It’s funny that I’m using a sports-related title, mainly because I have never watched a football game. In my life. Chalk that up to extreme disinterest and call it a great round to play in “Never Have I Ever..” In my 20’s at parties, I used to save it for the end of the night, along with, “Never have I ever.. gotten drunk. Blown up a balloon. Smoked a cigarette.
Been on a roller coaster. Smoked pot.” Don’t I sound like a barrel of laughs? I’ve done plenty of other things, that I deemed more important than alcohol poisoning/vomiting or latex balloons. (ick) You know what I have done? I photographed a wedding. By myself.
And in the spirit of game days and anxiety, and changing your “Never have I evers..” into “Heck yeah, I haves..” here is my ten step version of “Game Day Prep.” This is how I prep myself for BIG, BIG days. I hope to have many more of them:
1. I wake up in the morning and the first thing I do is check for any obvious anxiety. Am I nervous? Am I worse? Nine times out of ten, I am calmer than I would imagine. Or I am more nervous than I would imagine, but it melts off when I get up.
2. I eat cereal, and nothing else. It soothes. Nothing else does.
3. I shower slowly. I rest and do deep breathing into my diaphragm, because that’s what I’ve heard I’m supposed to do. I think I’m doing it right because my stomach is rising, and not my chest. Ok, cool. Rinse and repeat that one several times.
4. I wear my lucky underwear, and if it’s not summer, I wear my lucky socks too. Even lipstick. It’s that whole mindset that if I look good, then I will feel good too. Or I can just pretend I’m as put together as I seem.
5. I blast music, like “Safe and Sound” or the “American Beauty” score. “Learning to Fly” by Tom Petty and “Song H” by Bruce Hornsby are really great too. There are a number of songs that are soothing and healing to me.
6. I spray an herbal spray called “Fear-Less” into my mouth a few times.
7. I reach out to all of you to tell me something good. And you do.
8. I take test shots of something beautiful and/or strange around my home or yard.
9. I hug Scarlet and listen to her voice. I hug Des and then think of the way he runs with his right arm out, like he’s in a dance.
10. I blast music in my car. I ask for wisdom from the Radio Gods. Often, it plays something like, “Photograph” or “White Wedding.” When I’m on my way to a wedding! To take photographs! Perfection.