Not Even Close To Wordless Wednesday: Ten Years & Ice Cream.

With the craziness of recent years and recent months. With kid birthday parties, puppies and kittens. With work and money and the day to day mundane tasks. With blog conferences, preschool graduations and summer camp arrangements. With travel, birth and death. Sometimes I can forget what it was that brought me here. I am publishing this post at the exact time I met Cassidy ten years ago, at JFK Airport. I realize I have told my story before and I figured there was nothing new I could add to it so I didn’t even think I’d write a ten years post. Last night I realized – there are photos. Many I’ve shown you and many I have not.

We met on sales emails, before online dating was even a thing. Emails were all we had at one point. The photos we shared described pasts, presents, and future dreams. They came alive. They are as much a part of our history as the air we breathe.

I will never run out of both new and old things to say. I can always add to this story, because this story grows daily. We made it all count. And we sent the photos and graphics and stories of our lives. This is what my life looked like, ten years ago:

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(The one on the left married us. The one on the far right was a groomsman.)

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(This one is actually more recent but it seemed fitting so I cheated with one..)

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We met on July 1st at JFK Airport. We rode the monorail until I got dizzy and then we talked in the parking lot. Then I got ridiculously lost leaving NYC and we wound up in The Hamptons on a beach. After that, Cassidy bought a map at a gas station and I found myself in western Mass for the first time. After an all-nighter, breakfast at Friendly’s and asking Cassidy’s mom’s neighbor for a key, we spent two days exploring Shelburne Falls, MA. Then we drove to Bethel, ME to the sight of fireworks welcoming us into town. We saw our first moose after a day or two in Maine. Then we went straight back to JFK Airport, on dark and winding roads, while listening to U2 “Achtung Baby”. Then we had to say goodbye for now, and eventually for two years.

We found each other again one day, at JFK Airport all over again. For now, we celebrate ten years ago. With ice cream?

And before I sign off for the night, I feel that it’s absolutely important that I participate in this week’s #TuesdayTen list. Rabia and Lisa are compiling and linking up posts about favorite ice creams! I have a lot to say about ice cream, you see.

The Liebers

So if you ever want to buy me ice cream and make your way into my heart forever, here are ten flavors I love.

1. Any vanilla-based peanut butter & chocolate type ice cream, including but not limited to moose and deer tracks flavors.
2. Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough.
3. Butter Brickle from Cliff’s Ice Cream in the 1980’s. Oh, happy day.
4. Burnt Sugar from Mt. Tom’s Ice Cream in Easthampton, MA.
5. Black raspberry ice cream, but not without rainbow sprinkles absolutely coating it!
6. Salted butter caramel type variations.
7. Coffee Toffee Bar Crunch.
8. Talenti Sea Salt Caramel.
9. Pumpkin Ice Cream (in the fall).
10. Peanut Brittle.

I like treasures in my ice cream. Textures. Chunks. Bits, pieces, odds & ends, and lots of it. Otherwise I do embarrassing things with rainbow sprinkles and whipped cream just to compensate for what is missing.

About Tamara

Tamara is a professional photographer, a mama of two, a Lifestyle Blogger/Social Media Influencer/Brand Ambassador, and a nearly professional cookie taster. She has been known to be all four of those things at all hours of the day and night. She is a very proud contributor to the book, The Mother Of All Meltdowns, the Stigma Fighters Anthology (volume 1), and The HerStories Project: So Glad They Told Me. She is also a proud Community Lead and a regular contributor to the SoFab Food blog, and the Target Made Me Do It blog. After two cross country moves, due to her intense Bi-Coastal Disorder, she lives with her husband, daughter, son, dog, cat, and 11 chickens in glorious western Massachusetts.


Not Even Close To Wordless Wednesday: Ten Years & Ice Cream. — 111 Comments

  1. Yup, I knew you would be vanilla based with ice cream, as I am totally hooked on vanilla based ice creams, too – so again so twin like. And I loved the photo walk down memory lane and will so be doing this I. A few days myself, as it is 11 years since Kevin and I first met and started dating on the 12th. Still can’t believe it has been that long and how much we have been through, as well. Happy 10 Year Anniversary again to both of you!! πŸ™‚

    • Vanilla based ice cream lovers unite!
      We were apart for two and a half years so cumulatively, it hasn’t been ten years together, but the fact that it’s been ten years since I saw his face is pretty unreal to me. It’s a big one!

  2. Happy 10th! May you and Cassidy share many more decades together. As for ice cream, you and I are totally incompatible. Well, mostly. Although maybe not liking the same flavors makes us compatible, because then we each get our own cup. Or pint. Great, now I’m hungry.

