My Husband Takes Over My Blog To Answer Ten Questions!

A few weeks ago, I had one of my totally weird ideas and I shared it with the Ask Away Friday community.

Remember when Des did an Ask Away Friday? Recently I thought it would be cool if I paired up with one of my favorite bloggers, but instead of asking each other ten questions, we would ask each other’s husbands to answer ten questions for us. And somehow, I got two takers already! Cassidy will be answering ten probing questions on my birthday (two weeks away, for those who want to send a moose), and today, he answers ten questions asked by one of my favorites – Christy of Sweet and Savoring.

I mean, come on – have you wondered things about Cassidy? I talk so much and he’s been silent..until now.

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(Above: Christy and her husband, Andy, who will be answering my questions on her blog.)

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For Andy’s answers to my questions about photography, travel & life, go HERE. Here are Cassidy’s answers to Christy’s questions:

1. We get to hear what life is like from Tamara’s perspective all the time. Tell me what about a typical day in the life of Cassidy.

First of all, thanks for inviting me into this. It’s an honor to be “Ask Away’d”. I’m going to consider a “typical” day a work day. I am typically woken up by a kid or a dog. I am typically at work before 8am by choice. I’m an Operations Manager at a small company. I typically have an idea of what I come into work wanting to do and 9 times out of 10 my day never ends up like that. My workday can be anything from 1 to 100 issues ranging from completely unimportant to Defcon 5. I leave work when I decide to stop working on these issues and I leave work on the table every day without fail. No one watches my clock but me. Typically, I have 1-3 hours between getting home and the kids going to sleep – a strange couple of hours because it’s my favorite time of the day (being with the family) but admittedly I’m not always at my best. After the kids go to sleep, well you can skip ahead to #9 if you want.

2. I love Tamara’s How We Met Story! Do you have a favorite picture of her from your early years?

I’m going to choose:

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I took this photo lying on the side of Route 2 in New Hampshire on the first weekend we ever met. When I think about Tamara to this day, this is what I think of her; hands on her hips, fearless, happy, bigger than the tallest mountain around.

3. What has surprised you the most about being a father?

I think I always had some notion about the depth of love being a parent would bring so if I take this question at face value I will go with what surprised me most…and that is how much I get off watching my parents as grandparents. This is something I did not think about too much before we had kids so when I saw it/felt it, I wasn’t prepared for how great it makes me feel. It’s a completely unique and incredible feeling I get when I watch my folks with our kids. I have often said that I would give up my own time with my kids just to watch that and store up that feeling. I am aware that won’t always be available so I would like to bank as much of that feeling as I possibly can.

4. I love how you create such magical experiences for Scarlet and Des. Did you have a similar childhood? Where do you get your inspiration?

Yes, I suppose I had a similar childhood. I did have elaborate birthdays and trips to faraway places, sure. Although the details aren’t necessarily the same I would say that at the core of it all I was given a childhood where my imagination was allowed to roam free. I was also an only child (for a long time) so that gave me a ton of time with myself, my imagination, dreams, etc…That is my #1 inspiration – my own brain. As Tamara can attest, I don’t do Pinterest. I feel like I am barely scratching the surface of what I already have going on in my own head. A lot of the crazy things I have done around our home are ideas I have had in my head since I was a kid. Most of the time I feel exactly as I did when I was 7 years old – except I now have a car and a line of credit at Home Depot.

5. What would you do with the family if you were given $10,000 and told you could travel anywhere together?

I would suggest going someplace beautiful that none of us have ever been to where no one speaks English.

6. What qualities of Tamara’s do you see in Scarlet and Des? What qualities of your own do you see?

Qualities of Tamara in our kids: thoughtfulness, kindness, love of animals, and Scarlet has become an excellent amateur photographer.

Qualities of me in our kids: thoughtfulness, love of gardening and cooking, adventurous spirit, and Scarlet can be alone with nothing but her imagination for hours and be totally content (self reliance).

