I wrote all morning, in fact. I then went to check my article up on SITS, and then I checked in about a mental health anthology that’s coming out soon. It features an important story that I wrote. When all of that seemed well and inspiring, I sent Des out to lunch with his grandmother and I went for a walk in our garden. I got the first strawberry of the season, baby.
Of course I had to save it for Scarlet. So I plucked the second strawberry of the season and ate it. It was still warm and sun-ripened and oh so sweet. And now it’s Ask Away Friday time and these questions? They are not shabby. I threw caution to the wind and didn’t try to get a partner until yesterday. As luck would have it, Tia of BecominNeurotic answered my call.
#AskAwayFriday was created by the amazing Penny from Real Housewife of Caroline County and Amber from Bold Fit Mom, as a way to connect with other bloggers with a great Q & A session of 10 questions and 10 answers, between two bloggers! This is a wonderful opportunity to get to know others while allowing others to get to know you and of course there is also the added bonus of making great friends along the way which is one of the best parts of this online world! Ask me if you want to swap!
Tiffany from Mrs. Tee Love Life Laughter,
Christy from Uplifting Families,
Stacey from This Momma’s Ramblings
Echo from The Mad Mommy
Don’t forget to read Tia’s answers to my questions HERE. And here are my answers to her questions:
1. Winter was a rough one for your house. How have things smoothed out through Spring, and now into Summer?
Yeah, I’m almost afraid to talk about it! For one, a lot of the rampant viruses have left. We’ve all been getting allergies and/or small colds, but everything else seems ok. Knock on wood! And there’s still bug bites and poison ivy, galore! All of the snow finally melted in mid-April. We haven’t used our pellet stove or our heat since and we haven’t even needed the air-conditioning much. The garden is blooming, Athena’s skunk smell is fading, and we’re looking forward to the end of school!
2. Because of a lot of the hype around “miracle cures,” I’m a bit skeptical of essential oils. Since I know and trust you to not BS me, what would you say to sway me to try them?
I don’t know that I’d want to sway you because I’m definitely no salesperson! I will say it the way my doctor said it to me, “It can help but it has its limits, like everything.” My husband and I definitely use and enjoy essential oils daily but there’s no miracle cure for sure. It’s just combinations of things and positivity and health and drinking lots of water and luck and.. and.. genetics? I use the mental health ones myself. We also diffused a lot of good-smelling ones when Athena got skunked!
3. I saw that you’ve finally admitted to loving Dinah. What are your favorite things about your fairy kittens?
haha.. I do. I love her so! So I do have to admit that we only kept Dinah. After a way-too-long trial basis with Bella, she was never meant to be a pet for us, sadly. She was very feral and was only happy outside, killing mice and moles. She kept getting sick with worms from infested animals, even after treatment. She lived her life in fear inside and we lived our lives in fear of bobcats or coyotes if she stayed outside. So we explained it to Scarlet as best as we could – with the truth. Bella will or has gotten a better home by now. And Dinah has been so much more affectionate since. I love that she’s becoming part of the family, to be honest! The kids take part in grooming and feeding her and she’s gotten much more friendly. I love that she sleeps on my legs and spoons me and walks all over my keyboard and makes Ewok noises. She certainly has personality!
4. I’ve been in a writing slump lately, hampered by an increase in anxiety. Do you have any tips for getting back on track?
Usually anxiety steers me in the opposite direction – I can’t stop writing about it! It’s tough, though. I get it because anxiety paralyzes me from the simplest things. Getting back on track requires connections and support. And if you can, I find that a walk outdoors with a clear mind and without my phone does wonders for jogging my brain into writing. Prompts and linkups are good to ease back in. Like doing this with me! That was smart! You can dip your toes in, one by one. You’ve got this.
5. On Facebook I’ve been seeing mentions of dates with Des, and I have to say, I’m in love. Will you keep having one on one dates once Scarlet is out of school for summer? What is a date you’d love to do, but haven’t managed yet?
Good question! I think it will be more dates with the two of them, although I do love and crave the one-on-one time with all family members. I think with six grandparents, the potential for a regular babysitter, summer camp and Cassidy around, I’ll be able to steal in dates with all three of them. As for a date we haven’t managed yet, there’s this incredible burger place in our town that cooks heavily with local and organic food, whenever possible. They’re downtown and it’s tough to park and often crowded. They just opened up a food truck in another nearby town and it’s a pleasant drive through the woods to get there. No hot downtown parking. No crowds. I will take Des there for a lunchdate next! He loves french fries, naturally.
6. You’re very close with your family, especially your sister Lindsay. What is a favorite funny memory you have with her?
I’d be hard-pressed NOT to find one, but one that sticks out in my mind right now happened around this time of year. One of my friends invited me to an 80’s costume party and we got decked out. We showed up at the party to find that NO ONE was dressed up. In fact, they were all staring at us oddly. So either my “friend” punked us, or got the details wrong. Either way, we owned it. I would ALWAYS rather be overdressed then underdressed. Work it. Ya know? I wasn’t even embarrassed.
7. We’ve gotten to hear from all parts of your family, including Athena! Any plans to have your mom guest?
Good idea! Does anyone’s mom want to do Ask Away Friday with my mom, about how it is to be the mother of a writer?? Speak now! And if you want to read a tear jerker, she did sort of guest post for me once.. link HERE.
8. Cassidy travels a bit for work. While keeping it PG, how do you guys keep it special with long absences? How do you make it work and keep the love alive?
The longest trip was actually not for work – it was for fun! I was happy he was having fun. He was out of cellphone reception so we couldn’t talk AT ALL for five days. Not even one text or email. Just radio silence. That was tough. Generally we check in. How do we make it work? Well.. it’s a work-in-progress, emphasis on work. And on progress. Distance can definitely heat up feelings, and so can reunions, but we have to stay connected through our daily lives – and that’s challenging. It requires check-ins, dates, weekends without kids. Not that we have all of that figured out yet, but we do know to work on it.
9. My wedding is in 2 months!! Eek! Any tips for handling the stress and staying cool as we get down to the wire?
I wish I could give better advice but I was the world’s worst bride. Not a Bridezilla, but a nervous wreck. So I’d say to read the book, “The Conscious Bride.” It’s all about the scattered feelings and thoughts. It nailed it for me. And of course, deep breathing, enjoying the ride, talking and planning together. Don’t be like me! I still need a do-over someday.
10. You have a day alone. You’re not sick, but maybe you’re confined to bed or the couch. What TV shows or movies are you binge watching? What’s your favorite snack to cheer you up? (In this scenario, reading is not an option. I need some new TV ideas lol!)
It’s tough because it’s summer! I am watching TV shows I stock-piled on the DVR for such an occasion: Once Upon a Time, Revenge, Secrets & Lies, Jane the Virgin, New Girl, Modern Family, Nashville, Hallmark movies.. I’m either eating fresh, homemade popcorn with lots of butter, OR I’m mixing three or four favorite ice creams into one bowl with rainbow sprinkles.
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