  3. I loved this silent post, transversing Cassidy through your eyes, through the years. I kept silent and felt like it was a silent slide show. BTW, we absolutely have identical ice cream taste buds! You even like black raspberry!

    • I needed a somewhat silent post, I think. Always new ways to tell stories.
      I craved black raspberry ice cream throughout my whole Canata trip with Aunt Marilyn. It was because at the beginning, I had seen a sign in upstate NY that had a photo of ice cream and it was purple. I didn’t even know raspberry ice cream was a thing. I looked everywhere for it, even looking for the French word “framboise” in Montreal. Nothing. Finally in Lake George, NY I got a cup of it with rainbow sprinkles on the boardwalk next to a Frankenstein in costume
      Great memory.

  4. This is an EPIC post. I don’t say that casually. It is a fairytale, a saga and a beautiful record of love. I LOVE THE PHOTOS with the notes to you from cassidy. Warms my heart. I am a fan of ice cream smothered in peanut butter. life is good.

    • I’m like you – I don’t say EPIC a lot, but when I do, I mean it. So that means a lot that you’d say it.
      Recently I thought our ice cream flavors were too boring so I put a tablespoon of peanut butter into the vanilla carton, mixed it about, and let it freeze together for an hour or so.
      It was delicious.

  5. Oh my HEART!!!!! If pictures could paint a thousand words!!!!! LOVE LOVE LOVE this so so much. Oh….my…heart. What a love story wrapped up in these images. I am DYING to read the details!!! Perhaps? If I get me some food, I can make it through to stay up and read it!!!

    Let me look in the fridge.

    • What did you find in the fridge?
      No hurries, Chris. It will still be there. I know in my heart that at the right time you will find the story and I will know you have arrived because I will start getting comments on old posts. I’d say I know you have arrived because I’ll see it in my stats, but I haven’t learned to check my analytics yet. (paging Janine!)

  6. Happy Happy 10th! I love this. And those photos of Cassidy with the notes to you? So super sweet. Your love story never ceases to amaze me and fill me with butterflies. As for ice cream, my all time favorite is mint chocolate chip. Preferably Baskin Robbins with the thin slivers of chocolate, not the big chunky chips.

    • I love how specific that is. The thin slivers of chocolate are special and I think I’d like that better than big chunky chips. We don’t have a Baskin Robbins near here and I’m not sure I’ve ever had it. That can’t be, right??
      Thank you for loving my love story.

  7. Aw, happy 10th! How truly, truly wonderful. My husband and I celebrate 10 years of togetherness this year, though we met nearly 11 years ago. I don’t nearly have as many pictures as you do, unfortunately.

    Your togetherness is wonderful and beautiful!

    • AW, ten years for you too! It’s actually ten years cumulative. Does it still count?? We met ten years ago, but we were apart for 2.5 years or so. I think it still counts. I feel it in my heart.

  8. I love this story! What a 10 years you have had. If John and I were lost around NYC, i love how you wound up in the hamptons. If you are buying ice cream, I only want baskin robbins chocolate peanut butter swirl. Just sayin’

    • I was just telling Christine that I’m not sure I’ve ever had Baskin Robbins! I must have had it at some point, but I can’t remember. I don’t even know if there is one near us. This has to be remedied. Sugar sh*tbombs, though, right?
      We were in West Hampton and it was 3:00am. I remember that we didn’t even know that’s where we were until we left the beach and drove into the deserted town and saw the “Welcome to West Hampton” sign. Oops!

  9. Happy 10th! I told Rea my favorites are chocolate and punch flavor and one flavor called Blue Sky that is no longer in existence sadly! I can’t believe I forgot peanut butter (Frank was the first one who made me try it and it was so good!) I guess it’s because peanut butter is a rare occurrence in Croatia – I’m lucky if I can find a small jar of it for a decent price!

    • I read your comment on Rea’s post actually and I was just as intrigued by Blue Sky too. We will never know what it was! They had Smurf flavor at my childhood ice cream parlor. It was blue. It was a bit of a vanilla/cotton candy taste.
      Peanut butter ice cream is so good! How strange about peanut butter being so rare. We have it fresh everywhere here. I can send some!

    • Stormy was such a part of our courting. He used to send me pictures of her and I’d send her pictures of my parent’s Alaskan Malamute. I don’t even think they ever met.

  10. Happy 10th! I’ve read your whole story and these pictures are perfect (of course!). Thanks of relining up with us again, too. Those are some interesting flavors and ones that I would LOVE to try!

    • I get so giddy when people have read my story!
      I had to link up with you at the same time because I love ice cream! It was the perfect prompt for this week’s Tuesday Ten.