7. How did you get your job with ILM (Industrial Light & Magic) and how long did you work there?

One of the craziest things about that job is that I got it from an ad in the Sunday paper that was less than 1″x1″. I still have the ad. In college I was a Talent Buyer booking bands. I had been in San Francisco for 5 years managing restaurants and then being an IT Buyer during the dotcom boom. I saw that ad in the paper and thought it was the longshot to end all longshots. I ended up getting an interview which lasted 5 hours. Among the many questions I had to answer were: “The Model Shop uses turkey vultures to sculpt the dinosaurs in Jurassic Park. How do you procure a dead turkey vulture?” and “In the Witches of Eastwick, we needed 10,000 orange tennis balls. Regulation tennis balls are yellow. Where do you find 10,000 orange ones?” and “What’s your favorite movie?” (I judiciously answered “Raiders of the Lost Ark”). I was called back for a 2nd interview that lasted another couple hours and I think I knew I had it at that point. The first car I ever owned (a very old Camry) died for good on the way home from the 2nd interview on the mountain leading to the Golden Gate bridge. I worked there for exactly 4 years (give or take a day). I was laid off right after Episode 3 wrapped. I have a real soft spot for some of the movies to come out of that era (Van Helsing, The Day After Tomorrow. Planet of the Apes, Harry Potter 2 & 3, Minority Report) because I bought things that I can see onscreen in those movies. I got to be an extra in EP2 and EP3. I learned a ton in those 4 years, did some awfully stupid things, and made some lifelong friends. I ended up later going through another 5+ hours of interviews to be the Operations Manager of LucasArts. A byproduct of both experiences is that I really like being an interviewee and an interviewer. Grill me for 5 hours. Sling any question you have at me. I love it.

This is a photo of me with a Timber Wolf I rented for Van Helsing (I actually got in trouble for this because I did not insure the ILM campus against potential Timber Wolf attack):

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8. You recently went to see Phish, and from what I gather you are very into music. Any stand-out concert/tour memories you’d like to share?

Yes. There are literally hundreds of Grateful Dead and Phish shows I could choose from. Hundreds that stand out. Hundreds that hold a piece of my heart forever. The one I will share is actually coming up on the 25th anniversary in a few days; 7/14/89 – The Who at Sullivan Stadium in Foxboro, MA. This was the 2nd concert of my life that I got to under my own power (aka, I was not driven to by mom or dad). This is, by far, one of the loudest concerts I have ever been to in my life. Aside from my own guitar playing over the years which as done the most damage to my ears, The Who did some significant damage that night. My ears were ringing for days after. After the obligatory set two closer “Won’t Get Fooled Again”, The Who came out for the encore without Roger Daltrey. Pete Townshend said, “Roger pulled something at the end of that song but we don’t need him to do this song…TWIST AND FUCKING SHOUT!” and then launched into that tune with Entwhistle taking the vocals. At the end, Townshend took his guitar and smashed his mic stand with it. I will never forget that moment. It’s one of many moments I have experienced in stadiums and ampitheatres across this country where I can pinpoint to the second where my life changed.

9. What’s your favorite way to unwind after a really crazy day?

Well, we’re talking about that sweet spot between the kids going to bed and me going to bed. 2-3 hours on average, right? These are precious hours. If I’m being honest (and I’m being honest) when I know the kids are down for the count I will head to the basement, smoke a bowl, come back upstairs and queue up one of two things on tv…either a) a series I have downloaded (I just finished Broadchurch and season one of Orphan Black) OR b) a movie which can range from good to extremely crappy – the most recent being “Noah” which is one of the worst movies I have ever seen and I was legitmately entertained for approximately 42% of it.

10. This has become a favorite question of mine: Write a haiku about yourself (a three line poem in which the first line is five syllables, the second is seven, and the third is five).

about circles, life
the gypsy flies coast to coast
he always knew home

Tamara again. Well. I’m stunned silent. Thank you, Christy, for these questions. Thank you, Cassidy for these answers.

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  1. OMG! I had to laugh out loud and #9 and say Amen! Broadchurch was really good, I am curious to see how they mess up the Americanized version…they have already taken away David’s accent! It would so be a dream to see The Who live, Pete and Roger are just amazing! That Timberwolf is beautiful! I love the haiku! This was an amazing idea and a wonderful swap! Have a great weekend, you two!

