytime soon. Would you ever go short? Like Audrey Hepburn short?

Oh my god, no. I will never say never, but I have a lot of doubts of that ever happening. My mom always said she’d be the old lady with the long, flowing hair, and she’s only in her 60’s and she DID chop it off. I honestly cannot see it happening with me unless I absolutely had to cut my hair for a really great cause. For the right price. I don’t know. I love my hair long and flowing.

And I will never get bangs. I am not someone who can rock bangs. (This photo is from a mom’s night out.)

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2. What surprised you most about being a parent?

I suppose it’s how well they ground me. My kids make me less anxious in the ways I was always anxious before, and of course, more anxious in all of the heavy heart, letting go, parenting ways. Life can make me anxious, and every little change they go through might be the near-death of me throughout life. I do worry about that. Every now and then I realize that I will always step up for them. It will not be easy, but I will fight everything for them. And it pays to learn how to ask for help better.

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3. Northampton is such a fun, eclectic town. What’s your favorite part about living there?

It was such a great place to move to after San Francisco. Both SF and Northampton have their own big PRIDE parades! And both have bison within five miles of my home, should I want to see bison. (strange but true) I love that Northampton is a small city, but can feel so country. I find it odd if I go to the co-op and I don’t run into someone I know. I love raising kids in this green land of valleys, foothills and peaks, fresh, local, organic food, & an emphasis on parenting, animal love and education…I could go on.

If you’re ever in the area, I encourage you to come visit me! We have a fantastic downtown and some amazing ice cream.

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4. You and your husband are an adorable couple. Describe your perfect date.

Thanks! I think we’re about to have it, actually. Our sixth anniversary is this weekend. When we first met at JFK Airport late at night, and after getting lost somewhere on Long Island (Hi, to my Long Island friends!) and then winding up in western Mass, where I had never been before, and then sleeping/eating for two days and driving to Maine to off-road and see a moose? Yeah. That. I like the serendipity and the magic. I like walking into cafes that are playing a song I had meant to teach him. I think my perfect date with him is driving to some GREAT music, looking for moose, stopping to eat great food, and spending our nights at a bed & breakfast or lodge. With a jacuzzi. And lots of desserts. Camera is mandatory and sleeping is optional.

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(I probably shouldn’t have to point this out, but I’m pregnant in the above photo.)

5. Your writing is beautiful, with an incredibly intimate feel. Who is your writing inspiration? Any particular authors?

I really love Jodi Picoult. Sometimes it can get boring and it seems like all of her books follow the exact same formula, but she has mixed it up a lot in the last few years. I’m awed and inspired by her thorough research. Each book she writes is an incredible and long process. She is so diligent and disciplined and I would like to be more like her when I grow up. Or you know..NOW.

6. Continuing on that note, what life changing book have you read?

I was really taken by “The Lovely Bones” and “The Time Traveler’s Wife” was a whole mental/emotional/physical experience for me. HOW did she write that? I mean…how? It was brilliant, beautiful, moving, thorough, heartbreaking. And fulfilling.

7. What are your tips for the newbie blogger? What’s your biggest no no? many. Self-hosted WordPress, yes. Good images or free sources for good images. Connect. Connect. Connect. Link up your social media accounts. Pay attention to all, within reason. Be consistent. Have passion. A big no no would be to steal an idea, sentence, thought, topic, prompt and not give credit to where you saw it. That makes me queasy when I see it.

8. I was born too late. I’d be much happier if it was 1952. How about you? What time period could you see yourself living in?

Oh, I always thought it would be amazing to be in San Francisco (or anywhere) during the 60’s or 70’s. I really wonder what I would have been like. That time period always really speaks to me in a lot of ways, and in other ways – not at all. If I could live in the 60’s/70’s, I think Cassidy would fit in well too!

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9. I think this one speaks for itself: freshly baked bread or chocolate? What’s your poison?