  11. Who is that adorable little boy? (His little chin gives him away!) I wish I had more pictures of Ed as a baby and a little boy, but there aren’t that many.

    We’re headed to Yosemite at the end of the summer, and I just created a roadtrip playlist! The only artist it has in common with your list is Sting, although I almost put a song from Coldplay on it. πŸ™‚

    • It’s the chin! So distinct!
      Yosemite was magical to me. Have you been? We didn’t see a lot of it because we had just gotten back together when we went and we just wanted to snuggle for three days. In our cabin. While a beautiful world was outside. We did see some fierce shooting stars, though.

    • I made the mistake of reading everyone else’s posts for the Tuesday Ten linkup. Now I apparently want Baskin Robbins because people kept mentioning it and I don’t think I’ve ever been to one!

  12. Happy 10th meeting anniversary!! Love the throwback photos especially the one with his love note. I am such a plain Jane when it comes to ice cream, just give me some vanilla with whipped cream. No color, no fancy. πŸ™‚

    • Well hey, even the whipped cream is good! I always say that you have to try a new company/store’s vanilla because if they can’t get that right… they can’t get the rest right.
      True blue vanilla is important.

  13. I love all the pictures you shared in this post! Happy 10th! And even though I’m reading this at 10 in the morning, I now have a strong desire for ice cream. Breakfast of champions!

    • Thank you so much. It’s true – a lot of my friends are separating or getting divorced, which seems so early to me, but I know that it happens a lot.

  14. I love your love story. I read it back when I first started really reading blogs, and I felt like such a stalker for being up at 2AM reading about some woman that I’d never met. That being said, it resonated with me, and I felt like if I ever met you, we’d be fast friends. So glad I DID “meet” you later on πŸ™‚

    • ha! Someone told me today she felt intrusive reading it and I said, “But I put it out there for people to read!”
      I’m so glad we “met” too. We’re two peas in a pod in a lot of ways.

  15. I’m in a very sentimental and somewhat melancholy mood today, and your post just felt very fitting. (Not that celebrating 10 years is melancholy-inducing, just knowing to some degree the story behind your relationship.) Happy 10 years, and those are definitely my types of ice cream!

    • I think I’m in the same mood! And I really just want to be alone which is so hard with a puppy, two kittens and two kids climbing on me.
      Someday we’ll go to that fantastic ice cream place together – JP Licks, I think?

    • What’s funny is that I remember loving coffee ice cream best when I was a really little kid! I figured there couldn’t be too much coffee in it if they were giving it to a three-year-old.
      It’s delicious and it’s the ice cream I like best with whipped cream, and not much else.

  16. Okay I HAVE TO KNOW! I know that first picture was the first one Cassidy sent you, and then your picture you sent him, and then his picture with Lucas, but are the rest also in order? Now I want to listen to Sheryl Crow with some chocolate chip cookie dough or any other ice cream honestly…I love you and Cassidy together! You two are the best that there’s ever been

    • You know, it’s mostly in order but I don’t think it’s exact! You are right, though. I’m telling a story. You can see the before we met, the during (because it’s clearly my photography and I’m in some!) and then the aftermath.
      I want to listen to Sheryl Crow with you!

  17. Loved seeing all your throwback photos. I also loved Telenti’s salted carmel gelato before going dairy free. I made some home vanilla with chocolate chips ice cream for my family a couple a weeks ago. My son has requested we make strawberry next time.

    • Yum, I love homemade ice cream.
      For some reason my family and friends want Cassidy to make banana ice cream sometimes. I say, “Well that’s fine but can we add it peanut butter cups and sprinkles?”

  18. Oh I love all the photos and I can totally see Des in that photo I’m assuming of Cassidy when he was younger. I’m in love with Vanilla ice-cream only because it goes with EVERYTHING! btw no luck yesterday. No moose at the Denver Zoo, we so thought of you. πŸ™‚

  19. Loved reading your story once again! Feels like I’m re-reading your how-i-met story. I love those photos where Cassidy had notes for you. Amazing you’ve kept lots of photos for ten years now.

    Black raspberry ice cream! Sounds cool, wanna try it. Not sure where it’s available here though.

    • You win it all with your quezo ice cream. I wish we could send each other ice cream but I guess it doesn’t travel well.
      I love that you read my story..

  20. *scream*
    that’s for all the ice cream goodiness – because REASONS!!! I love all your flavours and now I long to sit in a Northern Marsh with each of us a pint and our cameras and wait for moose.
    That may be one of the best playlists ever. And how ridiculously photogenic is he? gawd.
    I’m a little in love with everything in this post.