    1. I can’t resist showing up and replying to some comments. I thought I could resist… but I can’t. I was so glad you were the first! I only ever listened to Broadchurch because I tend to edit photos to the sound of whatever Cassidy is watching. When I went downstairs after a week or so of it, I was so surprised at what everyone looked like! I had very different ideas of the characters and what they looked like. I hope to get into the American version.
      Have a great weekend, Stacey!

  2. Such an amazing twist!! Definitely enjoyed reading this. And Cassidy did have an interesting job with ILM plus the interview questions were wow. I love job interviews and I’m always excited with how someone answers. I wonder how he answered those questions. Lol.
    Going to a place where nobody speaks English is soooo cool and probably life changing.

    1. I asked him last night! I think he’ll have to chime in here because I don’t remember what he said, but it was clearly the right thing!

  3. What a great idea! I don’t know if I could convince my Hubby to do it but I may try πŸ˜‰ I love how Cassidy describes the photo he selected of you…so sweet you can read the love in his words.

  4. CASSIDY!!!!!!! Love the name, btw. πŸ˜‰ (T will fill you in on that one)

    So, I am getting ready to make nachos. Yes nachos. But no, I didn’t smoke a bowl. I DID in fact smoke a cig. Just so ya know. And if Tamara was here, she would totally ask why nachos and not frozen pizza or a burrito…? Just cuz. I’m into the nachos lately.

    I LOVE this so freaking much. SO. MUCH. All your answers are exactly how I would picture you to be. Just so cool. One thing T never told us about you- you are a beautiful writer! I would have guessed that though- because you have an incredibly beautiful spirit. πŸ™‚

    Hey T! LOVED to *meet* Cassidy!!!

    Off to chow. Wait- Chow is like saying goodbye. Is that confusing? Especially after the bowl? Hmm…

    1. Hey back, my love! About the nachos, I always say, “Why not nachos?” and now “Why nachos?” I think you’re upgrading.
      I’ll let Cassidy respond to the rest, but to (my) Cassidy – Chris’ beautiful daughter is named Cassidy.

  5. This is such a great idea and I’ve been toying with interviewing my husband as well – on a different topic. Truly LOVED his answers and honesty! I wish I could unwind at the end of the day by smoking a bowl. It would certainly help take the edge off!!! I also love what he said about you in that picture Tamara! Bigger then the tallest mountain. YES!!! That is YOU!!! Great, great post!

    1. aw, my friend. Thank you! I’d love to feel that way that you both described me.
      As for smoking a bowl, I also wish that’s how I could unwind. Something! Whatever I’m doing doesn’t work against two kids, two cats and a dog.

  6. I knew this was coming because you had talked about it in the AAF Facebook page. I love Cassidy’s questions. I think you should have him blog for you once in awhile!

    Cassidy- I love your take on grandparents! You guys are crazy blessed to have local ones. I wish ours didn’t live a road trip or plane ride away!

  7. What an awesome surprise this morning and truly loved getting Cassidy’s take on the AAF questions this week. I think he and Kevin would get along famously as we ladies do, because even down to how they spend their evening downtime sounded quite similar to me. Now, we just have to get us all in one big room to finally meet and hang out – hoping someday soon. Happy weekend to you both πŸ™‚

    1. I love you, Janine, for many things but mostly for knowing our husbands would get along! And the downtime thing.. it’s not my thing but I’ve grown very comfortable with it being his thing. It’s all good.
      Happy Weekend to you!

  8. Great idea Tamara! I had so much fun reading this, as well as Frank. (P.S. He may or may not email you with the message for Cassidy – I am not responsible for it in any way!)

    1. ha! It was fun to hear from you both. So I guess that means it was fun for people to hear from both of us!
      And I am not at all responsible for what Cassidy said. Sigh. Bless his heart. Not my thing, but bless his heart.

