How To Be A Less Annoying Partner

Partners can irritate one another even in the most devoted of relationships. Here is how to be a less annoying partner.

How To Be A Less Annoying Partner

Partners can irritate one another even in the most devoted of relationships. After all, every human being has flaws.

While it is nice to think people can love one another despite their shortcomings, the truth is that working on yourself could improve your relationship for the better. Your partner will at least appreciate your willingness to be a more compatible presence in their life, even if the results themselves are not quite impressive just yet. 

Of course, the occasional bout of arguing is expected in most relationships. From instigating dramatic sleep divorces to losing tempers at the slightest disturbances, things can quickly spiral out of control here. 

Still, minimizing these instances wherever you can is undeniably in your best interests. Here is how to be a less annoying partner.

Be Honest with Yourself

It is natural to feel a need to assign blame to someone else in any argument. However, the first (and arguably biggest) hurdle you must overcome is reflecting on your behavior. 

Most people are annoying in at least some capacity. Whether it is loud eating, forgetfulness, clumsiness – everyone truly has a hangup. Try to move away from redundant argument tactics and thoughts of one-upmanship and focus on solutions to your problems instead of stewing in them. 

Sit down and self-assess yourself. Make a note of the criticisms your partner has said. You could even ask your friends and family if they agree with your partner’s assertions. It is time to act if they do. 

Being self-aware can be a liberating and humbling experience. Your partner may also be more forgiving of your more bothersome ways if you acknowledge the problems and take steps toward resolving them. Communicate any self-perceived issues that you have. Once you are equipped with clarity, you can formulate a plan. 

Fix Your Sleep 

Sleep is everything. It can play a huge role in influencing how tolerable you are as an individual. 

If you go to bed late, you risk waking your partner up. Again, if you are a loud snorer, you risk subjecting your partner to a rude awakening. You might think these circumstances are outside of your control. However, there is plenty you can do here to nullify these problems. 

Read this guide from Rise Science about how to improve sleep hygiene and more in your nighttime schedule. They explain that your sleep pattern informs your cognition, your mood, and of course, your relationships with others. If you are finding yourself grouchier than usual, a poor snooze schedule may be the reason for it, so be sure to investigate these matters further.  

Many people are convinced they can ‘get by’ in a day on 4-5 hours sleep alone. Sleep deprivation does not only occur when you are passing out either. You need a good 8 hours of sleep every night; otherwise, your relationship with your partner may become more strained, even in subtle ways.

In the end, your partner may think you are nicer to be around if you are chirpy and refreshed every morning, as well as bedding down at the same time. Everything in your relationship can begin with how much sleep you get, so try to take it more seriously if you can. 

Have Time Apart

There can be pressure to spend as much time with your partner as possible. It comes easy when the relationship is new, but the need for some ‘me time’ can be felt as time goes on. 

Of course, many couples were not sure if their relationship would survive the pandemic, spending more time together than they would like. While restrictions have eased since then, if you and your partner are still getting in each other’s way every second of every day, then you may need some time apart. 

This effort does not need some dramatic announcement. Try not to make more of it than what it is, and do not interpret it as a ‘break’ in your relationship. It may be that you simply need other people and things in your life to keep you occupied for different portions of the day. 

At the end of the day, you and your partner may have more things to discuss with one another. You could be less tense around each other as you recount your anecdotes. Additionally, the two of you could miss one another instead of wishing for a moment’s respite. Therefore, some time apart could help you come across as being less annoying.


Being annoying might seem normal in a relationship, particularly if it is longstanding. However, if these minor grievances go unacknowledged over the span of years, it could put some serious strain on your relationship. Start working on them now, and your partner will see that you are committed to self-improvement and receptive to their feedback. After all, everyone loves a good listener, as well as someone who is big enough to admit when they are wrong about something. 

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