Well, chocolate! I don’t really love bread but I suppose when it’s freshly baked with high quality ingredients, and it’s melt in your mouth good with sweetened butter all in there..well.. I could be a believer. I have a huge sweet tooth and I’m always surprised that other people don’t have it, and I get worried that mine is so intense. My grandmother is 100 and she has a bigger sweet tooth than I do and she credits eating ice cream daily to her longevity. I’m serious – it was in the newspaper. And my mom has a big sweet tooth and she’s in great health. So maybe our bloodstreams are made for it or something. And also, I do eat a lot of vegetables and lean proteins. I think the sweet tooth is more in theory than practice. If Cassidy gets me a good chocolate bar to hide in my desk, it will be there for 1-2 weeks. I don’t consider that overeating. I also have a major thing for potatoes.

10. If you could change one thing about your life as it is right now, what would it be?

Without a doubt, I would eliminate all or at least half of the anxiety in my life. It’s just..stupid. I know I could BE so much more, and do so much more. When the anxiety leaves, as it sometimes does for years at a time, I am unstoppable. I am brave. When it’s here, I am so weak and afraid.

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  1. Great swap! I have had short hair and hated it…I look like a boy! LOL! The shortest I will ever cut mine would probably be just below my shoulder blades…sometime long hair does get kind of heavy. I could so see you and Cassidy as hippies! LOL! And I am so with ya! I can’t wait until our local farmer’s market open up this summer…I am so looking forward to some amazing Amish made treats…okay and some fresh, locally grown fruits. That sounds like a wonderful date night! I love just driving with the hubby…it really allows special time to connect with one another. Happy Anniversary to you both! Have an amazing weekend!

    1. I remember when my sister was little, my grandmother and mother bribed her to cut her as short as my brother’s. I never really knew why they did it. She didn’t want it. I don’t even think my mom wanted it. She was miserable. It was weird. Granted, people pull it off beautifully daily, but I just remember her unhappiness!
      Happy Ask Away Friday Weekend, my friend!

  2. I just to have to say (AGAIN) how much fun it was to hang out with you all yesterday!…and also – baby butt baby butt baby butt!! 🙂

    1. Baby butt, baby butt! It was so funny on the way home because Des kept saying it and then Scarlet would say, “No, Des! You can’t say it! It’s ABOUT you!” And then I would say, “Yes, he can say it!” And it would be a chorus.
      So thank your boys for that one! It was hilarious.
      And it was a great day!

  3. Man, you got lost on Long Island and we could have totally met. Seriously, wish we would have been at least we are cooking something up now for this summer. Very excited about this and cannot wait now!! 🙂

  4. Happy Anniversary! I have gone from short to long hair all my life. Right now I’m in the long phase, but contemplating cutting it.

    believe it or not – I would probably choose the fresh bread over chocolate – lol

    Have a great day/weekend 🙂

    1. I really don’t think I’d look good with short hair, but I’ve never tried. When I was four I got a bob and it’s never been that short again! Maybe when I was born but even then, I had a ton of curls!
      Fresh bread is sounding delicious right now..
      Happy Weekend, Sue!

  5. Love your answers, all of them. Sometimes, I really think we are related somehow & we just haven’t figured it out yet, TOO many likenesses….LOL!

    I Have got to launch my #LOBS post & will after I make my “get K to school” panic drive in a few minutes… 🙂
    XO, Sweet T! ~A~

  6. I love who you combine two parties and I can barely keep up with one. Always love hearing how you and your husband met. I need to go back and read all of your amazing stories on it. Always love stopping in and seeing your gorgeous pictures!!!!

    1. I could have split them into two posts but I honestly couldn’t even handle that this weekend! It’s anniversary weekend!
      Always awesome when you stop in!

  7. Thank you for giving such awesome answers to my questions. You’re amazing! I’m glad to find out about the hair. Beautiful hair takes so long to grow out cutting it off is a shame. I’d love to live in the 1960’s too. That’s when the long hair really took root. Also, wonderful, very useful blogging tips. Have a wonderful anniversary weekend!

    1. Well thank you VERY MUCH for these questions. I loved each one.
      I had my hair cut fairly short when I was 22 or so and I would stare longingly at long hair for months. It was sad. And they probably thought I was creepy!
      After that haircut, I decided to proceed with caution ever since.