  9. What a great idea! I loved getting some insight into your mind, Cassidy, especially since I used to joke to Tamara that you were imaginary because it was awhile before I met you! I’m in awe of the cardboard cut-outs you’ve created. Lucky kids!!

    1. I remember that joke! And I loved it. If you ever find yourself in need of 50 Alice in Wonderland cut-outs, you know where to find us.

  10. Ana is not responsible for this. Infact, she has told me I am *not* allowed to reply via comment. But, I don’t listen; so here I am. Cassidy, can we trade lives (not wives) for a day? When you get back, you might be short a Han Solo or two, but I will make sure to leave you a nice surprise in the garage! Glad to see another hubby blogger out there.

  11. This was such a great idea! It was so great to “meet” your husband after seeing so many pictures of him and reading posts about him. What a sweet guy! I love that picture he chose of you, gorgeous!!

    1. I’m a Joe fan too! I guess it’s more rare for significant others to do this! So far, I’ve seen you do it, Christy today of course, and then only a handful of others.

  12. Great answers, Cassidy! So fun having you take over the blog. My husband is an engineer and IT guy at his company, and he can definitely relate to your first answer. His day never goes the way he plans. He has a standing joke about Noah looking like every action movie out there. Good to know we didn’t miss much!

  13. Lmao #9 was by far my favorite response. Priceless. πŸ™‚ You both appear very mellow and complimentary it’s nice. His answer to his favorite photo of you is super sweet – great answer too. You look the same as in that photo which is cool πŸ™‚ I think if we double dated it would be super fun – he can light that bowl too HAHA πŸ˜› Anywhoo I’m back in business and relieved – I was feeling all lost and disconnected not writing, lol. Tis FRIDAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY and hope you’re having an awesome day and that you get your sleep day tomorrow πŸ™‚ -Iva

    1. ha! #9 caused quite the stir. We are mellow, but also non-mellow in very different ways. It’s weird! But good.
      I’m so glad you’re back! That was rough. I can’t wait to read your writing again.
      And I may sleep all day tomorrow. I mean.. .”work”.

      1. Lol I bet it did – Yay read away and definitely sleep lady πŸ™‚ get lots of sleep, it’ll make you feel normal again πŸ˜› Happy Happy Day! -Iva

    1. Well I hope that’s a good thing, right? I think it’s a good thing! I wasn’t going to comment at all and just let him take over, but I couldn’t resist saying hi to everyone.

  14. I absolutely LOVE this. It is so much fun getting to know more about the great men that stand with and support us fantastic women! I am totally convinced that Cassidy and my hubby would be buddies. Tamara and I could sit back, eat cookies and ice cream and watch the bromance unfold. I am so excited for Adam to do this!

    1. I’m so excited for the swap with you next! I sort of know Andy through Christy so I’m really going to have to think/research to get good questions for Adam!
      I love your vision. I’d totally sit back with you and eat treats to watch this.

  15. How fun!! I loved getting to hear from Cassidy! I feel like I know him, in some ways, because you talk about him a lot, but this was way more interesting! And I agree with what someone else said, he is exactly what I would have expected! That means you’re a really good writer, Tamara!

    1. Wow, thank you! He is quite exquisite with words every now and then and I’m lucky to be able to see it. He’ll be doing an Ask Away in two weeks too!

  16. wow, Cassidy is a dream! my husband has written a blog post for me, but when I asked him to answer a few simple questions for a post, he refused. sigh.

  17. I’m not surprised that Cassidy is so awesome…I mean he snagged you, so he has to have something going for him right! LOL!! This is such a fun swap! It would never happen on my end, though. I took a picture of Ken and Benjamin snuggling last night and his first reaction was, “You can’t post that anywhere!”

  18. Haha, my friend worked on Noah! I still have yet to see it, and I have to get her take on it. But so fun to read an interview with Cassidy. I too have really enjoyed watching the parents (both mine & my husband’s) become grandparents, and I think it will only become more interesting as my daughter becomes older.

    1. I’m sure I have friends who worked on it, too. I don’t mean to disrespect the talents of people who worked on the movie. I just never knew ther Ark was built by the Iron Giant.

