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From Your Daddy In Heaven

From your daddy in heaven:

Special note: I originally wrote this post years ago, and I was going to re-publish it as is, but had to change some dates. It’s mostly what I want to say today, though. I couldn’t resist.

From Your Daddy In Heaven: I'm linking up with Finish The Sentence Friday (FTSF) for a fun prompt. This week's topic is Favorite (or worst) Valentine's Days

People complain that Easter is the new Christmas, and we shouldn’t go overboard with kids. That’s me with Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day is my Christmas, even though I love Christmas, and really love them all. I find that you can have favorite aspects of holidays. Halloween has the best atmosphere, and Christmas has the most spirit. Valentine’s Day is the prettiest and most chocolatey, but Easter has the BEST candy. St. Patrick’s Day has corned beef hash and Lucky Charms, which are pretty hard to resist, and is during an exciting time of year! Almost spring!

When you’re nearly done with THIS:

From Your Daddy In Heaven: I'm linking up with Finish The Sentence Friday (FTSF) for a fun prompt. This week's topic is Favorite (or worst) Valentine's Days

And of course, there are the meanings, and how we make our own. My family isn’t religious, but we’re kinda spiritual. Scarlet is now ten and said she doesn’t believe in God, only because she thinks humans mostly get the job done. She DOES believe in fairies and tooth fairies and garden fairies and even Valentine fairies. She knows, though, that I give her Valentine’s Day gifts.

And if you’re shocked that a ten-year-old doesn’t believe in God, well, that’s just Scarlet. If pressed, she’ll give you reasons she DOES believe in a God, or Gods, but not one who judges, condemns, and lets turmoil happen. She’s TEN. I didn’t put those ideas in her head. My religious philosophy can be described better HERE. I wrote it nine years ago, but I assume it’s true. I never reread my writing because it makes me itchy so I’ll trust that you’ll tell me if it says anything?

The reason I love Valentine’s Day is truly an epic, movie-esque, not-quite-happy, really-downright-sad reason, but boy, did it propel a series of not sad Valentine’s Days. I don’t need the works. In fact, I don’t need a single thing. I can tell you about valentines in school – getting three carnation “Love-Grams” sent to my desk in high school (from my sister and two gay friends but that’s neither here nor there). I can tell you about my first college boyfriend and his stuffed bear and three pound bag of M&Ms that I couldn’t look at, because I had the honest-to-goodness FLU. Eventually, I ate (and loved) them. There are many stories to tell, but it starts with this one.

As you know, my father passed away in July – only three weeks before my fourth birthday. Before he passed away unexpectedly, he had put himself on a waitlist for Cabbage Patch “Preemies.”

The Valentine’s Day after he died, I was four and Lindsay was six. This was several months later, and my mom got the call from Child World ON VALENTINE’S DAY (or maybe the day before) that two Cabbage Patch dolls he had ordered were ready for her to pick up, after all this time.

My mom was the room mother for Lindsay’s classroom and had organized a Valentine’s Day game, but instead Lindsay got sick and missed the party. We were home on Valentine’s Day and Lindsay was napping – with a high fever. She woke up and my mom gave us valentine gifts. I remember fuzzy red monkeys that had arms you could clip on things. We got homemade valentines and then the Cabbage Patch Kids dolls. My mom put cards on the boxes that said, “Happy Valentine’s Day, from your daddy in heaven.” It certainly felt cosmic then. It still does.

Sometimes I can open my heart a little bit, and then a bit more, and get back there again.

While my kids know I make a huge deal out of Valentine’s Day, they don’t fully know why yet.

That’s ok. They will someday.

Speaking of great dads and Valentine’s Day, this guy really stepped up for us as our dad:

Happy Valentine’s Day to all, and to all a lot of chocolate!

I’m linking up with Finish The Sentence Friday (FTSF) for another fun prompt. This week’s topic is “Favorite (or worst) Valentine’s Days..” And there’s time to write yours. Link up your post HERE.

