Go Ahead, Ask Me Anything.

***Stay tuned until the end so you can find out how to ask me anything. Really. I think?

Whenever I have a particularly emotional day (happens a LOT), I so swiftly turn it into a blog post.

And yesterday, or today if you’re reading this Tuesday night, was such a day. It just started that way – there was no other direction in which the day was heading. You all know how deeply I hate winter mornings. The hatred is deep, raw, ancient, frigid and fierce. I overslept, as one does on a ten degree morning, and then woke up a cranky Des. I was lucky because it was a rare unicorn of a morning in which Cassidy was taking Scarlet to school. And yet, Des slipped on the ice and blamed me. The van door was iced shut again, so I blamed Honda. Not only was it iced shut, but in trying to get it open, it became stuck ajar and would not open OR close. It was some strange purgatory of van doors. If I tried to drive, it beeped very angrily and incessantly at me. So I turned the darn thing off, drove on the icy roads to daycare, and came back to see what the day held.

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(I didn’t change his eye color in Photoshop! They look cat-like from the light. I dig that.)

The day held a lot of self-care, some healthy and some not so healthy things (cough..cough.. one last Chestnut Praline Latte before they’re gone). I was really exploring a childhood memory or two of being trapped and how horrific it was. And it really explained how I get as an adult when I feel trapped. Sometimes it helps just to know we have a way out to run free.

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Speaking of mental health, I was on the Stigma Fighters website today (link HERE) Definitely check out her website, the other articles and the Stigma Fighters organization because there is big stuff happening there. I hope to be part of the ride.

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On a really odd, magical and crazy note, I found out through this article that my twin cousins grew up with Sarah of Stigma Fighters. And it’s all kinds of crazy because I brunched with my cousins in NYC when we were kids and we talked about being writers. And my cousins’ mom coached me with writing, when I was majoring in journalism. It’s ALL connected.

Make no mistake about that.

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So I’m participating in something really fun, to talk about the movie Ask Me Anything.

Hello, Robert Patrick! Hello, Christian Slater! Hello, Justin Long! Hello, father from “The Lying Game!”

For more info on the movie, you can check it out here:

I thought it would be fun now to open up the opportunity to ask me anything. Really anything, I think, because I don’t know how crazy this will get. Is there anything you’ve always wanted to know? Is there anything you want to know more about? The questions can be anything and I’ll try to answer as many as I can in next week’s Ask Away Friday. Sorry it can’t be this Friday, but I’m paired up with the lovely Cascia, and besides, I want to leave enough time for the questions. Ask in the comments!

Or you can email me too. Ask Away Friday is usually only ten questions, but you all know I’m an overachiever.

And proud of it, man.

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About Tamara

Tamara is a professional photographer, a mama of two, a Lifestyle Blogger/Social Media Influencer/Brand Ambassador, and a nearly professional cookie taster. She has been known to be all four of those things at all hours of the day and night. She is a very proud contributor to the book, The Mother Of All Meltdowns, the Stigma Fighters Anthology (volume 1), and The HerStories Project: So Glad They Told Me. She is also a proud Community Lead and a regular contributor to the SoFab Food blog, and the Target Made Me Do It blog. After two cross country moves, due to her intense Bi-Coastal Disorder, she lives with her husband, daughter, son, dog, cat, and 11 chickens in glorious western Massachusetts.


Go Ahead, Ask Me Anything. — 126 Comments

  1. Oh man, I am so drawing a blank what I would want ask you, mainly because I know that if I do want to ask you something you are seriously only a text message away – always. But still I will brainstorm and totally text you. Oh and by the way, it snowed and was freezing cold here, too. And think you know already your twin is so not a fan either. So yes I might have been complaining just a bit here today, as well!!

    • Two weeks from today, I fly to Florida! I just keep thinking about that. Eye on the prize.
      And definitely let me know if you think of any questions, but I’m sure I’ll be fine in that department! I only need 10!

  2. Here’s one, do you hate when us southerners complain about our lack of winter? Like do you stick your middle finger up if I post on FB that it was 73 degrees on Sunday? I didn’t post that. I do try to be sensitive 😉 and I really do hate the heat as much as you do the cold.

    • Haha! I love that question. I’m so tempted to answer it here, but I won’t.
      I actually hate the heat too, which is why I don’t get mad at people in Florida. I would hate to be them the other nine months of the year. Although I’m going there in two weeks and I can’t wait!

  3. Anything????? Hmmmmmmm . . . . . . . Gotta think of something good! OK – I thought of this because of the book I’m reading. What if you had never met Cassidy? What do you think your life would look like today if somehow the universe hadn’t aligned the way it did and the two of you had never crossed paths?

