Over The Top.

Today, my little girl will turn five.

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It’s probably no secret that I’ve been out of sorts lately. I can’t put my finger on when I transitioned from stable to unstable, but I never quite recovered from the excitement of June’s birthdays and graduations. And from BlogU and my grandmother passing away. It seemed like everything happened all at once and I was so strong for so long, and lately, I have been giving in a little. Sometimes I just wake up and think of “Another Tricky Day” by The Who. “Another tricky day, Another gently nagging pain.”

It’s another day of being up too early, and of still not being sure of the kittens. They’re adorable and cuddly and sweet, but everything else about them is not for me. I don’t know if anything that uses a litterbox, has claws, and wakes up too early could ever really be for me. They are cute, though. And Des is very cute, but he spends a lot of time whining. Having five dependents needing something from me about two to three hours earlier than I’m honestly comfortable being awake, is.. well, it’s trying.

And it’s so hard to plan ahead feeling the way I feel but I try because it’s summer and usually in the summer I’m unstoppable. This year, I just feel stoppable. Too stoppable. I even made a fantastic meme to describe how I feel lately. That was fun.

However. We threw Scarlet a wonderful birthday party and I was fine and it was fun and her birthday itself, today, will be fun too. And at 4:55pm on the dot, I will remember every detail about her birth and I will potentially break into sobs at the fragility, not necessarily of life, but of time. I remember it all so clearly, and I remember the fill-ins from the past five years.

And we have lived. Together.

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And we will live some more. Together.

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The party prep started early, but maybe not early enough as there was a lot of last minute scrambling. The essentials, however, were secured. A bubble machine, a cotton candy machine, and of course – a gigantic, ridiculously large bounce house.

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The night before the party, the kids could be found in the bounce house until nightfall.

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Cassidy was putting up his hand-drawn, hand-painted and hand-cut Rapunzel tower at 3:00am.

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Scarlet’s reaction to the tower the next morning was priceless.

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The grandparents arrived early. The decorations were set. The garish princess cake was purchased.

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The face painter (a friend), was set up, and then it was party time.

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Cotton candy machine = big hit. Who knew?

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And then, my favorite part.

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Over the top for a birthday party? Well, maybe. It was over the top in that totally Bowman way in which nothing else will do.

Make no mistake about it. The Bowmans throw a mean party.

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  1. Ok, now I seriously am sorry we had a family portrait yet again on this same day. seriously from the bounce house right to the cake, the party was perfect and seriously Scarlet’s smile said it all. I am really just so shell shocked myself and if it makes you feel better I am behind you on two animals, but still having moments of doubts with a puppy and two whiny girls all day long this summer. So believe me when I say you aren’t alone and you can always message me if need (at least it sounds like we can commiserate together on this). Also, just got to end this with the biggest 5th birthday wishes for Scarlet now!!! πŸ™‚

    1. I am sorry too! Your girls would have had such a blast. And you! Next year? I think I saw one of the photos – looked really nice. Of course I wish I lived closer and could do the job but hey, one day.
      Two whiny girls and a puppy, yes! Add in two kittens and you don’t even like cats, and it’s pandemonium!

  2. You did a great job! Of course, it’s no surprise, you do throw a lovely party. You know what else you did well? Girlie, you chose a great man to marry! Also, next time I have a birthday I want you to throw it and there HAS TO BE a cotton candy machine.

    1. The face painting was very serendipitous! I’d keep running into her around town and we have similarly aged daughters, plus mutual friends. So we did a wonderful trade. She is so talented.

    1. I can’t believe he made that! And he even thought of the flowing hair himself. I said my brain doesn’t work that way. Not to knock my brain, but it doesn’t work that way.

    1. It really is a big year, isn’t it? I’m really feeling it this year, more than ever.. Well one really hit me too. Ah, these kids.