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  1. Aw, that story of Cabbage Patch Dolls seriously brought tears to my eyes. But then again Valentine’s Day in general is a bit of an emotional day for me with it being the anniversary of the death of my grandfather. So honestly still not my favorite day sadly because of that by any means, but try so hard for Kevin and the kids to make this day special. Happy Valentine’s Day to you, too now <3

      1. Aw, I am definitely in a bit of a down mood today from my own bag of issues with this day as you already know. But always loved your Valentine’s Day tale and so glad you you re-shared here today. Many hugs, my friend now and always xoxo <3

  2. Loved these questions and answers. Glad to know you wear the leggings in the family and that is a stupid question for 2017. ☺
    Happy Valentine’s day!

  3. Every time I read about your dad and you losing him so early brings tears to my eyes, especially since I lost mine a few years ago. While I got to enjoy mine for a long time, it’s still painful to lose a parent. I’m so happy to hear that your Cabbage Patch Preemies came, that’s something more to remember him by. He was thinking of you always. Do you still have that Cabbage Patch doll?

    BTW… Happy Valentine’s Day!

  4. I was just chatting with a high school friend and remembering the carnations in high school. It was sort of a public and painful reminder of how unpopular I was! Glad I’m not in that anymore… now I can just enjoy loving. We need to talk more about God… I think a day dedicated to love is sort of His ideal day! In the meantime, I wish everyone a great day and a chocolate lava cake:)

    1. The carnations were a thing! My siblings and I would send them to each other. There was one year in which four of us each represented one year of high school! Then my poor sister was still in middle school, all alone, and probably happy about it.

  5. What a lovely tribute to why Valentine’s Day means so much to you. I loved learning more about you and Cassidy through the meme. Happy Valentine’s Day, Tamara!

  6. This is so incredibly sweet. I think it’s fantastic that you have a rather large Valentine’s Day–I’m amused to see Lucky Charms too! I love that cereal. Natalie got Shopkins too!

    I hope you have a wonderful day. I’ve already been through lots of chocolate.

    1. The Shopkins obsession lives on here.
      And we still have Lucky Charms! They make a special kind for St. Patrick’s Day too!
      (I got a lot of chocolate – I hope you did too)

  7. I have tears streaming down my face…

    Just heartachingly beautiful, Tamara.

    What a cherished memory and a truly Heaven sent gift from your daddy to treasure and celebrate every single Valentine’s Day.

    I tried to get through the questions and switch gears… but oh it was hard! I’m simply stuck on your beautiful story.

    Happy Valentine’s Day, my beloved friend- in all the important ways I wish it for you. <3

  8. Scarlet doesn’t believe God because she thinks humans get the job done?? OMG, that is the sweeties, cutest thing I’ve ever heard, I love the way kids minds work, they are so logical and matter of face. WoW Your Valentine’s memory brought me to tears Tamara, thanks for sharing 🙂

    1. Thank you for thinking that! I was worried I’d offend someone.. but we’re not Christian so there’s no reason she should believe in God, although perhaps all her Jewish grandparents might not agree with me..
      So glad you read it!

  9. I love that you had cabbage patch kids on pre order. I was never into Barbies but I LOVED my Cabbage Patch! They were awesome. I love that you take such care into the day. I am the opposite smh. I will take my inspiration from you!

  10. Awww, that is so touching. How sweet of your Dad to order those dolls for you. I am so sorry you lost him when you did. You and your sister were so young to lose your father, but I am glad you had (and still have) each other. What a loving Valentine’s memory!

  11. Now, that was a fun read, Tamara. I loved your intro with the different holidays already and I had read about your dad’s special Valentine’s treat, which is heavenly and then the Valentine’s QA meme – love it. Always fun to read those 🙂

  12. My sister had a Preemie -she loved that doll! She was a preemie herself. I didn’t get to read this yesterday, but now I have a wonderful post-Valentines Day glow from reading this. Thank you Tamara!

    1. Aw! Well my sister had a Preemie and then gave birth to one, so this story was on her mind. We both wrote about it without knowing the other had!

  13. You each do your own laundry?! You are my heroes!
    What a lovely post and story about Valentine’s Day. I can see why it is your favorite. I never had a Preemie. I think it’s right you two got one.

  14. much love to you and your beautiful history about valentine’s day. that you received the preemies was such a special gift from your daddy in heaven. brought tears to my eyes.