    • Even the man? I’m just kidding!
      I love that you love this post. And moose! And cameras. It’s all really worth it, isn’t it?
      Choose love, ice cream and moose. That’s my new shirt.

  21. Love the photos. Love the story. Love the love. As I navigate divorce, this post just restores my faith in romance. (Seeing all the huskies just gets me in the heart too.)

    • Ah, my friend. No matter what happens I always look to my grandparents – married until death separated them. Both sets. And they still held hands into their old age.

    • No mint! Can you believe it? My grandmother’s favorite was peppermint ice cream – the pink and/or white kind, though. Like the hard candies.

  22. I loved looking at your photos of back then. I’ve never read your love story and now I feel more motivated than ever to read it. I’ve never written our love story all out because I tend to look like the jerk much too many times. I made up for it after I got pregnant, though. πŸ™‚ Happy anniversary!!! Also, I used to eat chocolate Baskin Robbins ice cream with gummy bears on top. Ew.

    • Don’t worry – Cassidy looks like a huge jerk in my love story! He redeems himself by a lot, though.
      I’m failing to see the “ew” in your ice cream selection!!

    • Thank you so much! We celebrated with Cassidy going to a Phish show without me! It’s ok, though. I loved writing this post and digging for photos.

  23. Love your photos, although they make me a bit sad since my husband is about the least romantic person on the planet. I wouldn’t pick someone else, but sometimes I wonder what life would be like with a romantic guy. There would be more love notes, I’m fairly sure. =) Nice ice cream choices! I like a little salty/sweet combo, so chocolate, peanut butter & pretzel swirl tops my list!

    • Well Cassidy is a big romantic and a big dad, as you can probably tell, but it’s not like this every day. Daily life just has a way of catching up.

  24. I love all the pictures!!! The ones where Cassidy is holding notes are awesome!!!
    Happy 10 years!! The next 10 and the next and the next are only going to be better and better!!!

  25. Happy Anniversary! Cool pictures πŸ™‚

    I maybe the only one in the world – but I don’t like ice cream – ha – ha

    hope you guys have a great celebration πŸ™‚

  26. I love the photos. Happy happy 10 years my beautiful friend. Big huge and always. Also, vanilla. Always. For me, anyway or butter pecan.

  27. Great photos! Happy Anniversary of your meeting! I do not even know the exact date that Ron and I met, but I know themonth. I love the photos with Cassidy holding the signs – so cute! Have fun celebrating! πŸ™‚

  28. I love looking at those photos. I haven’t read the story of how you guys met, but I need to. Especially since you have that two-year gap. It’s so interesting finding out the hows and whys of people’s connections, how one day there’s a connection that wasn’t there before.

  29. Now that’s a friggin’ love story.

    I read it the first time with no photos. Then I just looked at the pictures. They told enough. They seemed to be the touchstones and I’m not even sure if the way I filled the gaps in is right, but it’s right to me.

    we should all be lucky to have images with memories, because memories fade SO fast.

  30. Happy 10 years to you both.
    We have grizzly tracks and moose tracks ice cream around here but no deer tracks that I know of – although I am sure they are all similar in their chocolaty, vanilla-y goodness. (Definitely among my favourite kinds.)

  31. Happy tenth to you! I love all the pics; they make it into a modern-day fairy tale. Such a great way to commemorate your years together. Here’s to ten and many more to come!

  32. Wow, just wow. As often as I have visited you(r site), I still have not read YOUR story, so these are the first photos I am seeing. And I dare say: What’s not to love?! It looks like you have found yourself your perfect man πŸ™‚ He quite obviously loves you, but also Star Wars, dogs, plays guitar, likes traveling, the ocean and being with friends and family – I think that’s the short version, right?!
    p.s. and btw 10 years ago, online dating was already there, because that is when (actually 11 years ago) and how I met my husband πŸ˜€
    pps. that second photo, portrait of you, is gorgeous.

    Happy anniversary and I hope you had a fantastic 4th of July!

  33. So beautiful! I know you all can’t believe it’s been 10 years! So cute the pictures of him with the “call if you want to vent” etc. I love that! I didn’t know that Cassidy was a singer! It seems he can do it all! πŸ™‚

  34. This post has left me beaming and full of joy for you both! If only you lived closer…I just made salted caramel ice-cream (and it’s rather good, if I do say so myself) and you should come and have some!!

  35. you and i go together like PB and chocolate! that’s awesome. i could live on ice-cream. and in the summer, it is a must every single day. love the vintage pics of cassidy. great to see how the two of you have grown. the notes indicating his love for your are priceless!

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