  4. Oooohhhh, ask you anything, eh? I am going to have to contemplate this one for a while.

    I know how you feel about “those days”. “Those days” usually turn into a blog post for me too! Although, mine are usually packed with snarky sarcasm!

  5. So sorry about your day, Tamara. I dislike those days when every emotion is heightened to a level that is uncontrollable. Hope Wednesday fares better for you.

    My question: What is one piece of advice you can offer novice photographers that will immediately alter the quality of their snapshots?

  6. I’m sorry, I was giggling about the van door. NOT FUNNY, though. I seriously loved your article over there so much, you put everything so beautifully. And it’s true, everything is connected!

    If I could ask you anything…what’s your favorite photography app to use when you’re taking photos with your phone?

    • That’s a good question!

      And you’d be giggling even more if you knew the names I call my van. I pretty much shout them into the winter air. I’m lucky we don’t have neighbors.

  7. You brought a glimpse of July into our January surroundings which is slamming us with a deep freeze even here in Jersey, so Thank You for that! If I may ask you……I’ve read and heard many cool facts over the years about San Francisco, you know all the wonderful things Tony Bennett sings about. What were your favorite things about this uniquely charming city by the bay?

  8. I know those kinds of days and I also know your hatred of these winter mornings. I usually can’t sleep the night before because I am so worried about the cold and the kids and the inevitable slipping potential…

    My question would be if you ever decided to cut your hair what celebrity would you most look like?

    I have a second question because you know, you are my photography idol. So which lens would you purchase after the standard 18/55??

  9. Ask you anything you say? Can I be somewhat playful and ask if you missed us? Ha, just kidding. I missed reading your posts but I took December to unwind, relax, and literally enjoy a stress-free month. I hate winter mornings too and although it hasn’t really been all that cold, we did get snow shortly before New Year’s Eve and I can’t wait for it all to melt and go away.

    • I did miss you guys! I was waiting for you to get back so I could hear about the move and the baby. My question to you is, how are relations with your mom now? Better? Worse?

  10. I had one of those days yesterday. I’m still kind of there…hating the cold. Wanting warmth. Feeling. Found out that another surgery is likely not only inevitable, but potentially not as far off as I’d like it to be. Trying so very hard to be positive about it but failing miserably. I’m sad today.

  11. Tuesday was a day like that here, too. I took my dog to the park and watched him make friends. I played with all the dogs and felt the anxiety disappear for a while into the foggy morning. It might be back today, but I have memories of yesterday’s play to keep it at the fringes. *hugs*

  12. What a cool thing to do – and yet, I can’t think of anything to ask you:(. Tomorrow, we in Atlanta are supposed to wake up to 14 degrees! I feel ya momma!

  13. Ugh I am so over winter, and it’s only just begun. I hate being cold and I hate the looming threat of snow, sleet, and ice. Winter is when my desire to be a stay at home or a work at home mom is the strongest! Add get lighter later and getting darker earlier and I am not a happy camper! My question was going to be hair-related, like how do you have such glorious hair, but after seeing Des’ hair I am guessing the answer is genetic. So I will ask this, have you and your husband always had the geeky loves (ex. Dr. Who, Han Solo) or did one of you have it more and ‘influence’ the other? For me, my husband came into the relationship all about the comic books, superheroes, and sci fi shows and after ten years it has heavily spilled over to me and my interests (since I cook and bake it has actually been a lot of fun to try to find ways to incorporate that into our geeky endeavors).

    • What a fun question. I can’t wait to answer! As for the hair thing, to me it’s a big mess, but I appreciate that. It’s genetics. My father had very thick and dark hair. And I love my kids’ hair.

  14. OK, bad news: we’re experiencing a cold spell here in Florida and it’s only in the 50s or 60s for the next few days. Good news: by the beginning of next week we’re back into the mid to upper 70s. I’m seriously hoping your visit coincides with one of our upswings in temperatures and not the downswings!

    Now, for my question, which is really strange but something I’ve always wondered. In my head, I pronounce your name Tam-a-ra (because, you know, it sounds like camera). But I also know someone who pronounces the same name like Ta-mara. Which way do you pronounce your name?

    • I love that! I will answer in the post, but it’s how I got my blog name. I’ve spent my life telling people that it rhymes with camera.

      It was a bit chilly at times last year in Florida. I’m still optimistic! Especially that it’s better than this.

  15. The fact that it is negative 20 this week with the wind chill is not helping your love of winter, is it? I am so freaking cold. I blame everyone who complained about the humidity in August. Mother Nature is getting her revenge. I cannot wait for summer!