  3. Happy Birthday, Scarlet!

    Those pictures of Scarlet over the years are SO precious.
    Time is precious, isn’t it?
    I’ve been out of sorts myself…
    Wishing you peace & patience.
    I’m here if you ever need an ear

    1. Thank you so much. And the same to you, about being out of sorts.
      Time is so fragile. I definitely feel like it’s been five years, don’t get me wrong, but that doesn’t mean I want more of everything, all over again.

      1. Stupid time, it speeds up when you want it to slow down and vs versa. I guess we just need to make sure we enjoy or try to enjoy every second we have here with our babies & loved ones. It seems as though that is exactly what you & your hubby are doing. All the best. I hope Scarlet had a magical day!

        1. You’re so right. And I remember being a kid and feeling like childhood was endless. I honestly thought I’d never be an adult.
          And now for my kids, they may feel that way, but I see it flying by more.

  4. This is all just so damn MAGICAL! Are you adopting? My birthday is in October, Ever done a Halloween theme?

    In all seriousness, turning 5 is a big deal. I cried when my boy turned 5. I cried when he turned 8. I cried when I realized that he came up to my shoulder. I’m sure I will cry in a couple weeks when my baby girl turns 3. It’s so bittersweet. You want them to grow and be healthy, but at the same time, you want them to be little forever! You guys are doing such a wonderful job! Your kids are going to look back and remember how magical and beautiful their childhood was! BRAVO!

    1. Totally adopting. My sister’s wedding is in October and she’s always wanted a Halloween wedding. I don’t know if it will be totally Halloween, or more autumn in general.
      Still, though. Awesome time of year.
      I am totally crying that she’s five. All day. I didn’t cry when Des turned two last month so I’m having some tears for that too.
      I’m also crying that I’m turning 30 all over again in two weeks.

  5. Happy birthday to your baby girl and congratulations to both of you for making it five years as parents. Without going completely gray? πŸ™‚ I just celebrated my birthday and it dawned on me how much I really should make my birthday about my parents at this point with thank you cards and everything. Your children will look back on their childhood someday with such fond memories. xo

    1. I swear.. going gray is going to happen for me sooner rather than later. I just know it. I just hope my hair likes hair dye!
      My birthday is coming up in two weeks and I just want to hug my mom. I totally think of Scarlet’s birthday as my own. No offense to the rest of them, but I kinda did all the work that day, didn’t I?
      Well, Scarlet helped.

  6. Ooh, what a magical party. I love that you and Cassidy do this with such great love in your hearts.
    It’s okay to be stoppable, you know. Totally okay.

    1. That’s what it is – it’s big because the love in our hearts is big. And it’s fun! Who knew?
      Thank you for making it seem more valid for me. I felt funny writing a bit of a bittersweet post and not just fun and happy. I totally feel stoppable and I want to feel more like my spontaneous self again.

  7. Oh my! That party looks fantastic! I completely get what you’re saying though. I have no furry housemates, but three in the house. The two Littles can get do whiny that I’m completely OK with my in laws taking the two older ones overnight. My MIL looks like I’m crazy when my husband or I suggest it, and if she doesn’t say no immediately, I’m packing them up to visit. Bee is just too much, too early all the time. I hope things get better soon.

    1. ha! We have six grandparents for the kids and they’d all snatch the kids in a heartbeat. So at least there’s that. And it all does get easier, although not so much with the pets yet.

  8. A very Happy Birthday to your precious sweetie! Yes, on being out of sorts lately but wow you are such a strong woman that perseveres and is a rock star every day in our book, Tamara! OMG….this is like the dream of dream birthday parties!! You can adopt us any time you like, our friend LOL! πŸ™‚ The pictures with the bubbles were my favorites and they were ALL awesome just fyi πŸ™‚

    1. Thank you for the fyi! I like the bubbles photos. They are full of wonder.
      We’d love to adopt you and Phoenix very much. I think you’d do just fine out here!