  15. What a beautiful Valentine’s story – and you made me cry. My sister and I both had Cabbage Patch preemie dolls – I think my mom still has them! This post had it all – a great story, tears, laughter. Hope you had a great day!

  16. WOMAN!! What are you doing to me this morning? In tears again.
    Wow, just wow, a love message from your dad. How amazing that had to feel and still feel.
    And my kids think the same. 🙂
    When will our families hangout?

  17. Your story is truly heartwarming. We do celebrate Valentine’s but in the simplest way. Reiko wrote a simple letter and woke me up in the morning to show it. My husband and I just stayed home though.

  18. Oh, this story, Tamara! <3
    My mom always bought us cute Valentine's day gifts, and now she does that for Eve. I don't think its origins are for the same reason as yours, but I do enjoy that she made the day so special. This year I made red heart-shaped pancakes for Eve which she loved.
    Also, Sam and I have been together 10 years as well!

  19. Awww what a bittersweet story and reason to celebrate Valentines Day big. I’m sure that’s a tradition that will carry on to the next generation also.

    And LOL to wearing the leggings 😉

  20. love love love so much the story about the Cabbage Patch Kids and Valentine’s Day. I can see why it would leave such a lasting impression on you and think it’s wonderful that you have extended your love of the holiday to your kids. YOU MAKE IT FUN. Also I think I used to have those little clip-on monkeys. And also monchichis. Do you remember those? There’s a story about how I lost one somewhere and cried for weeks about it, drove my poor parents crazy. Those baby pics of you and your sis are so sweet <3

    And I love the Q&A. So sweet, you guys!

  21. Well, I read this again today, and this time I noticed how many gifts you gave your kids on Valentine’s Day. Hahahah Hey man, it’s never a bad thing to make a day special. I like that you embrace holidays. I do too. I also should have used a previous post for today’s Finish the sentence because I had one that was perfect for it, but it didn’t occur to me until after I published today’s less exciting-than-my-old-one one. Oh well. I enjoyed writing it, so that counts. Happy February!

    1. ha! Well that photo is from 2017, I think. Maybe I have mellowed out since then? Although I joked to Cassidy about that and he said I’m pretty incapable of not going big. I will say that I no longer do such expensive toys. I think just a box of chocolates for each, a stuffy for each, and maybe something else special, and then of course – a card! This year I may do books.

  22. I always wanted to all you of the man in the horse drawn carriage is your FIL. Love this photos on your wedding day ❤️

    Oh, Tamara. This post 😭 it makes complete sense why you would hold such reference in your heart for the holiday. I would, too. That’s a pretty amazing story, and a sure sign that your poppa in heaven wanted you to know he didn’t forget about you on Valentine’s Day, and ever. Sniffles.

    Also I totally remember those monkeys with the clip arms!!

    1. ah! it’s my dad! I have my father (dark hair like mine and mustache and in photos where I’m four and under), my dad (big birthmark on his face and long hair – although not above), and I have two fathers-in-law! I have it all, I tell ya.

  23. OMG the story of the preemie Cabbage Patch kids is absolutely priceless and heart-warming! I’m all smiles. I’m glad you love Valentine’s Day. I like spoiling Tucker for it too. Oh! And we both had carnation grams in our posts. 😉

    1. I loved that! Reading yours too! Loved this topic because I planned to wing it – write it from wherever I was on vacation. And luckily this didn’t require much effort.. I mean – I rewrote it poolside.. haha.

  24. Memories have hearts of their own that never stop beating. They live on forever and allow us to cherish them now and for generations to come. As long as we keep our loved ones special places in Heaven in our hearts we will never be alone. ❤️

  25. Wow, again it’s like reading this for the first time. It’s so sweet about the cabbage patch preemies you and your sister got. A message from heaven. Scarlet is wise beyond her years. Valentine’s doesn’t really move me much…not sure why. I have memories of being in school and the excitement making the boxes and decorating them, then waiting to see how many I would get. Innocence.

  26. I remember when you wrote this and I love that you and your sister still have the dolls from your father. It is always comforting to celebrate and cherish all the days with our kids. They will remember…

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