..Or like a comforting post at the end of a hard week, I’m partnered with The Real Nani for this week’s Ask Away Friday!
I actually know Nancy in person. Note: I did not say “in real life” because you are real friends to me and many of you have crossed that bridge to becoming “in person friends” too. Speaking of which, is anyone going to Bloggy Boot Camp in Philly in September? Now, back to Nancy. I met her at my town’s Farmer’s Market just over four years ago when Scarlet was a baby.
Sadly, Nancy moved out of MA not very long after we met but we got in some good hang time over the next year or so after the Farmer’s Market meet and had a delicious meal together for her farewell party. She has a wonderful way of thinking, speaking, writing and looking at the world. She has three insanely beautiful kids, and lots of intriguing stories to share.
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#AskAwayFriday was created by the amazing Penny from Real Housewife of Caroline County as a place for us to connect with other bloggers by asking them ten questions to really get to know them. The sky is the limit with the questions you ask!
Tiffany from Mrs. Tee Love Life Laughter,
Christy from Uplifting Families,
Stacey from This Momma’s Ramblings
Amber from Bold Fit Mom
This week we welcome a brand new co-host, for the next two weeks the amazing…Stephanie from So I’ve Been Thinking!
Stephanie is a lovely wife and mother of 3 – a 13 year old a 11 year old twin girl and boy. Let’s just say juggling a teen and 2 preteens has her on my Super Mom list for sure. Stephanie has an amazingly friendly personality and a visit to her blog would definitely be a worthy click. I’ve met her in real life now, twice, and I consider that a very lucky feat.
Be sure to check out Nancy’s answers to my questions HERE. And here are my answers to her questions:
1. I saw an article recently (read: I read the headline and jumped to conclusions) about a mom who was backlashing against the idea of creating “magical childhoods.” But I think childhood should be magical sometimes! And it seems that you and Cassidy have created magic for your kids, too. Do you think we, as parents, should strive for magic or is that too much pressure/work?
I too, read that headline and then didn’t read the actual article! ha! I think it’s a little of both. I think childhood IS magical, as long as the right things are aligned – health, happiness, communication, etc. So I don’t think it takes all that much – or that it shouldn’t. It shouldn’t feel like work. Cassidy and I both get a drive when we’re creating magic for Scarlet, and sometimes it’s as simple as pulling jelly beans from “nowhere.” Sometimes it’s as complicated as puppies, TARDIS sheds and building fairy gardens, but that’s not an every day thing. I know people get intimidated by what they see on Pinterest, but they have to know that not everyone does that stuff. We should be doing what plays to our strengths and desires. I don’t believe my kid will wind up resenting that I didn’t swing a creepy elf from our ceiling fans, but she’ll remember finding a vanity/piano in our garden.
2.I know you come from a blended family and there are a lot of you. I have the same situation! But who belongs to who? I want to know!
I was wondering if anyone would ever ask me! I may have to cull together photos here. So my birth family includes my parents, my older sister and me. My father passed away the same summer (July of 1984) that my (not bio)dad’s first wife passed away. They had three kids together – my two brothers and my little sister. So my mom married my now-dad and we became the Brady Bunch! I gained a dad, two brothers and a sister. They gained two sisters. In this first photo, it goes from left to right: Little brother holding my nephew and his wife – my pregnant sister-law. Then we have my brother-in-law, who is married to my little sister, who is holding Scarlet. Then we have me looking like a flower child, holding Des. Then my mom (blood) and my dad. Then my older brother, followed by my brother-in-law’s mom! Then we have my older sister (blood) and her husband-to-be!
I added a second photo because it has Cassidy in it. It goes from left to right: little brother, sister-in-law, brother-in-law, little sister, older brother, Cassidy, Me, older sister (blood-related) and future brother-in-law:
3. I got hooked on “husband-meeting” blogger serials way back when Ree Drummond published hers and I loved yours, too! I always think about writing mine but I’m amazed at how much detail you remembered and I don’t think I could remember that much. Those were heady days. What memory-joggers did you use in the process of writing that story?
