This post title is inspired by the song “No More Looking Back” by The Kinks. It’s fantastic.
I’m publishing this tomorrow, on New Year’s Day, but I’m writing it today, on New Year’s Eve. It’s strange to think that in eight hours, it will be a new day, a new month and a new year. I’m ready. I’m waiting right now for several friends to arrive, from eastern MA, Connecticut, and Chicago. We will have the biggest eating fest you could imagine, and we’ll watch live Phish on webcast. I’ll be celebrating with Cassidy’s old friends, who have in time become my old friends, and I love that. I will also be celebrating with two newer friends that I met through Scarlet’s preschool, and it feels right to ring in a new year with them.
I got this “Year in Review” post idea from Melissa at Home on Deranged and I’m happy to reflect with answers to questions.
What did you do in 2013 that you’d never done before?
The first thing that comes to mind is that I photographed a renewal of vows wedding ceremony. My first wedding!
I also became a published author in a fabulous book, and became friends with many of my co-authors!
Lastly, I joined a blogging community and met so many of you wonderful people, some even in real life! (and their kids!)
Did you keep your new years’ resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
I don’t really make New Year’s resolutions, but I certainly have year-long and lifetime goals. I think my resolution was to make lots of money, and I did make more money than I had in years, so that was nice. It does help keep the constant edge off. For this year, Scarlet made us a resolution – we all have to see a moose together in 2014. Suffice it to say, it will be done in style.
Did anyone close to you give birth?
Yes, a few friends had some real beauties this year. And 2014 will be the year that family members give birth. Oh, yes.
Did anyone close to you die?
My mom lost a good friend who I loved very much. My grandfather passed in 2012, rather, but the sadness lives on. I’m so happy to say my 100-year-old grandmother saw all of 2013 and more, in New Jersey and close to my parents. Onto 2014!
What countries did you visit?
Yeah, about that. I still haven’t been anywhere except for America and Canada. Maybe in the next few years. Certainly someday.
What would you like to have in 2014 that you lacked in 2013?
Consistent work. This will happen when I let it, and I’m about to get to that point, if not already there.
What date from 2013 will remain etched upon your memory?
July 6th, 2013. That’s when we threw Scarlet an Alice in Wonderland themed birthday party. We worked together, tirelessly, tracing and painting cardboard cut-outs, and the surprise on our little girl’s face when she took it all in? Well it set the stage for all future surprises. In that, we like building them.
What was your biggest achievement of the year?
See the first answer! The wedding, the book, the blogging community!
What was your biggest failure?
Oh, it’s probably not best to go too into those! I haven’t been able to let go of bitterness I have for people who make me uncomfortable or annoyed.
Did you suffer illness or injury?
Hmm..I think not! I can say that I didn’t even get a cold in 2013! I had mild seasonal allergies in spring.
What was the best thing you bought?
Without a doubt, it was Scarlet’s new bed. To be fair, I paid for half and Cassidy paid for the other half, but it still counts.
Whose behavior merited celebration?
Both kids for different reasons! Scarlet can be challenging, but wonderful and wise. Des is just…well you have to hang out with him to see. He’s all personality. He’s clever. He’s calm. He sits and plays independently for hours. He’s the reason people have third babies..but…it doesn’t always work out so easily!
Where did most of your money go?
Food. The Disney trip. Gifts for everyone.
What did you get really, really, really excited about?
Everything I’ve already mentioned! My book, photography, surprising Scarlet with her Alice party, her bed, and the Disney trip.
What song will always remind you of 2013?
“Safe and Sound” by Capital Cities.
Compared to this time last year, are you:
Happier or sadder? Happier.
Thinner or fatter? Probably thinner, but only by a bit. I’ve been within the same ten pounds since high school, except when pregnant.
Richer or poorer? Richer, but not by a lot.
What do you wish you’d done more of?
Chilling out. Letting go. Kissing. Exercising.
What do you wish you’d done less of?
Freaking out. Holding in. Not kissing. Not exercising.
Did you fall in love in 2013?
Not with someone I wasn’t already in love with.
How many one-night stands?
None last year. None ever.
Who were your best friends?
My sisters. My kids. Cassidy. And many others of you. I can’t narrow you friends down. I just can’t. You’re all best friends.
What thing did you do that was meaningful to others?
I don’t always have a lot of money, but when I can, I donate photography.
What were your favorite TV programs?
Once Upon a Time, Revenge, Modern Family, New Girl, Arrested Development, Doctor Who, Parenthood.
Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
There’s no room in my heart for hate, for people in my life, but when I hear stories on the news about cruelty and abuse and murder..my blood boils with something I’d rather not talk about.
What was the best book you read in 2013?
It wasn’t one of my better reading years, but I just finished “The Secret Keeper” by Kate Morton, and I was just SO in there.
What was your greatest musical discovery?
So much. I’ll just say that recently I discovered that on a long trip, I can set Pandora to the Disney station and make Scarlet a heck of a lot happier. And if you have that chance to make somone a heck of a lot happier, you take it!
What did you want and get?
A Uconn Huskies shirt? Camera stuff. Books. Chocolate. More jobs. More love. More friends.
What did you want but did NOT get?
A moose in my yard.
What was your favorite film of this year?
Well I haven’t seen very much, but I saw Silver Linings Playbook in 2013 instead of 2012, so I’ll just go with that.
What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I turned 33 and spent it with family. Cassidy made me Pinterest-wishlist-inspired dinner and dessert. And we rearranged the house that week.
What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Money. Boy it sucks to admit that. Boy it sucks to be in that.
What kept you sane?
I have learned to manage my situational anxiety a lot better, and to this day, without ever using medication. (not that there’s anything wrong with that but I was nursing this year!). And I am kept sane by many things – TV, books, music, kids.
Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
Eh. I like a lot of the guys on “Once Upon a Time” and “Revenge”.
What political issue stirred you the most?
I can’t even. I will offend at least half of you. People sometimes…their brains…? Not engaging.
Who did you miss?
Far away and long ago family and friends. Too many to count.
Who was the best new person you met this year?
I could never narrow it down!
Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2013.
Instead of recoiling when faced with a new challenge, and thinking of all the reasons I can’t do it before even doing it…Well.
Now I say “yes” and just fake it until I make it. I make it happen. I learn fast.
Quote that sums up your year:
“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.”
“But lately I’ve been going to
All the places that remind me of you.
And just when I think you’re out of my head
I hear a record you played or see a book that you read.” — The Kinks “No More Looking Back”