    1. That’s a huge draw for me! And I’ve always wanted to go back. And I need to meet your purple bunny. (or you know..YOU!)
      I’ll try to stay away from bison but I can’t promise the same for moose! I’m bringing my zoom lens..

  8. Seriously- do you SLEEP? You are freaking amazing!! And by the way- your last reply to my last comment made me cry… and I just wanted to come back here and ramble on and on about how much I love and adore you and SO get your anxious ways… and I know they rise through the never ending UNpredictable turns in our roads- but have you ever noticed that sometimes our anxiety isn’t hindering us, but instead it kinda grows new layers of depth for us from which to pull from- experience our art and life and window into our worlds. Does that make sense? I haven’t gulped enough of my coffee down- still a bit comatose so it may not.


    LOVE the interview!!! Can’t imagine you cutting that gorgeous head of hair. 60’s would be AMAZING. Love your date and your love with Cassidy. LOVE your gorgeous red skirt- and tiny waste and light up smile… ETC.

    Get your BUTT over to my blog asap. I want it ALL!!!!!!!! your photography, your anything and everything about your business, your writing, YOU. Your rich light- comes in all ways. SO pick whatever you want. And let me know what would be a good date for you- I know youz a busy girl! 😉

    1. Last night I went to bed at 11! That’s good for me! I wasn’t even tired but the dog was so adorable in bed that I had to join her. (oh, and Cassidy was too)
      I love thinking about anxiety helping us grow new layers. I do admit that after I get through a particularly trying time with it, I feel stronger than ever. And more ready for the next time. If that makes sense.
      I’ll have to remind myself to get to your blog with a good date for writing about myself! It may be hard for me!

  9. Hi Tamara! I love how your camera is mandatory but sleeping is optional…a true photographer! 😀 I love chocolate but I thin kI would definitely need to go with the freshly baked bread. OMGoodness warm and buttery…delish! Ok, I’m making myself hungry…LOL

    1. It’s true – the way that bread sounds.. I was almost a goner last night! The only bread we had in the house was crappy sliced store-bought bread. Ick!

  10. As always, LOVE learning more about you with the Ask Away Friday Q&A! And I’m with you on bangs. NEVER. EVER! For many reasons but mostly because I’m lazy and need all of my hair to go up in a ponytail for running (and approximately 99% of the rest of the time!).

  11. I love that picture of a young Scarlett at Pride! So freakin cute 🙂 And your meandering date-drive up through New England to see moose in Maine?! So cool! Your description of the Noho area sounds like you could be talking about the Hudson Valley…man, only what, two hours away? I need to get over there! 🙂
    I’ve had my hair both nonexistent (shaved) and very long- it was the longest it’s ever been when I cut it about a month ago, and while I love the length being gone, I’m still not that happy with it. I need to learn to be more specific and assertive when talking about what I do and don’t want. But your hair looks so effortlessly beautiful!

    1. I drive through the Hudson Valley sometimes on a way I get home to very western New Jersey and it’s always so beautiful! Yes, I would say it’s two hours away. And it seems similar in culture!
      Thank you about my hair – it’s always effortless, but mostly from laziness! It’s just hard for me to get really into hair styling so I’m just lucky that sometimes my lack of effort comes across nicely!
      If you ever come to town, let me know! If you ever want to be Ask Away Friday partners, let me know!

  12. Love this! I really got to know you better.

    I waffle between long and short hair. I go long for a while and then I go super short, go long again, then short.

    Happy Anniversary! Enjoy the time together!

    Wishing you a wonderful weekend.

    1. Honestly, I just don’t know that my hair is meant to be short. It usually rebels! When it’s long, it’s easier. It’s strange! Scarlet seems similar! Des has a big mop of straight hair and I don’t know where that came from.
      Have a great weekend, Jennifer!