  9. I love it!! That Rapunzel tower is incredible and my youngest would be soooooooo jealous!! She told me just last week, “Mommy, I and OBSESSED with princesses!” She and Scarlet would surely be fast friends! πŸ™‚ Happy Birthday to your beautiful girl and hug to you, friend!

    1. Oh yes! They’d get along as well as we did! Fast friends.
      The tower is insane. I honestly tell Cassidy he should open up an Etsy store. Something!

    1. You know, they really don’t cost a lot to rent! I thought it would be more. And we got to have it over the whole weekend so even after people left, it was still cotton candy time. For the kids. I don’t love it as much!

  10. Amazing, just amazing – I dare say, your last statement… is an understatement! I bet that Scarlet and everyone there had a great time. I hope, so did you. Your photos of the day are gorgeous. Like Mike, I loved the bubbles. And Scarlet and Cassidy looking at the tower, both (!) with big kid’s eyes (I am sure of it, they were hidden behind the shades) and the ‘going-through-time’ Scarlet photos – beautiful.

    p.s. And I hope you will get over your anxiety…

    1. Thank you so much. The anxiety comes and goes, and mostly goes. It’s just tough when it comes.
      I wish he had taken off his shades! He worked so hard on that tower. It was just so amazing.

  11. What a beautiful celebration for such a lovely little girl. It does go by too fast doesn’t it? You did a wonderful job mama and those tears are warranted and deserved.

    1. Thank you so much. Totally having tears throughout today. She’s at Six Flags right now and I’m home with Des because there’s just too much he can’t do there at his age. And it’s hot and humid today!

  12. That is a lot going on all at once! I would be stoppable too. Just know that you still threw a FABULOUS party, and you’re still making it all happen, even if it doesn’t feel like it. I love the decorations in the yard, and wow to that Rapunzel tower!

    1. Too much, Amy! Too much. Well I know you have a lot going on too.
      The party was amazing. I have to credit Cassidy for so much, but we did it!

  13. I lost my stability too. We can waver together. But that party – oh that party. Can’t show those photos to my girl or she will seriously reconsider the mermaids and pirates party she’s decided upon for September. Nothing but LOVE for that Rapunzel tower (which may or may not have anything to do with my recent Tangled obsession).

    1. Can we get our stability back? Sometimes it seems hopeless, but I find it never really is.
      The party is amazing. Don’t show it to your cutie! Although mermaids and pirates? That makes me wish we lived close to you and our daughters were friends.

  14. I am blown away by Cassidy’s talent! You guys throw epic parties. I don’t think I have it in me to put together something like that!
    Happy (belated) birthday to Scarlet πŸ™‚

    1. I worry that I don’t have it in me either, Bev! What would I do if married to someone else? Probably have a lot of help or throw very small parties.
      And you’re not belated! Her birthday is today!

  15. Happy Birthday to your daughter!! It looks like such an amazing party! Your husband is so talented, I love all of the stuff he made. Everything looks like it was so fun and your daughter is beautiful. I feel like 5 is such a big birthday. I guess because I equate it to starting elementary school. Sometimes it good to be stoppable…it kind of forces you to slow down.

    1. Yeah, it’s a big one! Half a decade, and starting school. As in full days.. and maybe homework? Oh god. I’m not ready for this!

  16. It all looks positively magical! And time does have a way of putting us out of sorts once in a while doesn’t it? *sigh*

    Oh, and the earlier photos of Des with his cake, cuteness plus πŸ™‚

    1. I think he should make these and sell them. He even thought of the yellow streamer for her hair all on his own! My brain does not think that way.

  17. Not over the top to me! It looks fantastic and I want to go. Natalie would have loved it all. We don’t have enough space to put on something like that. But next year, on Natalie’s eighth birthday, if all goes well, we will be in Disney World…

  18. Oh my goodness the Rapunzel tower is so cute! How awesome that Cassidy made that. Happy Birthday to Scarlet. Her party looks like a lot of fun! Boy you have been so busy lately. Oh yes, the litter box is my least favorite things about having a cat. Hope you are getting a chance to breath – you have been so busy!

