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Do You Have To Let It Linger?

“But I’m in so deep
You know I’m such a fool for you
You got me wrapped around your finger
Do you have to let it linger?
Do you have to, do you have to, do you have to let it linger?”

You got me wrapped around your finger, Do you have to let it linger? Do you have to, do you have to, do you have to let it linger?

The days are doing that timey wimey thing again and I don’t like it!

Thursdays rush forward so fast! Each day feels incredibly long and full and hard and lovely too. A typical day might involve waking up with the sun and trying to figure out who woke up on their own, who needs an alarm, and who is sick. That’s a sad fact of these days. Getting breakfast to all four kids, while figuring out packing two snacks/lunches and planning two school bus arrivals is definitely a two person job. Maybe it’s a three or a four person job, if we’re being honest. I try to work. I fail at work. Some days have road trips to Avon, Connecticut or hired help. So yesterday, I hired a friend to make a recipe for my work and to build my IKEA nightstand. She also soothed my sick baby, entertained my eager-to-help toddler, and took photos of me for another job. “So, what you need is Mary Poppins,” she asked me? And I did. I do. This was a temporary wonder.

It doesn’t make the days longer or shorter; the weeks fly by, regardless.

I measure things out in colds and other viruses. In pimples. Sawyer got a pimple about a week and a half ago, and boy, it lingered. It’s still there, only now we’re concerned with how sick this poor baby is. He seems to “only” have a cold (no fever, negative COVID test, no croup) but colds are cruel for babies. His big eyes are pink and sad. He coughs when I pick him up, and that leads to projectile spit-up all over the floor, and me. So I wait in line to take a bath, even though we have four bathrooms, because we need at least one adult or teen on baby and toddler duty. Then I sink into the suds and I let that linger. All four kids got sick within the last month, and with the exception of Scarlet, the symptoms linger. The pimple lingers. The clouds and snow tend to linger, when the sun hides across from the moon. So I let the good things linger too, like sloppy, clingy, virusey baby hugs, and the warm water washing all of the day’s decay away.

The good feelings; they linger. You can’t possibly wash them all away.

You got me wrapped around your finger, Do you have to let it linger? Do you have to, do you have to, do you have to let it linger?

The song came on satellite while we pretended to wait for the school bus, because really, we were looking for any reason at all to backtrack up the driveway so I could drive her to school with the two sticky babies in the backseat. “It’s Linger,” she said. “A great song,” I said. “Then why did you skip right over it?” She has a teacher who makes a lot of odd jokes. I’m sure I’d love all of them, if I sat in his class. He made a joke about a kid in the class who farted, and you KNOW I love a good fart joke. Every time! He had said: “That fart.. it lingers. Like the Cranberries song!” I laughed when she told me this story, and drove her to school. She retrieved her saxophone from the trunk and asked if she should close the trunk with the button on the back. I replied that I’d grab it but she didn’t hear me so we had a little game of the trunk opening and closing. The guy in the car line behind me got out to help and then saw that it was under control. “Thank you!” I shouted from the car! “No problem!” He shouted back. Scarlet grinned before turning towards the school and I never saw that guy’s face but I grinned that he had tried to come to my rescue.

The good feelings lingered all day.

You got me wrapped around your finger, Do you have to let it linger? Do you have to, do you have to, do you have to let it linger?

Maybe the pimple doesn’t want to go anywhere because it’s stuck on the sweetest face ever. The viruses come and go, finding worthy hosts in all of our healthy little ones. It’s disgusting and disturbing, but it’s also a fact of life and a rite of passage. The viruses just cling and linger these days because of COVID lockdowns and masks in previous years, and because this is what viruses do. It doesn’t make us any less healthy or any less in the fighting spirit. It doesn’t mean a seal has been broken or that our protections have faded away. We just are who we are and it is what it is and all you can do, sometimes, is take your baths and take your hugs and kiss your kisses and hope for the best. Drippy noses and drippy ice cream cones, and drippy hearts of gold.

You can’t possibly wash it all away. You can just let it linger.

You got me wrapped around your finger, Do you have to let it linger? Do you have to, do you have to, do you have to let it linger?

“And I’m in so deep
You know I’m such a fool for you
You got me wrapped around your finger
Do you have to let it linger?
Do you have to, do you have to, do you have to let it linger?”

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5 Comments

  1. Aw I am so sorry that you have sick kids. The bugs are definitely going around right now, Colds are cruel on little ones. I’ve been lucky so far (knock on wood), but my daughter is sick (and pregnant). Hope you stay well Tamara!

  2. I wonder if I used that same rationale with my teens about pimples how they would react? I am sure there would be eye rolling involved.
    I hope you all get a break from the sick train. When it hits a family it just sticks forever!!!

  3. Such adorable pics Tamara, and their charms that make me smile lingers from one blog to the next one, to the next one! Please stay free of colds Scarlet, and l’ll continue to hope with fingers crossed🤞🏻🤞🏻that all the colds and viruses of the season have already left the family and won’t come back to anyone for the rest of fall and winter months! I remember anxiously wanting to purchase their debut album because of this song and “Dreams” and has been my favorite Cranberries album ever since.

  4. Ugh, so sorry about all of the viruses. My husband and I just got over the flu, and it was almost two very bad weeks. I love that song! My son is still in mourning over the Cranberries’ lead singer, Dolores’s death, even though it was several years ago. She was such a talent. I hope the viruses don’t linger much longer for you!

  5. Illness was (and is) my ultimate nemesis. My daughter, who lives far away and is supposed to come home for Thanksgiving, got COVID last week. I don’t think we ever grow out of hating illness. Patience, and trying to stay grateful in the midst, are helpful tools. I also vote “yes” on soup, Advil, saline nose spray, hot baths, and Liquid IV!

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