  13. Wow, hosting two linkups…I was wondering how you were going to do this. You did it quite well! I go between longer and short hair (my hair is never really long). I think the problem is I really love short hair, but my hair doesn’t cooperate. So I’m meant to have longer hair. I cut it off and try and always grow it back. Oh well, it’s hair right? I always tell my hair stylist do whatever you want, it’s hair. It’ll grow back if I don’t like it. 🙂

    1. Thanks! I kind of wondered if I should spread them into two posts, but I’m quite terrible at doing that.
      My hair looks better longer – always has. So it becomes easier for me to manage when it’s longer, which is weird.
      I wish I had that casual attitude about it growing back!

  14. I love that red skirt! And Scarlet’s hair in the pigtails – oh my goodness! I forgot to tell you I just finished Me Before You and LOVED it. My heart was aching so many times during that book, I was up until 2 and 3 AM for 4 nights in a row to finish it. It was so good.

    I had read a lot of Jodi Picoult early on and I just lost it after 19 Minutes, I just didn’t like that book (and there was another – a graphic novel maybe? I can’t remember exactly) and stopped liking her stuff. Some of it did seem so similar. We grew up with (not IN) an Amish community in our city so at first I found her very interesting. You are making me think maybe I’m missing something?

    I agree with you for sure on the hair – I wouldn’t cut it either.

    1. I totally wore that same outfit to a wedding, as well as a mom’s night out. Whatever works! And my hair always looks the same, whether on a random Saturday morning or at a wedding. Maybe I need to switch it up!
      “Me Before You” is coming out as a movie. I wonder if I’ll be able to handle it!
      And I didn’t like “19 Minutes” at ALL but I heard her read from it live, so that helped. Some of her books hit me harder than others. I generally like the weirder ones.

  15. See, I’d totally pick freshly baked bread over chocolate. While I like good chocolate every now and then, I really don’t have a sweet tooth. At all. Love that photo of Cassidy with the long locks!

    1. That’s what I’m talking about! Why do I have such a fierce sweet tooth? I guess I feed the beast!
      I love that Cassidy photo too! I don’t even know who took it, but it wasn’t me. It was way before my time.

  16. Thank you Thank you Thank you for bring AAF back! I will be participating May 16th Too much stuff going on with trips and birthdays! BUT I will continue to follow the group until then! XOXOX

  17. Happy early anniversary! I hope you guys have a wonderful weekend. I’ve got a question for you about your hair. Do you straighten it? Who does Scarlet get the super curls from?

    1. I don’t straighten it but I used to when my perm from 8th grade hadn’t grown out yet. It grew out my junior year of high school! People, don’t get perms.
      I was born with raging curls. So was my sister. Hers really stayed that way and mine grew into waves. Scarlet’s hair followed suit with mine. Now I’m amazed at how curly it USED to be.
      So if my hair naturally dried it would look like a messy version of the above. It definitely needs a few brush throughs while drying!

  18. Oh you cannot cut your hair. I forbid it. If I could rock long hair I would. It is so fine and flat…but I have bangs 🙂
    I love that you say that your kids ground you. Exactly that.
    Lovely bones shook me to the core. I think I read it in two days. They made a movie about it but I didn’t care for it too much. The book evoked more emotion.
    I think that I’d be an 80’s child but in my teen years. For some reason, I think that I would appreciate the hair bands more. Yes…I dig hair bands.

    1. Bangs on you are great! Bangs on me are an electrocuted-looking hot mess.
      No bangs on me can look the same.
      I never saw the movie version – I was always too afraid about it!

  19. Rea and I were discussing how sad it was that AAF had to say goodbye, I met so many wonderful bloggy friends through this link up! I’m glad you guys kept it alive! I will definitely link up again one of these days. We haven’t had the chance to swap yet, you know. 🙂 And you are the only one who can get away with hosting 2 parties at the same time with such ease!

    1. It’s so hard to say goodbye! As Boyz II Men sing. Am I dating myself here?
      Whenever you’re ready, you just send me some dates and we will swap. It will be like magic.

    1. I was so impatient when it happened for me years ago. I would (creepily) stare at long-haired women. I wanted it back SO badly. And I haven’t changed my mind since! That was over ten years ago.

  20. The 60’s and 70’s would be a great time to experience all the changes that were taking place in America. I think it would have been great to experience the March on Washington. Scarlet is so cute in the picture above with the two pony tails. You guys are a beautiful family.