    Here’s a question for you: what is one experience you are looking forward to in the next week?

    • What an awesome question, thank you! Although since I’m answering it next Friday, I wonder I will take something from the following week. And the following week includes Florida.
      Our schools have a two hour delay because of the windchill tomorrow!

  16. It’s only 41 here today in Carolina. I even wore a sweater!

    Your question: If Vladimir Putin said you could only post photos but not write, or write but not post photos, for one year, which would you choose, and why?

  17. Sorry to hear the day was not so great, boy that coffee sounds amazing. For some reason, I did not try any of the gingerbread or festive coffee varieties in December. Hmmm… The pressure is on for a question….Ok, if you won $100,000, what would you spend it on?

    • I like it! And it wouldn’t be college funds although that’s probably the right answer.

      The morning was hectic but the day got very nice yesterday.

  18. So it was a day of asshole cars….
    …I called mine various names and an old man looked at me in horror and I started to laugh hysterically. I kindly told him that I wasn’t talking to him….which you know made the “crazy” look even worse. Sigh…drugs. Drugs. Drugs. When is it summer?
    I’m glad that you write with you’re overly emotional or not. Just get it out and gobble it up 🙂 Yes both. I’m eating my weight in Jelly Beans. It’s better for humanity.
    Much love to you.
    What’s your favourite Jelly Bean flavour and I’m not talking sucky jelly beans…I’m talking Jelly Belly Jelly Beans…the gourmet beans.

    • I love that you asked me about jellybeans. I needed that. It was just the right speed. I also like your story about the old man. That has definitely happened to me.

  19. Sorry to hear about your bad day! I have had my share of days like that, usually it is when all five of my kids are at home. Like today, for example, they are all home because the wind chill is too cold out here in Chicago for school. I bake yummy apple cinnamon muffins for them and to thank me they fight over who gets the biggest one and who gets the butter first. I am thinking, “Come on, kids! They are all the same and you can take turns with the butter!”

    As for my question for you…you have ten of them for Friday! I can’t wait to read your answers. I hope you have a better day today!

    • True, you definitely don’t owe me a question! The day got much better yesterday. Just a rough morning. And we have a two hour delay tomorrow because of the intense wind chill!

  20. Ooh I remember 10 degree days. We lived in Montana before Arizona. Getting kids and yourself dressed and even motivated to leave the house in that is brutal! Ok, so a question… what to ask?? Here goes! Right this minute, first answer that pops in your head (no cheating) where would you like to be and with whom? It can be a time, pretend or real, or an actual place.

    • I love that question! I suppose it might vary based on when I write the post. Or maybe I should just answer the first thing that popped into my head when I read your comment.
      Wow on Montana. Did you ever see moose there?

  21. I have a health related question for you. You’ve mentioned that good vitamins are one of the things that help you with your anxiety. I just started taking good vitamins last year and I love the Garden of Life brand. I noticed a difference within a week of taking the good stuff (cleared up my issue with dry and peeling skin). What supplements do you take and do have a favorite brand?

  22. If you could chose to have one car for the rest of your life, what would it be?…and where (in the world) would it be parked?…and what or who would be in it?

  23. I had a hard time getting out of bed this morning. Mostly because of the cold, but also because I hadn’t slept well. I was pretty sure I was going to fall asleep at my desk, but so far I haven’t (and I leave in 30 minutes!) Thanks for the summer pictures for something nice to look at while I freeze my fingers off at my desk!

  24. Sorry about the rough morning! I would have gotten a sweet drink from Starbucks too :). Ask ya anything huh? You’ve already answered sooo many great questions….if you wrote a book, what would it be about?

      • Whew! So I finally did the windows.. (my house is ALL windows… sunroom, windows floor to ceiling in the kitchen, etc… so it’s quite the daunting task..) and it took me about an hour, since apparently my cats find windowsills to be the best place to tromp around with dirty kitty liter feet.. I do a mass deep window cleaning once a month, and I am *THIS* close to hiring someone to take over this wretched chore. I’m just curious to see what is the bane of other bloggers household chores-wise.. hehe. ^_^ – http://www.domesticgeekgirl.com

  25. This weather truly is horrendous. And it doesn’t help that Eve gets super pissed off every time I go to bundle her up. Sorry kid, you’re not gonna freeze on my watch!
    I’m interested to see what questions people ask you. I, of course, am drawing a complete blank right now.

