A lot of men are struggling at the moment, and it is a phenomenon that can be quite hard to understand fully. However, we don’t need to completely figure out exactly why men are having a hard time in order to try and do something about it. And as it happens, this is something that we can all help with in our own way, if we are keen to and we are happy to put the necessary effort in.
In this post, we will take a look at some of the things that you can do in order to help the man in your life to become more confident. Having more confidence will always help someone to live more fully, to be happier, and to make much more of life, so this should prove to be an invaluable tool for all. With the following in mind, you should be able to encourage your man to be more confident in no time.
Show Them Their Good Qualities
Something that is always likely to help is if you make a point of taking some time to help them uncover their good qualities. It’s quite possible that he does not really know about his good qualities or understand how to see them for what they are, and sometimes this might take some coaxing in order to get there. If this seems to be the case, you can encourage him to think about what he admires in himself. Doing so is going to mean that he will ultimately come up with something or other that he finds in himself.
Even if it takes a while, this is bound to lead to a much better view of himself, so it’s absolutely worth doing. You might find that he is happier and more fulfilled because of this, even before having done anything else in this list. And if he is really struggling to think of anything, you could list some of the qualities in him that you have found to be attractive or admirable. You might be surprised at just how much this simple act can help him to realize himself.
Even better, there is a delicious irony here: once he has become aware of some of the good qualities he already has, he is more likely to make even more of those qualities, thus improving how he behaves and sees himself too. This is a virtuous cycle that can prove incredibly beneficial.
Work On Communication Together
Much of the work that men might need to do in order to become more confident can only really be done with other people, and often you will be the person best-placed to do that. One example of this is when it comes to communication. The role of communication in confidence can be very important; it is a lot easier to communicate well when we are confident, and we are more likely to be confident if we are communicating well. So you might want to help your man to work on this as well, if you like.
That could be a simple case of speaking with them and ensuring that the two of you remain communicative in your relationship. Or it might be that you want to gently let them know when they are not being all that communicative themselves. These simple tasks can be all you need to do in order to help him to become a better communicator. Once that is established, you will probably both find that the relationship is better, and that he is more confident. This is a very good situation to find yourselves in.
A big aspect to so-called toxic masculinity is that men often feel that it is shameful to be vulnerable – that to be vulnerable is to be weak, which in turn means that one is unlovable. This is a serious issue in our culture right now, but we can each improve the situation by doing a little something to show our partners that we not only want them to be vulnerable – but we are allowing it, in a spacious and open and gracious sense.
This is something that can prove quite challenging for your partner at first, but in due course he should hopefully figure out how to delve deeper and deeper into his vulnerability, so that he can open up more and more, and benefit from that in due course. All you need to do is to show that you are a kind of safe space in which this process can unfold. You’ll probably find that just doing that is enough to show your man that he can safely be vulnerable – and it’s amazing what an improvement this may bring to your relationship on the whole too.
Work Together To Build Confidence
It’s likely that you also have your own issues when it comes to confidence. If you feel that you could certainly be a little more confident, then you might want to think about working together as a partnership to build each other’s confidence up as best as you can. You’ll be amazed at how much this can help, and what a difference it can make to how you engage with one another when you are building your confidence together in this way. Working together is the only way to ensure that you are both developing happily and openly, and in the healthiest way possible.
In practice, you might wonder, what does this actually look like? It is both simple and profound, and there are so many ways in which you might be practicing it. One day it might mean encouraging one another to face a fear, and the next it could be more like simply working together to build a life that you are both keen on. You will be able to work it out yourselves between you, and it is something that you’ll probably want to focus on in some organic way as you go along. Each day will be different, so make sure that you are aware of that.
Work On Appearances
Although it is far from being the most important thing, for most people their appearance is still somewhat related to their confidence levels. We often, as a culture, make the mistake of thinking this is only true for women, but that is not the case. Men are just as likely to base at least part of their confidence on their appearance. This is something that you can remind your man of if you think that there is something in their appearance which is holding them back from fully loving himself.
Of course, you should be at pains to express that you are not actually saying you want their appearance to change. But if you have noticed, for instance, that he tends to be stressed out or upset about his impending baldness, then it might be kind to point that out, and to spend some time together researching how men can prevent hair loss. If this is done in a gentle and loving way, the results can be truly amazing.
It could even be that your partner starts to take more care of his appearance than ever before. This can be a wonderful thing, and will certainly lead to more confidence in due course.
Be Honest About Insecurities
It’s actually important that you are both doing this, not just him, as that provides the perfect healthy base for you both to be able to do it more and more. Being honest about your insecurities is something which will allow him to open up and be more honest about his own, and that is the kind of position you really want to be in as a partnership, if you can. So it can be helpful if you start with your own, as a means of encouraging him to express himself.
Of course, this is related to what we said above about vulnerability, and they go hand in hand very well. But here you are focusing specifically on some of the things that you tend to be insecure about, and which he tends to be insecure about as well. You might be surprised at what a powerful act this can really be, so it’s something you should try out if you are not already doing it all that much. It could prove useful for the both of you, in fact.
Throughout all of this, it is a good idea if you are being as patient as possible with your man. There might be times when you get frustrated, and it’s good to express this honestly and openly. But in general, try all you can to be patient with him, so that you can expect him to be patient in return – and because this is an effective way to forge the kind of conditions you need in order for it all to work out as it should.
If you can do that, and you can work on all these in turn, he should be much more confident in no time.