Might As Well Jump.

I think we’re a healthy lot – this Bowman family of four.

I think this because Scarlet started her first year of school in September and went right into an absolute cesspool of germs. I think this because there were rampages of colds and flus and stomach flus and eye infections and respiratory infections at school.

There are six weeks left of school and unless we’re all about to be felled in one super flu swoop, this is how the germs affected us: Cassidy (at the worst): a bad cold and a nasty but only 24 hour stomach flu. Scarlet: two tiny and barely detectable colds. Des: one very mild case of croup that did not require medication. Me: Nada. Ok, two days of pollen allergies. That seems unusually lucky to me. Scarlet hasn’t missed one day of school yet. We kept all four Bowmans out of the doctor’s offices and out of the hospitals for awhile..

..until Thursday.

Cassidy hurt his shoulder badly and it’s going to be a fairly long recovery. Not dreadfully long but enough to put a damper on many of our spring and potentially summer plans. He’s still in the thick of it and the challenges are that he can’t pick up the kids, change diapers, garden, cook and clean with ease (two things he does very well) and much more. Driving! Putting on a shirt! Food shopping and grocery carrying! Things will get easier but it’s been an interesting 72 hours without much rest for me. It’s been eye opening for me just how much I DON’T do in the house. I know and I know that I do plenty of my own things like writing and photography, as well as nearly all of the childcare during the week as well as most of the laundry and dishes. However in the last few days I have helped to install a water irrigation system in our garden, make waffles from scratch, make a cauliflower crust pizza, make a pretty awesome omelette, and more. So much more. Intensive gardening. Vegetable planting, up to my elbows in literal chicken s***.

Ah, the fun.

And of course, this was the week in which Des truly discovered the power of his own mobility. He’s been moving, moving, moving everywhere at the speed of light – towards wires while knocking down trashcans along the way. Towards stairs! Pulling up in the crib here and there. It was a long time coming, but oh how it’s here. He’s like a superhero with new powers and all he wants to do is show them off. He remembers them the second he wakes up and asks to be put on the floor to race around. He’s gleeful to discover they’re still there each time. There are sound effects involved – he has this sorta “heh heh” grunt and chuckle that he does while moving.

That boy sure knows how to make up for lost time.

On the even brighter side he knows how to say “Dada” directly at Cassidy in an affectionate way when Cassidy needs it most.

Superpowers for good. And speaking of which, I haven’t stopped moving and doing in 72 hours. I can’t stop. Every time I try to relax, I have to jump back up again at the sound of someone’s voice. Usually I can be a bit lazy when someone calls me and I’ll type out another paragraph of a blog post, or upload another photo. Not so now. If someone needs me, they may need me NOW. It may be Cassidy needing an extra hand. It may be Des crawling right into a wasp (true story but he’s fine). It may be Scarlet needing a hug.

Cassidy can’t hug right now, but I can hug. I can do lots of things, I find. What I can’t do is stop. ‘Cause if I stop, I’ll get tired or overwhelmed or incredibly sad that Cassidy is hurt. If I stop, I’ll lose this momentum. I’ll think about what our spring could have been and what summer might be. If I stop, they’ll ask me to jump back up. I can’t stop because if I stop, I might forget how to keep going.

So I might as well jump.


And in the world of catching up on personal photos, I can’t help look at this photo and miss both Cassidy’s left shoulder being strong, and my father-in-law being here and not in Italy:

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That day at UConn’s barns also involved baby cows nursing…

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..and this cow looking like it’s yelling, “Dude, get the f*** out of here!” like Steve Carrell to the hotel attendant at the end of 40 Year Old Virgin.

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Cuties, cuties. Everywhere.

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Kindred spirits.

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This poor cow (below) is named Paralegal.

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She wasn’t impressed.

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He was.

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  1. I remember the onslaught of germs thanks for preschool! And as far as Cassidy's shoulder goes, I wish him the best and speediest recovery possible. That is not an easy one – for him or your family.

  2. Ah school. My child has been sick since day one.I'm so sorry to hear about Cassidy. It will be an adjustment and I understand how you want to take it all on. You have to remember that you do indeed have to stop even if you feel like you can't or shouldn't. In order to take care of everyone and every thing, you need to take care of you.Make sure you schedule some down time in this mix. Even an hour. Run to the store. Get a pedicure. Lock yourself in the bathroom, have a peaceful poop and then read a book. If you pooped you might as well take a shower. xoox

  3. Oh my! What a hero you are, really! I bet Cassidy can't wait for you to become the gardener you are becoming for him. What a life lesson handled by your four with panache!

    1. One of Cassidy's friends once told me, "Cassidy is hard to surprise. You have to go out of your comfort zone to romance him." It's so true!! Gardening and cleaning and cooking make him happy.

  4. Every time I read your blog and see your beautiful photos (especially the candids), I chastise myself for taking so few photos as my kids have gotten older. I have to take more!Sorry to hear about Cassidy's injury – I hope you all survive his convalescence and recovery!

    1. Thank you so much. I can't wait for "normal" again..or maybe something close to it. He's still in the thick of it but we know relief is around the bend.

  5. What a tough situation. Make sure you get some time for you too, even if you have to ask for it from friends and family. Its tough doing all the things your spouse was doing as well! I hope Cassidy's recovery is quick…for all of you! I imagine he is having a tough time with the limited mobility as well! Thinking of you!

    1. Yes, he's definitely bummed. He just wants to hug the kids again! And he loves to garden. It's been fun learning new things for me, but of course, my photography and writing are slipping a bit. Maybe we'll create a new normal with a good balance and I'll pitch in more and he'll pitch in more with the kids so I can have these quiet nights.

  6. We seem to always get a few colds throughout the year, no matter what. And like Ilene said, I wish Cassidy a very speedy recovery. My husband and I have both been injured at different times through the years so I know the challenges and adjustments that are required. Hope things can return to normal again soon.

    1. My doctor said kids my daughter's age average 5-10 colds a year! They're just not all terribly noticeable. Probably some. I feel like when I have a cold it's like being slammed. Ah, the wonders of youth.

  7. When the kids are little inertia is your friend! I wish the speediest of recoveries for Cassidy. And if you thought it was impossible before… now you appreciate him even more!

  8. Oh, I'm so sorry about Cassidy's shoulder. I hope he has a swift recovery. That is a tough, tough thing to have happen. 🙁 I totally get what you are saying about stopping. I feel you there. I do hope you have a chance for a little bit of break in there sometime by some miracle. Love the photos. They're just beautiful! –Lisa

    1. Thank you. Maybe when all four in-laws come back..or I can ask a friend. I always feel too badly but hey, I need a break too. I did get to go out on a quiet date with just my daughter today while the baby napped but of course he woke up earlier than expected and I had to rush home.

  9. Makes me think we're going to get slammed one of these years. Granted I have a very good immune system and always have but I certainly got the occasional cold and small flu as a kid. Once I got chicken pox and once strep. Nothing else, though.

  10. haha…my husband married me knowing I'm a clown at domestic stuff. However I've learned a lot over the years – like how happy it makes him when I pitch in. I mean in the beginning I literally sat around like a princess while he did all cooking and cleaning. Kinda funny to remember it. I guess I got what I deserved with having kids. Tons of tough work.

  11. I know the feeling of wanting to take everything on, but remember that you need to breathe as well. :)I hope Cassidy feels better soon!

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