    1. Thank you! We’re going on a little beach vacation next week and I do plan to relax and stay off social media.. can I do it? I hope so.
      The tower was incredible!

  19. WOW!! Y’all put on an incredible party!!! Go big or go home, right?! I love how happy Scarlet looks! The jumping the night before the party was my favorite!!!!
    Happy birthday #5 to Scarlet today!!

    1. It was so cool to see them jumping away! And they slept well that night, I think. And the next night after the party too, of course.

  20. I’m really impressed that Cassidy made the tower. It looks great! You guys really know how to throw a party. Cassidy could really be a professional party planner/magical dream granter. You guys rock!!!

    1. Thank you! We’re a super team, for sure. I don’t know what on earth we’ll do next year, but I’m sure we’ll think of something.

  21. I’m so sad we missed the Bowman party!!! That tower is just – wow!!!! The boys (and I ) would have had a blast. So happy they’re not here to peer over my shoulder at these pics. Happy Birthday Scarlet!!!!

    1. Don’t worry – we’ll invite you next year too. I’m glad that we know each other in real life and that you guys get invited to our parties. The power of blogging!

    1. ha! You are invited! I totally invited some local bloggers. Ah, if only you could have brought your boys.
      It was really fun! I’m still reeling in it.

  22. First, Happy Birthday to Scarlet! I hope she has a wonderful day!!

    Second, the party rocked. You checked off the list on a dream birthday party! All the princesses, bouncehouse, castle cake,face painting and cotton candy!! So magical!

    Third, you have been through so much in a small period of time. Too much, in my opinion. Maybe it’s time for a quiet day or at least a couple of quiet hours to refresh your mind and try to let go and let be.

    1. I was hoping you’d see! You’re such an amazing party planner and all.
      The party was totally magical.
      Your third statement..made me feel relieved, if that makes sense. Your opinion seems to be right. It’s too much. I am going on a beach vacation next week and we will outnumber the kids – six adults to two kids (and two dogs). So I’m hoping to take some much needed alone time. Maybe take my camera to the top of the lighthouse or walk around Provincetown.

  23. I love everything!! The body painting and bubbles are awesome. Everything seems magical and you’ve really done a great job. Your yard is the perfect setting. I also love the photos of grandparents on the swing.

      1. Aw, thank you! I love her pink cheeks! We worked so hard and it was a bit last minute, thrown together, but it just worked.
        The grandparents were great on the swings!

  24. Looks like a really fun and fabulous party! I especially love the bubble photos. Is it difficult to get the camera to focus properly for those? I’m wondering if the light reflecting from the bubbles makes it easier or harder.

    1. Such a good question, Katie! It does require thought. In some, I want the bubbles in focus and in others, I want the people. You nailed it with noticing. It’s not difficult ONLY because I’ve been doing bubble photos for years and I’m an ace with my own camera settings. However, it can be annoying with auto focus for sure.

  25. Aww! Looking at Scarlet grow through these pictures is amazing. She is still so young, but such a little lady! It looks like she was having a ball. And 5! What an awesome age. I remember turning 5 and it being one of my favorite ages. You all are in store for so many awesome things with her getting older and becoming even more of her own little person!

  26. I was scrolling through these pics and Piggie said “Oh look, a BIRTHDAY PARTY!!!” You guys definitely throw some mean parties!! I can imagine how you’ve been feeling, all of that would have me on edge too…so many awesome/sad/overwhelming things happening all at once. And I always feel that way too after a new animal is welcomed into our home. I always regret it because I’m just not one to enjoy taking care of an animal, especially when I have two young children already. All of my pets become outdoor pets because otherwise I become unglued too quickly in the day. Sending you lots of sleep and patience dust!

