I have to say, I have started looking forward to Ask Away Fridays more than ever lately.
It’s just too good. Asking and answering questions with wonderful bloggers. The thought processes. The connections. The differences that occur week by week, as I switch partners and also get more into the groove of #AskAwayFriday. I’m currently on an every other week schedule, but since I got so flexible last week with combining Old School Blogging and Ladies Only Blog Share Link Party that I’m really feeling like I can do this more often. So contact me if you want to schedule a swap soon!
This week I was lucky enough to be asked by Gracielle of Mommy A-Z. I more than happily accepted.
We met on twitter. I actually remember something! She was explaining how to pronounce her name (like GRAY-shull), which I take very seriously, and I became a loyal reader after that. Make sure you check out her blog to see her answers to my questions.
1. What was your favorite Christmas moment this year?
It’s all such a surreal blur! We spent three days in New Jersey and with life being hectic right now, and with it being cold, dark winter, my anxiety hasn’t been the best. It’s definitely far better than it has been in the past but it also leaves a lot to be desired. I’m going to name my top five moments, because I’m terrible at following rules and narrowing down hearts & thoughts:
– Spending most of Christmas Eve with Ilene, of Fierce Diva Guide to Life fame.
– That moment on Christmas morning in which we let all the three kids (my two and my nephew) open their presents first, and then we took our time with our own.
– My Christmas Eve tradition of going to a tiny country store for last minute stocking stuffers with my Uncle.
– Eating shallots, openly and enthusiastically, even though I never EVER eat anything onion-related. Ever. My brother made quite the salad.
– Telling Scarlet that Santa brought us all tickets to Disney World. (more on that soon)
2. I have a girl and a boy just like you. We’ve been on the fence on having another baby since we already have one of each. Are you planning on having more babies or do you know that your family is complete?
I like the way you ask questions. I don’t know that my family is complete but there are no plans to have any more children and if you were to ask me right now to make a permanent decision, I would say, “No.” However..you know…babies! And never saying never. I’d be apprehensive about being pregnant again, because even though I do it well and I’ve been told I make it look easy, it’s not at all easy for me. It’s anxious and uncomfortable and the potential for nausea scares me a bit much. And then of course, it’s more about what comes after those nine months. I know that. Right now with two, I feel like this is challenging but not overwhelming. I don’t want to rock the boat. On the other hand, Des was in the NICU for a week after birth, for really no reason other than that my water was broken for over 24 hours, Des’ breathing wasn’t 100% and our hospital was cautious..
I kinda want a do-over there. I want a newborn I can easily take home again.
Maybe if the kids were older, the money was flowing in, and I went temporarily insane…or not so insane. Never say never, right?
3. I love seeing Scarlet’s and Des’ personalities through your photos. Given their personalities now, what do you think their careers will be when they grow up?
Someone once asked me that and I said that Scarlet would be something really true to her heart, like a real princess, a defense lawyer, or a foreign diplomat. I said that Des would be a juggling comedian or an engineer! It’s such a tough but awesome question. We all believe our kids are destined for greatness, because, the potential is just so there. And in reality, many people do things they never fantasized about doing, and many people are unhappy with their careers. So I just wish for happiness and meaning. And just to guess for fun and to actually answer your question and not just spin off on my tangent.. Des will be the 23rd rendition of The Doctor in “Doctor Who”, doing an American accent regeneration, and Scarlet will write fantasy novels.
4. If you had any super hero power, what would it be?
Without a doubt, I would fly. I would soar! I know there are many more useful superpowers, like maybe telepathy or x-ray vision or any other way to prevent and stop crimes and wrongdoings. However, I want to fly. And if I could fly, I could get to everyone faster and I could expand my client base to include…the whole world. I’d just need a super protective camera backpack.
5. There are melt-down stories, love stories, but my favorite ones are awkward moment stories. I don’t know why. What is your most awkward moment?
Once I wrote a love note to the contractor who was building our house. I handed it to him while his head was (literally) through the ceiling. I was five. I also was potty-trained (successfully) on our driveway, in plain view of our neighbors and anyone driving by. Oh! And once a few weeks after a dreadful breakup (an ADULT relationship, no less) I saw my ex at the mall. He stood out, being a redhead in a tux. I stood out in my red coat. We both played that game where we dodged right or left to try to pretend we didn’t see each other, only we somehow both ended up getting the alignment wrong, and we met in the middle. Awkward!
6. What are your plans to bring in the new year?
We are pretty consistent lately. It started as getting together with one other family and watching the live Phish webcast. (they play Madison Square Garden on New Year’s) Then we added another family in the mix and made it a sleepover thing. Last year we added yet another family. This year we’ll have two friends of mine coming too. The food..is insane. You can’t imagine what they all roll out all day long. I remember pulled pork on the grill at 1:00 am last year. And fresh mozzarella from Hoboken once.
7. I joined the SITS community this year, too. What’s the one thing you’ve learned since joining SITS?
It takes a village to raise a blog. I sound so repetitive when I give people blogging advice, but I took the long way to get there. Comment. Reply to comments. Share links on social media. Connect on social media. Don’t do it alone. It doesn’t feel as good.
8. What does a day in the life of Tamara look like?
I think I’ll go with a school day here. I wake up when the kids wake up, and Des roars for food while Scarlet slowly finds her grounding. We rush to school, nearly always late, and I fantasize about showing up in my flannel pants but since it’s a walk-in school (no car lines to be seen), I never quite pull the trigger on that. Then I go home to eat breakfast, and spend Des’ naptime writing, editing photos, and thinking of ways to take over the world..or make more money with my photography business. One or the other. I often go outside and daydream. I blast music. We get Scarlet and she gets some sort of snack/treat/TV show and I spend a LOT of time hugging Des. A lot. And Scarlet. Afternoon type stuff happens and I think more about trying to take over the world..er…make more money. We do errands. Cassidy comes home after the dinner/pajamas rush. Those three get time together. I sneak upstairs to daydream/write/edit photos/daydream some more/play music at a softer level/eat chocolate.
9. What’s the story behind the blue police boxes? I saw one hanging from your gigantic Christmas tree and there was another one in a photo of your shed.
We’re gigantic nerds. No, we’re gigantic dreamers. This blue police box is the TARDIS (time and relative dimension in space) – the time machine from the long-running British sci-fi series, “Doctor Who.” Cassidy has been watching it since the 70’s (Tom Baker era) and he got me into it when we got together. It took some time (time!) but it grew on me and I’m rightfully obsessed. Hate to sound like “those people”, but Cassidy had been watching it DECADES before it got trendy in America. I had been watching it for a few years before people knew about it too. I do like the amount of merchandise that comes with its popularity!
10. When I asked you to swap questions with me for Ask Away Friday, I was so nervous because you’re one of my blog crushes! Who are your blog crushes?
I thought it was adorable of you to admit that, and you asked quite beautifully. At the risk of sounding too diplomatic, there is generally something (or somethings) I admire/crush on about all of the bloggers in my Bloglovin feed. That’s how they got there! I don’t always comment, but I do for most. I get intimidated, like anyone, by the beautiful photographers and writers in this mix. Some do product reviews and I admire their authenticity. Some people, like you, work hard, raise kids AND look darn good doing it. I want to be there. I’m not there, but I want to be there. You all have a special something that makes me come back.