    1. Thank you! Eventually her hair got too long for the pony tails and it looked pretty funny.
      I think the 60’s and 70’s would both shock me and inspire me.

  21. I had short hair for YEARS…and once it’s short the only thing you can do is go shorter…so I did. At one point my hair was kind of shaved half way up the back. I LOVED IT…but I am a hair changer person. The minute I get my hair one way I am already scheming to cut it or grow it out. Such is my lot in life. Of course if I had your hair, I’d be thrilled and never change it! But I am SO DAMN WITH YOU on the bangs…no. I had bangs in the 80s and let’s just say that was a decade best not replicated ever again!! –Lisa

    1. That actually sounds interesting! My 80’s (and 90’s, 2000’s) bangs were quite dreadful. They were either out of control or pointy. Like a witch!
      God, I’m glad those days are over.

  22. I don’t have a partner this week but I’m definitely linking up on AAF next week and the next. I love reading Q&A posts! 🙂 Would love to swap with you some time! I find it really amusing that moose has been a part of your life. And your perfect date is really perfect! I’ve always imagined how your town/city feels like based on your photos and I really like the way you described it.

    I can remember myself with bangs when I was in gradeschool and I didn’t like it. I had side bangs 2 years ago and it was ok but I didn’t like something that could block my eyesight. Haha.

    1. Oh no! Are you part of the Facebook group? If not, I’ll add you. That way you can find partners easily. Let me know when you can swap! Or I should let you know.. I have May 30th and on after that!
      Bangs do block eyesight! You’re so right.

  23. I’m with you on The Time Traveler’s Wife – that book just haunted me. Lovely Bones too. I’m in awe of writers who can get in my head and stay there for so long. And just for giggles, will you show me a photo of you with bangs? I’d love to have them to cover the lines on my forehead, but curly hair and bangs just doesn’t work, unless it’s the 80s.

    1. That’s the problem. I’ve always had wavy hair and wavy bangs are terrible! I’m sure I used to crimp them too. I was so awesome.
      I’ll have to get my mom to scan some photos, but she’s here this weekend visiting us. Boo! Stay tuned, though! There are tons.

  24. Happy Happy Anniversary! What a beautiful time of year to get married! I had to dig back many months for a stress-free related post for #LOBS, but I found one that sorta relates. And it has manatees.

    I went for bangs a few months ago and can’t decide if I’m into them or not. I have pretty crazy thick unmanageable hair, so any kind of help is a Godsend.

    Have an awesome wedding celebrating!!

    1. Manatees! I can’t wait to see! Although I may have seen it. It rings a bell.
      I think I don’t have the hair for bangs or the face for short hair, and yet, people rock those things every day.
      Thank you for the good wishes!!

  25. I’m with you on the 1970s. I could have lived then (well, I did, as a kid.) You really should have told us more about Northampton’s restaurant scene.

    1. Well it has ice cream! What more do you need?!
      Just kidding. It’s funny because the subject did come up today on Tiffany’s blog. Her AAF partner asked her where she’d take her if she were to visit Tiffany’s town. It had to be a non-chain. And Tiffany answered it so gracefully by saying that her whole town has chain restaurants but that she’d cook her something homemade in her non-chain home kitchen! That’s grace.
      My town is the opposite. We do have chains all along one small highway but the downtown area is mostly small and independent businesses. Bakeries, outdoor cafes, and every kind of weird food you can imagine. Since I have the palate of a five-year-old, I didn’t feel equipped to say, but let’s just say that this food will make you cry. In a good way.

  26. I don’t think I’ll ever have short hair either. I like my long hair. Plus, it’s super thick, so if I cut it short, it puffs out. In a scary way.

    I LOVE Jodi Picoult. The Storyteller was amazing, as well as House Rules. That one told of a boy with autism, and it was so much like my Tommy. I teared up. I’m about to read Salem Falls. I’m slowly reading her older books. I think I’ve read all her recent ones. Finally.

    1. We probably have similar hair! I actually have to get mine texturized (thinned) during haircuts. And it gets so hot in the summer!
      I know the book you’re talking about! The boy with autism who did NOT kill his tutor but was arrested for it? That was fantastic.

