I don’t think I do. I think I talk about Cassidy a lot and I talk about our family and our creative endeavors but there’s a distance to that. There’s a shield or several. I’m usually the one taking the photos or writing the posts. I want in on the fun. The more much fun, as toddler Scarlet would say. I actually have my eye on some photographers because all of this data entry better lead to some FUN when I’m done (hopefully in the next day or four) and I want to invest in some family photographs.
I want to get what I give people – endless glossy photos of their families – both posed and candid, and just plain in love. Although I’m not sure anyone out there really gives what I give – which is like 100-300 photos per session. I’m insane, though.
It’s a work in progress. We’ll get some family photos soon – and not just with a self-timer because I want someone else’s vision to come to life. It would be fun to really bare those photos here because I’m a bit silent about marriage. It’s messy and imperfect and sacred and shielded. That’s not to say you don’t get nearly all of me, because you do, but I let the rest out in bits and pieces and spurts. Occasional photos. Stories and perspectives. Maybe some dreams. Sometimes his words. He’s quite a guy, obviously. The man who built a Groot suit in six days and stole my heart through emails and phone calls. Even when I thought he was a woman. Because. Cassidy can be a girl’s name. I’ve never met anyone else quite like him, honestly.
Maybe that’s a story for another day, or maybe some of it will be for today. I don’t yet know my questions for today’s Ask Away Friday, but I will be answering them below shortly. I’m taking another set from the New York Times article about falling in love through 37 questions. Link HERE. And here’s something to fall in love with and perhaps a message of this post:
If you get a chance, try to find the Intersections box set version of this song. It’s six or seven minutes. It’s astonishing. I searched and searched for it, but couldn’t seem to get a sound file or video clip of it in time for this post. It’s worth it.
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1. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
Oh, hmm.. Are superhero qualities or abilities out of the question? I’d love to be able to fly. If we have to go realistic here (boo but yay too) I would love the ability to play piano perfectly by ear. Oh yes. And I’m cheating here with another by saying I’d love to have gained the quality to heal people, and heal myself. Maybe heal myself first so that I can then heal others.
2. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
I wouldn’t really want to know how long we all live.. I don’t know! If we see something, is there still time to change it? In that case I’d love to know that we’re all healthy and happy and doing what we love. With gusto! And northern lights.
3. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
YES. Pulling off boots and a dress, rather than just boots and skinny jeans OR sandals and a dress. I like the overlap. Wait, what? I’ve always wanted to visit Alaska and I guess money is the biggest obstacle and also wanting it to be a family trip so that both kids remember it. If you remember, Des has been sleeping his way through Disney World. Alaska holds other dreams for me – moose, whales, wolves, northern lights, photography, writing, mountains, probably some chocolate. I dunno.
4. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
I would be remiss if I didn’t say it with a photo, because it shows three accomplishments: husband, kids, photography. Add the fact that it’s being written here and we can add a fourth. This blog! Also eating cookies a lot and not gaining weight.
5. What do you value most in a friendship?
That way you can fall in love platonically and have it be unconditional. And all the understanding, patience, kindness, humor, cookies, timeless, love, help things. And for making me feel possible when I feel impossible. I hope I do the same.
6. What is your most treasured memory?
I couldn’t narrow it down. I could probably wax poetic about meeting both of my kids, but that was so surreal and achy and painful and hard and wonderful. So I will say it’s when I saw Cassidy again, two years after our dreadful breakup.
7. What is your most terrible memory?
I have a lot, but I have to say that the most excruciating and damaging was my father’s sudden death.
8. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
Yes, yes. I’d stop worrying about money and I’d call everyone I love and tell them exactly how much I love them. I should be doing that anyway. I’d also buy an expensive camera and travel the world with it. I should be doing that anyway, right?
9. What does friendship mean to you?
You silly question! See #5.
10. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
Pass! Yawn. Ok, just kidding. Umm.. they’re in my life and I really like them but I don’t like to be touched when I’m eating. And Scarlet always wonders why I sleep at the far end of the bed so I guess I’m not snuggly when I’m deeply asleep. I’m also a bit awkward sometimes in person because I might really want to hug someone but I’m not sure it’s a hug situation so I don’t always know what to do. I also smother my kids in hugs and kisses. They both have very kissable cheeks.
11. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items. Since I didn’t get to Cassidy in time for this post, I’ll say five things about him and hope he’ll say five about me soon..
1. Ambitious and the ability to strive, survive, thrive and dream.
2. Very kind.
3. Incredibly creative and successful.
4. So strong.
5. Very handsome.
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