    1. I wouldn’t mind our cats being outdoor pets! I know that’s largely frowned upon by the homeless cat shelter.. well in our case – fairies in our fairy garden – but litterboxes are not for me!

  27. This post crashed my browser! I credit the volumes and volumes of extremely cute content, seriously! You cant be anxiety free alllll the time…but please remember that you ARE unstoppable! Bust out your summer dresses and enjoy everything you want when you’re feeling up for it. I’m not surprised the kittens haven’t sold you yet. They’re cute and at times so sweet but it’s definitely a change of pace for a dog person. They’ll grow on you! I want to go to one of your parties, cotton candy, face paint? uhm..bounce house? Perfection.

    1. Oh dear about your browser! This post was probably as over the top as the party. Is there a limit as to how many photos should be in one post? I’ve probably broken that limit many times over.
      You are so sweet – I want to feel unstoppable again. The dresses will help.
      Next time, come to our party, ok?

      1. Limit? Psh! Heck no! I’d rather my browser crash 5 times a day than for you to limit your posts! It’s not your fault my computer cant compute the cute <3!

  28. Happy Birthday, Scarlett! It looks like you had a fabulous time! My son turns five on July 31, but we will be in the middle of our move then, so I won’t be able to throw him a cool party. My other son turns 7 on July 17, so July is a busy month for us. Unfortunately, this year we are unable to throw fun parties for the boys. Have a wonderful evening!

    1. I turn 30 (that’s a lie) on July 25th. Crazy summer birthdays! My dad’s is this weekend too.
      I wish you a smooth move! You can do crazy parties next year!

  29. What a wonderful birthday party! I love all the cutouts that you have for her parties. Sometimes over the top is what is needed. At least it looks like your kids haven’t lost their sense of wonder (those bubble machine photos!) Hopefully things will slow down for you a little bit so you can start to feel more unstoppable.

    1. Last year we did an Alice party with like… 20 cardboard cutouts. At least 20. Now that was something. Took too much work, though!
      I hope things slow down very much.

  30. Wow, you guys really do throw a mean party! Five is a big deal. Then there is 6, 7, 8….18 Seriously there needs to be a stop button for just a minute. These kids grow up and are gone before we can even blink.

  31. Can you plan my kids parties…and my parties? This looks like so much fun. That tower – amazeballs!!!!!

    Here’s hoping your unstoppable-ness returns soon. Though, I will say, you’ve got plenty reason to take it easy for a while. πŸ™‚

  32. Over the top? Yeah. But totally unequivocally worth it!!!! (I can see that simply from the pics alone.;-)

    Everything was beyond beautiful, and the photography was gorgeous (as usual; I’d expect nothing less; man, I wish you could do our parties, but I digress…)

    Congrats on having a five-year-old. I’ll be in your shoes two years from now — and I’ve already got anxiety about it. And speaking of anxiety, I LOVED that Rotten eCard you posted above. Epic.


    1. Why, thank you!
      I had a lot of anxiety about this. It started in the winter when I went to a kindergarten Q&A session. That’s all it was! I felt like I couldn’t breathe in there!
      I’ve gotten better about it, as I have since gone to kindergarten registration, orientation AND a potluck and survived.

  33. That is one mean party indeed πŸ™‚ I’ve already decided I can’t wait until my son is 21 so we can party at least once before I die – I’m better with adults than kids. Kids throw me off, LoL! Girl hibernate – nothing wrong wtih hiding, when you’re so emotionally overloaded you need to become seclusive for a bit. Happy music helps – I like that song πŸ™‚ I listen to Spanish or Electro when I need a pick me up. Both make me want to dance but Spanish music is nostalgic for me since I grew up with it. If I’m in that mode right now just because it makes me happy. Eat a cookie, it’s glorious for your spirit – I’m eating one now and it’s f’ing OUTSTANDING! Happy Belated Hump Day and run away for one day in the weekend and SLEEP you’ll feel marvelous πŸ™‚ -Iva

    1. I think you’ll live long after he turns 21! But yes, party time! Or go to Canada and you only have to wait until he’s 18. How’s that for awesome?
      I’m thinking of sleeping this Saturday.. and I can’t wait.