  27. Me again! I forgot to say that The Lovely Bones freaked me out. I constantly tell my kids to never go down into a secret area with a stranger. I mean, yikes. That was a tough book to read, being a mother.

  28. I think old ladies with super long hair are the COOLEST! 🙂 I love them! The lovely bones…oy…the movie almost got it…almost. I love the pic of the two of you and baby scarlet with her famous thinking stare.

    1. Almost.. hmm.. I never took the chance!
      I’d love to be an old lady with long hair! I think it might happen. It will be white by then!

  29. I love when you answer these, Sister Wife, because I learn something new about you. Two of my FAVORITE books of all time are “The Lovely Bones” and “The Time Traveler’s Wife.” Like for real! Also, your town seems so cool and hahah to noting that you were pregnant in your photo. If you hadn’t I’d have totally thought you just had a balloon up your shirt! 😉

    1. Wow. And what other books does my favorite sister wife love? I know I loved “The Dive From Clausen’s Pier” and “Good In Bed”. And Sweet Valley Twins, Book #42. “It Can’t Happen Here.”

  30. I’m not a bread lover to the extreme but there are really good ones. Like challah! You don’t like challah? Funny that you identify with the 60s and 70s. I’ve thought about that and I can’t seem to figure it out. 🙂 Having a family definitely keeps you grounded and on task. So much changes when you become a parent for sure! I will have to agree with you about the long hair. I love my long hair too.

  31. I had the same reaction with “The Time Traveler’s Wife.” It was one of those rare books that had an emotional impact on me. I was genuinely sad when I was done reading it.
    I too have a massive sweet tooth, you’re not the only one! But I actually think I would have a harder time giving up bread.
    Enjoy your date with Cassidy 🙂

  32. Love your hair! I always thought I would have long hair forever. If you have a really good hair dresser who you trust with your life like I do, I asked her to tell me when/if I needed to go shorter…I’m 54 and we did so about 10 years ago…maybe less but I’m in the ballpark there. And now the deal is to tell me when I need to go gray and stop coloring. I don’t want to be old trying to look young to the point that I am old trying to look young. There’s a difference. I can still pull off looking younger than I am without being old and trying to look young. Make sense? I think you have to be here…where I am…old, trying to look younger. 🙂 And I have a HUGE sweet tooth too (chocolate, of course!).

    1. My haircutter asked me if I’d let it go gray or dye it if it started to change. I said, “Not at 33! I’d dye it!” And she was surprised! Maybe she thinks I’d be all natural. I suppose I really don’t know!
      I totally get you here, though.
      And I love that you have a sweet tooth too!

  33. I’m so happy that AAF lives to see another day, but wow… you must be a little crazy to take all this on! I was surprised to hear you and Cassidy were only celebrating your 6th anniversary, you seem like the type of couple that’s been together forever. Congrats to you both and have a wonderful anniversary date!

    1. That’s nice! But yup – only six years. We’ve known each other for ten years this summer, actually. So we may do something moosey for our ten years too.

  34. Oh, looking for moose is fun! Do you think I’m the only reader of yours who has also looked for moose? When I was in Anchorage, my cousin sent us on a wild moose hunt. He said he saw a bull with a big rack along one of Anchorage’s main roads, so we drove up and down but never did see the moose. We saw other ones to make up for it, though. 🙂

    1. I don’t think you’re the only one, but one of the few!
      Alaska is my ultimate dream. I want to go somewhere where seeing them is a sure thing. There are definitely places in Maine like that.

  35. I get confused just checking out more than one blog party, so hosting two at once must be testing to keep up with.

    The answer and question part was interesting, it’s nice to read what other peoples thoughts and feelings are. I envy those women who can wear really short hair and look great. My hair is curly and has a mind of it’s own, so I used to want it short, until I tried it and it really didn’t suit me. I also tried straightening my hair which looked bad too, so now I am content with my longish, unruly hair and would never dream of cutting it short again!