      1. I watched only part of it and I kept joking that it made me an Atheist 20 times over. I shouldn’t even joke about that, but.. it’s just not a good movie.

        1. Haha! So I was talking about the movie with my friend, and it sounds like it had a lot of potential, but it was hard to really bring together Darren Aronofsky’s vision. I think I still want to see it, mostly because it’s fun to see things my friends have worked on even if they aren’t that great.

  19. I wish my husband would exchange questions. He’s not into being active online at all. I’ve only been to two concerts, I can’t imagine having gone to hundreds! You have inspired me to make more magical birthdays for my kids. I like to keep it easy, but I think I can do more. Nothing on the level that you do, but definitely more! Great “meeting” you!

    1. Wow! Two concerts. What were they?
      I went to my first concert at age 16 and I went to dozens upon dozens between then and having kids. It’s been awhile for me now. Over a year!

  20. LOL loved that video, it made me laugh!! This was awesome, I loved reading the switch up and hearing from your hubby! Also, my husband does #9 too, hahaha! That is definitely some precious time after the kids have gone to bed and before us parents go to bed. I also love to watch my parents with my kids, the love of grandparents for their grandchildren is truly something else.

    1. I think you’re the first to comment on the video! I love that video.
      #9 seems to be common! Not for me, but obviously for Cassidy and many others.
      It’s the most precious time – and it’s rare and too short, but we make the best of it.

  21. They do say honesty is the best policy! πŸ˜‰ So interesting to read about your experience at IL&M. Especially the interview part…I wish all job interview questions were like that!! It would be awesome!-Ashley

    1. What would you even say to that one?? Turkey vultures and orange tennis balls!
      I so agree, though. I like the more interesting questions that really show character. You just can’t rehearse those.

  22. Great idea Tamara, but you get that by now, right? Cassidy, I figured you would be good at this whole writing, sharing, creative thing because of the many things your lovely wife has told us about you. Loved it!

    1. Thanks, Laurie! I’m definitely patting myself on the back for getting him on here. He has wonderful things to say and I didn’t even know about all of them!

  23. HAH! Great idea guys and great answers Cassidy! I like how he really put 100% into answering them! That’s a beautiful picture of you, Tamara, and I enjoyed his description of it. Also, I want to hug that wolf more than anything! <3

    1. He worked so hard on the answers! I love that. Next time I’m going to give him more time. He did these Thursday night, but that is the authentic Ask Away Friday thing to do in this household. I’ve never done them a day before Thursday, unless I had to preschedule due to travel.
      I want to hug that wolf too!

  24. Wow, a five hour interview. I don’t think I could talk for that long, but it sounds like it was a really awesome job. I would love to work in procurement and spend other people’s money for a living.

    1. I know, right? My Aunt did Purchasing for Universal Studios in Orlando and one of the more interesting things she bought was a special chemical that would make the King Kong ride have banana breath!
      You can’t make this stuff up!

  25. Tamara: I love your ask away Friday’s but this one is crazy refreshing! What a cool way to implement a Cassidy takeover! The way your husband describes you is downright amazing AND so true.

    Cassidy: I love the way you describe Tamara and that picture you took captures her perfectly, especially the way you describe it. Your smoking of basement bowls only made me like you guys more! So forthcoming! You two make a great team…but you already knew that. Just know it shows big time.

    1. haha! I adore you, Rebecca. The smoking of basement bowls is really, strictly a Cassidy thing but I’d make an exception for you. I love that he was forthcoming. Too funny.
      And I love what you saw in the way he described me.

      1. Oh don’t worry, no exception needed! I just enjoyed the blunt honesty (lol). You’ve always written from a place of pure truth and it was so great that Cassidy did too. Basically, you guys are the best and your blogging game is on point!

        1. haha! Blunt honesty! The best. I totally agree – he has the same vibe. Different interests but same vibe. I appreciated that a lot! Didn’t even think to edit it…
          You guys are the best too!!

  26. Loved hearing about Cassidy’s perspective of you. The fact that he was willing to share his thoughts is a testament to your relationship.