  34. You’re giving Kimye a run for their money (they had a ferris wheel for their little girl’s first birthday party) lol. Happy birthday to your little/big girl! πŸ™‚

  35. The one concern we would have about putting up a Rapunzel tower at 3 am would be Waddles, our backyard skunk. Oh, and also the fact that my husband is not at all artistic! πŸ˜‰ Yes, the Bowmans do throw a mean birthday party! Happy, happy birthday to Scarlet!

  36. Happy Birthday to your little lady! I hope she didn’t scream DICK at any point during the day πŸ˜‰

    PS: If it makes you feel any better, I have been crazily out of sorts lately too – Very anxious, to the point I feel like crying. Totally NOT ME AT ALL, so it only makes me more anxious! LOL! AMAZING πŸ˜‰ I think I just need a vacation.

    1. ha! Too bad she didn’t. She also calls the fairy godmother from Shrek 2 the, “Fairy Douche-Mother.” Luckily she hasn’t blurted that out in school, although she did come close.
      I hope your anxiety gets better! My symptoms are ridiculous and I want them to go away!

  37. OMG that looks like so much fun! Did Cassidy make the other Disney characters as well? I love the fairies from Sleeping Beauty. And birthday parties should be over the top for as long as you want them. I know too many adults who don’t even celebrate their birthday; I have one friend who recently actually forgot it was his birthday until his nephew wished him a happy one!

    1. He did make the others too! And last year we made about 20+ for an Alice in Wonderland party. When do we sleep???
      My birthday is in two weeks. It’s so like me to downplay it after having both Des and Scarlet birthdays right before. Maybe I’ll do something glorious instead.

  38. I want a Scarlet birthday for my 43rd. Only, instead of Rapunzel, maybe cutouts of all my NPR reporter crushes? Oh, and Felicity Smoak, from Arrow. Burgers on the grill, and donuts.

    Oh, wait, this is YOUR blog.

    I think that life deals big to you lately. Good and bad. I think Jesus just likes your blog and wants to give you big things to write about.

    1. hmm.. I suppose we could do photo cutouts instead of just hand-painted ones. Maybe it wouldn’t be as special? Nah, it would be.
      I think you’re right about Jesus, by the way.

  39. Aww! She is precious. Her party wasn’t over the top at all, I think it’s great! Ugh, would you plan my 30th bday party?!? Haha jk. I think you did a great job. The Repunzel cut out is amazing! I love how it’s on the side of the house with the streamers as hair. I hope she had a great birthday. I get horrible anxiety too, so I know how ya feel. I hope you & the family have a great weekend.

    1. haha.. I’d plan your party but I’m sure you’ll do something amazing!
      I’m sorry about the horrible anxiety. I can’t seem to shake it sometimes, and other times, it doesn’t even make a 30 second appearance in my days. Weird.

  40. Can you and Cassidy throw my next birthday party? It’s in January, so the bounce house might not work. Not in Maine anyway. That’s one big magnificent bounce house. Looks like an amazing party!

    1. ha! Who says you can’t have bounce houses in January? Actually my friends had one in their garage but it was a small one. It worked, though!

  41. You certainly *do* throw a mean party! I hear 5 is a pretty magical age, and you certain rang it in right. I hope you start feeling more yourself soon. I’ve probably been more stressed out in the past few months than I ever have in my life and it is really starting to wear me down. I feel like I used to be some decisive and now even the simplest decisions sort of boggle me. It’s a tough time. I hope things settle down soon, but it just feels like its *always something.* Sigh…

    1. You’ve got some big life stuff going on. It’s strange because the stress isn’t ripping me apart as it has in the past because I have survived it before and I know.. that humans are built to adapt and heal. So.. I’m hoping that happens on the sooner side for me. I’m taking a relaxing day to myself today. It’s really well worth it.
      It is totally always something. I do find that there are quieter times, though. We’re both going through major life changes right now!