    I also think that Jodi Picoult is an excellent writer, for along time I avoided her books, I am not sure why. But after having read My Sisters Keeper I was hooked. As you pointed out she must really do her her research.

    I am adding a bowl of ice cream along side our five a day list, that’s for sure. If it’s good enough for your 100 year old Grandmother then it’s good enough for me!

    1. It can be tough to have curly hair short! Then it bounces up and up! I used to have curls when I was a little girl, but now they’re waves. Waves that would not look good short!
      Glad you hear you’re hooked on Jodi Picoult now!
      And ice cream – it really is the good stuff.

  36. Cut the Crown of Glory?? Never. Again. I felt like an 8 year old tomboy in cutoffs and freckles again. Although I did beat up the boy who kept singing “speckled frog” at me. 🙂
    I thought going shorter when I had my first child was the way to go — So Not the Way.
    I love our small town too. It’s not the smallest town ever, and it is only 20 minutes from the city. It feels like the best of both worlds. We had a coyote in the neighbourhood the other night — and no one freaks out at that.
    But a Starbuck’s coming to town? Heck no! We can’t allow that. LOL

    1. HAHA! Scarlet JUST taught me the “speckled frog” song. It sticks in your head, doesn’t it?
      I haven’t see a ton of photos of you but I’m having trouble picturing you with very short hair.
      We had coyotes the other night too! My dog was racing around in the middle of the night. She did not enjoy their song for us.
      Maybe they were singing “speckled frog”?
      I’m cracking up about people freaking out more about Starbucks than coyotes. Sounds about right.

  37. I have changed my hair so many times! I’ve had young girls ask their moms why a “boy is in the girls bathroom” and aunts ask my sisters to “introduce” me “to your friend.” My hair has never been this long and now that it is, I can’t imagine cutting it! Long hair is what I’ve been missing my whole life! Though I do want bangs…OH HOW I WOULD LOOOOVE to see SF in the 60’s. Beatniks everywhere, Ginsberg, Burroughs, Kerouac…those are my people. PS. I’m adding ice cream to the bottom of my food pyramid.

    1. What?? You need to share photos. You are a beautiful woman – there is no way anyone could mistake you for a boy??
      Mine was a bit longer in college but it’s still super long and has been since high school, except for one brief chop (hack) job in my 20’s.
      Never again!!
      And ice cream should be the top of your food pyramid too. And in the middle.

  38. Oh, I tried to read “The Time Traveler’s Wife”, but I saw the movie first then just couldn’t bear to read to the end. I haven’t read any Jodi Picoult either. Now I feel like a bad bookworm 🙂

    1. Wow, I’ve never seen the movie! I wonder if they end it differently..
      If you ever read it, you’ll have to let me know! I don’t have the guts to find out on my own.
      You are not a bad bookworm for missing ONE author! You read tons.

  39. I just cut my hair at a long angled bob a couple months ago from having it as long as yours and it’s the WORST! This is the second time I’ve done this and I always regret it a week later. 🙁 Someone needs to stop me! We’re kindred hippies in spirit. 🙂 The 60’s is totally the time period I’d want to live too. I currently have The Time Traveler’s Wife and Lovely Bones on my bookshelf and can’t bring myself to read them b/c I know I’ll cry! Maybe I’ll try now. 🙂

    1. Wow, you have those books and you’ve never read them! I’m kinda jealous. They’ll never be new again for me.
      I totally cried at “Me Before You” and “The Light Between Oceans.” A lot of things make me teary-eyed, but few things make me actually sob. Those two did!

  40. I love your answers, as always they are honest and from the heart. So I’m going to be honest now, I can’t stop thinking about bread. I’m going to go have some now. Also, after over 15 years of being together my husband finally tells me that he hates bangs. Don’t know why he held onto that for so long but now I’m growing mine out.

    1. Did you get the bread? What kind of bread? I hope it was very good bread.
      I’m kinda laughing about the bangs thing! Why didn’t he tell you that earlier???

  41. I’ve done all hair lengths. I loved it when it was long, but I also love it when it’s short. It’s in between now, sitting on my shoulders, and I’m at that crossroads where I need to decide – grow it out so I can look all ethereal and 70’s hippie chick like when the twins are born? Or cut it short again to look just hip and chic? Help me!