    I like that he talked about his own artistic pursuits like concerts. Do you share the same interest in concerts? My husband and I are completely different when it comes to attending. I love them, but he’s content staying at home.

    1. If there was Venn diagram of our concert going pursuits, we would share a chunk like Hornsby, Clapton, Winwood, Petty, Knopfler, and some more. But there are large swaths that I love I know she won’t end up at and vice versa. But that seems to work. Built in childcare for each other.

      1. True! And I know that one day we might see Ben Folds or Tori Amos together and it would be very special. I saw a Dark Star Orchestra show with him. I didn’t know any of it but it was an experience!

  27. What a great idea Tamara and a fun new perspective. I love when my husband does his man-day posts on my blog. I learn so much about the man I have been married to for almost 16 years. In August we will hit that landmark πŸ™‚ Have a great weekend, hope there are skies of blue and fields to run through and create wonderful summer memories with your family.

    1. I love man-day posts. I have been married for six years, and this post was eye-opening to me. It’s like daily life and work and exhaustion sometimes make you forget all that is there, and all that you fell for. This was a nice reminder.
      Have a great weekend! Definitely skies of blue and fields to run through today.

  28. Nice idea! I don’t know if my husband would answer stuff. Or if he did, it would be very brief. Like, “Yes.” “No.” Or, “It’s great.”

    I love the magical childhood!

    1. haha! Maybe that should be a post, no? You ask long-winded questions and Tom answers with, “Yes.” “Cool.” “Ok.”
      I would read that.

  29. This is a great idea! I love hearing your husband’s perspective on things. That is really my favorite part of my blogging week when we have man-day over on my blog and my husband takes over. I learn something new each time about the man I have now been married to close to 16 years. Have a great weekend!

  30. Love this! I feel like I got to know even more about Tamara through Cassidy’s answers. My husband is so shy and I don’t even think he reads my blog anymore. He gets enough of me face to face. I can be a bit much sometimes.

    1. You know, I find that interesting! And I love that. It was like a missing piece of me on my blog. And I’m happy to fill it, little by little.
      I can’t imagine you can be a bit much! I think Cassidy has read all of my posts ever. I guess it really depends on the type of blog, though. Mine is about our lives and a lot about his contributions so I think (hope) it’s cool for him to see.

  31. I love this! An amazing idea and I love hearing Cassidy’s perspective. Love #2 and that picture of you Tamara. And of course #9 too. My sister interned at ILM in college and had the most amazing experience there. I remember going to the campus for the summer picnic.

  32. After reading this, I can totally see why the two of you are together. It just all fits. Love the answers and honesty, Cassidy. I’m looking forward to you gardening vlog! πŸ™‚

  33. I love that Cassidy did this! I don’t think my hubby would be quite so willing! πŸ™‚

  34. Bummer my comment timed out so I hope this isn’t a duplicate, but I was saying right on with Cassidy’s travel plans! Considering I don’t travel much, I’d love to go somewhere completely different from what I’m used to, different language and everything!

  35. Cassidy, we are so sorry for getting here late and you knocked this out of the park!!! GREAT JOB!! I picked #4 to comment on because just the other day I left a comment to Tamara that I want the two of you to adopt Phoenix and me LOL! I absolutely LOVE the mystical, magical life you provide and present to your beautiful kids all of the time. I never had that kind of childhood so I always am mesmerized by the stories to the pictures in her posts. Btw sir, is that a real life Timber Wolf?? I’ve been a HUGE wolf lover all of my life and my entire is house is decorated in a wolf deco. Great to hear from you and thank you for doing this for all of us readers to enjoy! Have a great weekend to all of you πŸ™‚

    1. I can’t speak for Cassidy but we’re totally adopting you two. We should have a summer camp here. Han Solo Camp? Mystical, Magical Life Camp? Are you IN?
      (totally a real timber wolf, by the way)

  36. That. Was. Awesome. Love the honesty, the pic of Tamara, and well just everything. It’s amazing how much you can learn about your relationship just from hearing his perspective. Well done.