I don’t think I ever could have written that story by memory – way too many details. I kept every email we ever had, even when we had broken up for two years and the thought of those emails made me want to die a little. It was the perfect documentation. Most of our relationship started through email, and then eventually we moved to phone and meeting in person, but so much started and continued in those emails. They even documented the buildups towards seeing each other, and the aftermaths. I always think it’s so exhausting how authors have to research so heavily for books, but now I get it. It’s a good kind of research.
4. Your house seems amazing; like a fairy tale come true. How did you know it was the perfect house for you and Cassidy and the kids?
We were starting to get serious about another bigger house – as serious as a second showing of it. It was big and beautiful but needed a lot of work, had no yard and had no central air. Ultimately, I couldn’t see it happening. We both then noticed our future house in the real estate listings and we were totally intrigued by it. It looked like a ski lodge, after all! We went to see it on a beautiful, dry, sunny September day. We couldn’t contain our interest, I fear. And the woods.. so dreamy. It felt right. I’m not going to say it was easy and that I didn’t then/still do think about luxury dream houses, but man, it feels like home.
5. Were both of you always obsessed with Dr. Who or did one of you infect the other?
Oh, there was some infection! Cassidy grew up watching it. I had never even heard of it. For years, he tried to explain it to me and I still didn’t get it. Sometimes I still don’t! Ultimately, I fell madly in love with the stories and themes. It’s deep.
6. Lately, I’ve had a random, super-cheesy lyric stuck in my head, from The Wedding Singer: “I wanna grow old with you/I’ll even let you hold the remote control.” What’s your favorite cheesy lyric?
Well first of all, that’s one of my favorite movies ever!! I don’t know if this is cheesy but in “Take On Me” by A-ha, he says, “You’re all the things I’ve got to remember.” I LOVE that.
7. What are three life skills you want to pass along to Scarlet and Des?
1. Kindness and manners. Really, what is more important than that?
2. During our parent/teacher conference, Cassidy had said that everything else – the milestones, learning to read, do math, etc. – all of it pales in comparison to Scarlet being happy. It’s about learning how to carve out her happiness in this world. And not to let anyone or anything take it away.
3. Positivity, relaxation, effective communication, building confidence and bravery.
Oops, I gave you more than three! I cheated.
8. What would a granola named after Scarlet have in it? How about Des? (I feel like maybe you already answered this question but I can’t find it anywhere!)
I’ve never been asked this question! I think Scarlet’s granola would have oats, maple syrup (and a whole lot of it), Lucky Charms marshmallows, pretzels sticks, and peanut butter chips. If it were up to her, she’d say cheese poofs, but I’m not sure that would make the cut. Des… Des.. Green peppers? Kale? Whole cake pops? Cheese! Ok, let’s come up with a real one. Des’ granola would have oats, maple syrup, little waffle cookies, (I just made that up), chocolate chips, also Lucky Charms marshmallows, and yogurt covered raisins.
9. I admit, I’m a little unnerved by the fact that I am a mother of a boy! I come from a family of mostly girls (only one baby brother and an older half-brother, out of 7 total siblings). I feel like I don’t understand boys at all but so far, boy babyhood has been easy. What about you?
It’s funny – my mom only gave birth to girls and Cassidy’s parents only produced boys. Honestly, Des is fairly easy. He’s harder than Scarlet was, but always just a little. He is mischievous, though, and will steal chocolate, hit the dog, and dip his hands in dirt and smear it everywhere. I don’t know what differences are attributed to the sex of the child, and what are just the personalities/birth order. I guess it’s just a little bit of everything, right?
10. How much do you secretly hate people who mispronounce your name? Be honest!
ha! Well I don’t hate the people themselves! Honestly, I don’t mind it because it’s so common that I just respond to it all. If it’s someone’s first time addressing my name, of course they get full rights because they don’t know yet. If I’ve known them for awhile, then I may need to correct them. What really steams me is when people spell my name wrong. I get “Tamera” sometimes and I get annoyed because if you want to know how to spell my name, it’s all over the place!! Just open your eyes.
Anyway, thanks Nancy! I needed my week to end like this. Loved your questions!
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