    1. Well I just got spoiled by seeing a recent photo of you – crosswords or no – it looks great!
      And so do you with your twins belly and yellow shirt.
      I don’t have a good face for bangs or short hair. So many do, though!
      I wish I could help you!! I always say grow, grow, let it grow.

  42. I’ve always wanted long hair like yours…but once it gets that long it drives me crazy!!! Plus I don’t have that dark rich color like yours 🙂

    1. I love your hair color! I only worry with my dark hair that it will go gray early and then I’ll have to dye it but I’ll never be able to match it perfectly again. I have certain highlights and whatnot. Oh well. I’ll have to find out sooner or later!

  43. I am also a long hair addict! I cut mine short once to donate to Locks of Love. Was glad I did something to help others, but have to be honest that I hated my hair short and don’t think I could do it again. Does that make me vain? 😉
    And The Time Traveler’s Wife is one of my all time favorite books. Absolutely love it!!
    Hope you had an amazing anniversary weekend!! 🙂

    1. Not vain at all. Just the fact that you cut and donated your hair makes you extremely thoughtful!
      Thank you for your good wishes! It was a really nice weekend and I’m so sad it’s over.

  44. I’ve done Halle Berry short and it was a lot more maintenance than regular hair – Don’t be fooled by the length, short hair doesn’t always go in the direction you want it to. Especially if you have thick coarse hair like I do. It’s like a lions mane! I have to agree kids keep you grounded and help you stick to a schedule – I’m also less anxious in the scheme of things when my son is around me, especially at night he produces a sense of calm. It’s ironic. I wouldn’t be born in any other era – too far back and I’d be pickin’ plantains in freakin’ Dominican Republic or being segregated here in VA. I’m good. 90’s was the ish. Kinda late to the partay again chaperoning kids on Friday wore me out then paintball yesterday – seriously doing nothing today was highly called for. 🙂 Hope you’re having a great weekend Tamara! -Iva

    1. I knew something felt like it was missing – a comment from YOU! Always know you can be late to the party and it’s always welcomed! Friday posts are really all weekend posts, and I just love your comments any which way.
      Paintball..sounds painful. I hope you didn’t get hit too hard.
      My hair is like a lion’s mane too, on a good day. On a bad day.. electrocution?

      1. Good to know my comments are missed 😛 It’s been a heck of a weekend but couldn’t let the weekend pass without catching up on your blog -oh no no! Paintball isn’t that bad, it does hurt, but in the moment you don’t think about it. I think it’s just fine.. besides I’m very good at hiding so I didn’t get hit that much. 🙂 Yeah my hair is a crazy right now – need to straighten and curl it but that will be for later tonight when energy has recharged. I forget how exhausting 1st grade boys are omg their energy! I was pooped by the time the trip was done >.<

  45. The warm out of the oven and melting sweetened butter bread you mentioned? THAT. That is why I love bread. And biscuits and rolls. Like, almost as much as chocolate. Almost. 🙂
    Hope you have had a great weekend. Happy Anniversary to you and Cassidy!

    1. Yes! REAL bread. The stuff from the supermarket is so gross. Bread shouldn’t be like that.
      Biscuits and rolls. YES. With lots of butter.
      And thank you!

  46. Awesome questions and answers.

    I am not a fan of super short hair either. When I do cut it, I typically leave it at my shoulders so that I still can wear it in a ponytail if I want too. A year ago, I managed to have enough hair to donate to Locks of Love and it felt awesome to be able to give a young lady my hair to boast her self esteem.

    1. That is so awesome and inspiring! I have thought about doing that. I have good hair for it – long and thick and it’s never been dyed.

  47. What a great swap! She asked some really awesome questions and I love the pictures you included! I could never rock bangs either. My hair is thin and bangs on me look like Homer Simpson’s comb over.

  48. i have done both short AND long hair, and I think i do like long hair better! 🙂 and i’m reading this AFTER i read your moose post, so when that perfect date question came up, I was thinking, heyyyy I bet I know what she’ll say. haha

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