  42. Oh Tamara I’m so sorry to hear that things may not be working out with the kittens. πŸ™ I have to say that I totally get where you’re coming from. A lot has happened the past couple of weeks and it’s only natural for you to be in a “funk” but we’re here for you. And I’m only a text away. Now I have to say that Scarlet’s party was absolutely amazing! I think I may have to take a trip for her 6th because Madison would so enjoy that bounce house and bubbles. Cassidy is also very talented. That Rapunzel tower is fabulous! Here’s to a great weekend!

    1. No worries, my friends! Things are working out. I am just not 100% sold on them. They’re great. We’ve now had three vets express disbelief at how calm they are. And they’re adorable. We’re keeping them but we just need to figure out a litterbox solution that doesn’t leave me cold in the heart!
      You’re invited to the 6th, ok??? Mark it on your calendar!

  43. Cats are icky but but but, OMG dude, you did the best birthday party in the history of time. I’m actually really really sad that we don’t live closer so that I could come too it, and bring Tucker to bounce and play with yours and yeah I totally get the melancholy of older and birthdays and anxiety and all of it. You did perfectly great though, you know that? And also, I adore you, little sister wife.

    1. haha! Cats are totally icky. I think ours may not be. Early, hopeful thinking.
      They didn’t come to the party, so there’s that.
      I adore you, my sister wife. Come over soon, ok? There are insane deals on Southwest and JetBlue right now. Free photos! Cookies! Hugs!

  44. Amazing. Two pictures in this post made me cry. 1. Rapunzel. It’s so awesome! I love the joy Cassidy has in creating art for your kids! 2. The picture of him with the swarm of little girls around him! HAHA! I can’t wait for that to happen to Jeffrey! It’s the sweetest interaction of people there is!

    1. Oh it will totally happen to Jeffrey! Dads are awesome. Well good dads are awesome. I am sometimes surrounded by lots of kids but I have to have something cool in my hands – like a kitten or a cookie or something.

  45. Happy Happy Birthday to your beautiful girl!! She looks all grown up in the photos with the cake. Isn’t it crazy how all of a sudden they are grown up? And the party is amazing and incredible and so much joy. It’s also funny that you describe being stoppable this summer – that’s how I’ve been feeling when I usually feel light during the summer. I haven’t been able to put my finger on the feeling until just now.

    1. It doesn’t make me happy to hear that you feel similarly, but I guess solidarity and all. And maybe we’re both in deep changes/journeys that just don’t allow for light right now.
      I do have light moments amid the heavy days, though.

  46. you so KNOW how to throw a party.
    My birthday is in May – just sayin’
    and I love cotton candy, but I pee when I jump. some important facts you might require. πŸ™‚

    stunning pictures.

  47. Happy belated birthday, Scarlet! 5! What an amazing party, the bubbles were perfect and perfect for photos :). LOVED that Rapunzel tower. Wowee! And I forgot to comment this on the Ask Away Friday post with Cassidy, but what cool jobs you’ve had (have)! Definitely comes in handy at times like these.

    1. Oh, thank you!! And yes, we’ve both had weird and wonderful jobs. I have another post about it coming up, in fact. I have yet another job-related three truths and a lie post.

  48. And you win at birthdays.
    I better not show the boy child. All he’s getting is a Jedi Training birthday party that I’m not hosting because ain’t nobody got the patience for that.
    I’m really sorry that you are feeling like you’re motionless. It is a hard spot to be in. That stupid old adage, this too shall pass, is true. Even though you probably don’t believe it right now. Keep trucking. Remember baby steps are big steps when you’re feeling unwell. Give yourself credit for them. xoxo

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