    1. I think it’s so interesting, Kristen. I learn more about him and how he feels about me when he writes. And it’s not often. Our days of long, flowing emails had to end a bit. It’s nice to know we’ve both still got it.

  37. What a great post! I love reading Tamara’s answers on Fridays, but this was special. I have been following here for a short while only, but it always is fun. Today was no exception, but came with the addition of – magic. The magical mystery between the two of you, being so very different, yet so close – magic. Really beautiful. Thank you so much for being so open and sharing it with us.
    On a different note: Wow – working of ILM and LucasArts?! How amazing that must be… I am trying hard to imagine. What a wonderful feeling it must be to see your own work presented to the world. Good job! Now I have to watch VanHelsing again just to see the TimberWolf – I love that picture. Wolves are special.
    Have a wonderful weekend, you two. Or four. Or was it seven? πŸ™‚

    1. It’s totally seven! So very overwhelmingly so.
      Everything you write here is so beautiful to me. About the magical mystery and being so different and so close.
      I hope he’ll chime in with some ILM and/or Van Helsing thoughts!

  38. Tamara I’m just as stunned into silence as you are. Are you sure Cassidy doesn’t have a secret blog of his own? He did a fabulous job with all his questions and I’m so loving #9. Now we have to include Scarlet in this because now that we’ve heard Des and Cassidy, Scarlet can’t be left out. Here’s to a fabulous weekend!

    1. He’s quite the question answerer! Next Scarlet will have to make an appearance, you’re right. I’d love that.
      Everyone is loving #9. I’m cracking up! That one is all him. I’m glad he has something that helps take the edge off the day. My crossword puzzles aren’t cutting it.

  39. Awesome twist on Ask Away Friday! Working for ILM and LucasArts sounds amazing. I would have no idea how to answer those questions, but I love watching a movie come together.

    1. I agree! After all of this I said, “Well.. how did you answer the questions?”
      Granted it was years ago so he might not remember. I would!

  40. Thank you for being honest. I will not be letting my husband read this because he’ll be like “Tamara lets her husband…”. Yeah, well, we live in the conservative corn-husking, cow milking Midwest. And I’m not moving! πŸ™‚

    The pic of Tamara is great. I would totally love to touch the timber wolf but question where you would even get insurance for a timber wolf attack.

    1. haha!! Well we used to live in SF and now this is western Mass. A quite different world. And I can’t really let or not let him do anything at all!
      I did wonder if Google had anything about timber wolf attack insurance.

  41. Dude! Cassidy needs a regular spot here! That was so much fun to read. You guys are so romantic and magical and poetic…or maybe that’s just #9 talking.

    1. haha! #9 never has me talking, sadly. I bet my blogging would be yet more interesting.
      He will be back in two weeks and maybe again after that!

  42. 1. Every once in a while, it’s good to hear from a dude. I felt the same way watching my dad be a grandpa with Elise. He had such a short time with her, but the images of him on the floor just watching her play? I’ll never forget how that felt.

    2. These qualities you see in your kids, from you and Tamara? They’re only going to intensify. Judging by the quality pool they’re drawing from … look out, world.

    3. I’m with you on unwinding with a good bowl. Except, mine’s filled with Frosted Flakes. Which are way more dangerous.

    1. I totally agree, but substitute Lucky Charms. Although Frosted Flakes are my mom’s favorites. There’s little doubt that Lucky Charms are worse for you than.. well.. you know.
      And yet, the marshmallows keep me coming back for more.
      I bet if I did do.. that… I’d want even more Lucky Charms.

  43. My wheels are turning now…I would love to get Matt to answer questions on my blog. Or would I? He can be a bit of a loose cannon. Cassidy, I love what you said about watching your parents with your kids. That really is an unexpected joy of parenthood!

  44. I love that Cassidy wrote the blog post! So fun to hear from a Dad’s perspecive and I love the favorite photo of yours that he picked, and why. You two make a lovely couple and great parents!

    1. Thank you! I’d like to believe we’re doing ok in this crazy world.
      It was totally fun even for me to read his surprising answers.