  26. I’m skipping winter for a month and spending all of January in Florida with my folks during my maternity leave!!! I’m glad because just reading about the cold weather makes me not want to get out of bed! Here’s a light question for you – what do you plan on doing when you get to Florida later this month? So much sunlight and warm weather waiting for you and your family…

    • How awesome! I was actually just opening your blog, but I was interrupted by a FaceTime call from Florida. We are going to be there soon enough. And now I still get to read your post which is open on my computer!

  27. Yeah it’s freezing and I highly dislike it.. Thankfully I worked from home Tuesday and half the day today.. Tomorrow, when it’ll be truly freezing, I will be in the office at 7.. 30.. ish.. 8 the latest really. Lol. It’s cold outside and that makes me cranky :'( Watching Modern Family, makes me happy – and a new episode of the Middle! 🙂 Hope your winter days get better Tamara! Happy Hump Day -Iva

    • I loooove Modern Family. It’s gone a little downhill, but we still watch it.
      Check this – there’s a two hour delay tomorrow because of the wind chill. Fun times!

      • I agree!!!!!! I hope it picks up – I want Alex to get a bit more credit in the show I love her character Lol. We also have a 2 hour delay here! I still have to be in at work at 7 AM – ish.. Lol but I’ll make do. I worked from home Tuesday and half the day today so I can’t really complain. 🙂

  28. Can it be summer again? Warm weather please? When it’s this cold out, I just want to stay in bed and sleep which is what I basically did when I slept until almost 10am! I’m sorry about the bad day. Days like that are jerks. My question for you is do you have a morning ritual?

  29. It’s not just Honda, I had a Nissan van and it’s doors did the exact same thing. You described it so well, It would ding and when I hit a bump the interior lights would flash like it was possessed… it does not make to a great start of the day… now what to ask you…I’m going to have to think about that one!!

  30. You always get asked amazing questions for Ask Away Friday; I’m not sure what to ask! How about… if you had to put together the soundtrack of your life, what songs would be on it? Or… if you could study with any photographer, who would it be?

  31. I hate those days. Those are the ones when I just want to crawl right back into bed and sulk myself to sleep. As for asking anything….that’s a tough one. I’m just going to go to our family’s dinner question: What were the best and worst moments of your day today?

  32. If it was 10 degrees I would have a hard time getting out of bed at all! I’m letting you off the hook and asking an easy one – what’s your favorite thing to do at Disney World?

  33. Sorry to here about your no good very bad day… stupid winter! Hmmm… question…. why can I NOT think of one.

    What Disney movie would you love to be a character in?
    That just came to me because WDW trip and Scarlet’s love of Frozen, although I imagine… you hate all things frozen right now.
    Keep warm!

  34. Your post on Stigma Fighters was wonderful. Thanks for sharing your story. And your pain. What a difficult event for a five year old to even begin to try and process. Now, for a question. Have you ever been deeply betrayed?

  35. Damn winter. It’s freezing here too, and Matt has been in Florida all week. Aarghh. I see you already have tons of questions, so I won’t ask anymore. I’ve already been able to ask you 20 🙂

    • Yes! And I bet we have 30 in us.
      Scarlet’s best friend went to Disney World this week. I keep looking on Facebook and they are completely bundled up in every picture. So I’m not feeling very jealous. Just hopeful that this cold front in Florida passes by the time we get there.

  36. gggrrrrr… Honda doors. Ours freeze shut too. I have been the tired, cursing mom in the garage, with the hair dryer plugged into an extension cord to thaw the damn things out.
    Any question? I feel you will not be surprised by this one:

    If you could live a week inside any fantasy world – Dr. Who, Star Wars, Marvel – which would you choose; and of course, why?

  37. Oh friend, I am so glad you are coming down to Florida soon, winter sounds so dreadful where you live!! The cold front is gone and you will have fabulous weather!!! No questions to ask but excited to read your answers from all the questions in the comments!

    • Well I know you are more south but my friends went to Orlando this week and they were all bundled up the other day. It sort of made me laugh. Then I realized that I really hope that doesn’t happen for us in two weeks!

  38. I love the kids’ hair colors! Seeing some sun in your photos is quite refreshing. It’s still cold over here in Cebu and always raining. Back in my hometown, it’s always warm!
    And well, I’m gonna have to think of a good question.. :p

    • Ugh. Cold and rainy month?
      This is a gloomy season but really no rain ever. Occasional sun.
      The kids get their hair color from Cassidy! Mine is almost black in comparison.

  39. Oh hell no. Car doors being frozen shut? NO. I won’t allow it. That’s not right. You better get your butt to Florida!

    That’s unacceptable. I hate winter on your behalf!

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