  45. What a great Q & A with Cassidy! I love the photo he chose of you. The thoughts that come to mind when he thinks of you and this picture, they are so pure and innocent and I can tell there is lots of love and fun between the two of you. How blessed you are!!! As for the love experienced after becoming a parent, spot-on. Definitely surprised me too. Even more, when the 2nd one was born. I couldn’t believe I had more to give.

    1. I was very surprised by his selfless answer about letting his parents have more time with the kids than even he has. Not that he does, but that the sentiment is there.
      Maybe I’m selfish and possessive but I don’t share that one. To me, these are our kids and they’re only young once and we get priority.
      You just learn something new and amazing about your spouses, year after year.

  46. I LOVE the act of putting The Hubs on the heat seat to answer questions. A fine idea indeed…

    A few weeks ago — on the Wednesday before Father’s Day — I asked The Hubs a set of questions, and I published his unedited responses in their entirety on my blog, and I STILL find myself going back to read them because I love them so much.

    Great post, Tamara and Cassidy!

    Enjoy your week ahead…

  47. What a pleasure to really meet Cassidy. I got a good laugh out of some of these responses.

    Cassidy you’re a good sport. I’m not sure if my hubby would be up for something like this… hmmmm.

    Thanks for sharing and thanks for being a good sport Cassidy.

  48. This was a great idea. Cassidy is great at answering questions. I even got to learn a little about his job, which sounds awesome. I love his theory on grandparents. I am very strict on our kids seeing their grandaprents. They have to see them at least once every two weeks and call them on the phone once a week. Grandparents are only around for so long! Oh and Orphan Black rocks, JC and I are starting Season 2 this week!

    1. I love that. You’re strict in the right direction. My kids have three sets and it’s a bit of a juggling act for ME. I imagine it will get easier when they’re older, though.

  49. Whoa he did say smoke a bowl, right? LOL OMG I am just getting too old. I was absolutely enthralled by his honesty, passions, descriptions and love for family… then he said “smoke a bowl” and I almost fell off the chair! Good for you! I just was not anticipating that at all Apparently, I have been away from NOHO FAR too long. πŸ™‚
    One of the best AAF ever! I loved meeting Cassidy! πŸ™‚

    1. He did, Jodi! He totally did. I was surprised too, but not enough to take it out of the post. You have to know – it’s not just Noho. Before this, he lived in San Francisco in which people talk about it and do it quite freely!
      I’ve actually never tried it, if you can believe that.
      I’m all for people finding their happy places, though!

  50. Oh no judgement at all! I am very liberal….and in my day I…. (forget it- I digress) I was just stunned for a moment to to suddenly read it. πŸ™‚ However, I am glad you chose NOT to edit it. Love it! I am so glad Cassidy participated and he is, by the way, an excellent writer, He should totally blog- if he doesn’t already.

    1. I definitely didn’t see any judgement from you! I loved your reaction. It seemed to get one from many! I’m just glad I didn’t lose any readers.. I have cool ones.
      He’ll be blogging for me every now and then! We decided. (I decided and I hope he agrees…)

  51. Fantastic! I am excited to read it all!

    BTW well pot smoking could garner some viral reaction for your blog and a whole new reader. My friend Corinne in Easthampton formerly blogged “Wine & Psychotherapy” and took a whole Joy from My Name is Earl persona…. Her stats went SKY high and it was hilarious! Unfortunately her EX hubby had “issues” and yada yada- she had to stop blogging. I don’t know maybe something about slander, or something……lol

    Seriously though, I always appreciate the truth of all of your posts!

  52. Oh the one about the photo…LOVE….it reminds me of the one Shawn keeps handy. It’s the one on my blog. He said that was the first time that he saw his wife, the best friend that he married, smile in months after my diagnosis of postpartum depression. It was such a turning point for all of us. It is his hope every time we struggle. Gah…thanks for making me cry Mr.Tamara….

  53. I always feel like I am watching a movie or reading a book when I hear about you two! Seriously you should publish your story one day!

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