I was in for a bit of a challenge this week, and I liked it.
When I last participated in “Ask Away Friday”, I was partnered with Brittnei and since I “know” her pretty well these days, at least in the social media world, I was a bit spoiled with thinking up questions for her. I admit I wanted more of the same for this week’s “Ask Away Friday”. I wanted to be partnered with a friend, so I could be lazy and not do too much research. You know how life is – babies to prevent from climbing the stairs. Preschoolers to play on the swings with. Photos to edit. People to see.
Well, I was wrong! A partnership with someone new? Totally awesome. Getting to know a new blog, and the intriguing person behind that blog? Also awesome. I am so happy to be swapping questions with Wendy of Effie Girl this week!
She’s a fellow Jersey girl who loves taking pictures! Not only that, she lives right near a favorite town from my childhood, and her neighbor was the owner of my favorite store ever. It used to be the biggest deal in the world to go to this store in this town. It was the only place I could get my Rocky Horror Picture Show posters and t-shirts back before the movie caught on more.
Be sure to check out the other fabulous blogs participating in Ask Away Friday:
And now, here are my answers to Wendy’s questions for me. Be sure to check out her answers to my questions here.
Her ten questions for me were real thinkers. I love to tackle a challenge though, so here we go!
1) If you weren’t writing or doing photography, what would you be doing?
I admit I kept trying to think of a way to cheat this question. First, I thought of being someone who writes greeting cards, but then I thought: “Wait, that’s a writer.” And I always thought I’d love to own a B&B, but after being an Innkeeper for awhile, that dream was squashed. And many of my loved ones know that I wouldn’t last another minute in an office job. Maybe not even 30 seconds. I am awful, awful at having bosses and having to do stupid things. I do, however, love doing stupid things on my own, without a boss telling me to do them. I like to be my own stupid-ideas person. That said, I would love to have a food truck. I’m not totally kitchen-savvy, although I did make these lovely Tardis Turducken Cookies for Cassidy’s birthday once. (toffee stuffed in a brownie stuffed in a chocolate chip cookie):
Every day, I dream about a gourmet coffee shop/bakery on wheels. Preferably one that will come to my house and won’t mind my candy cane flannel pants. That’s what I want.
2) Was ‘she’ right? Do you know now, if you are the confident woman in an anxious woman’s clothing?
Whoa. Look at you, doing your research in my archives! I love that you did that. I used to wonder if that was the case every now and then. Now I wonder it a bit more often, but there are many setbacks along the way. I now know that I will never be 100% smooth, “on”, capable, calm and confident. Surprisingly, knowing it comes and goes really does help. I am sometimes a confident woman in an anxious woman’s clothing. I’m also sometimes an anxious woman hiding in a more confident woman’s clothing. And that’s ok too.
3) Wine or Martini? And when?
This is tough for me to answer because I don’t drink at all. It’s nothing moral or religious, and it’s not about willpower. Quite the opposite – I have no desire for alcohol. Genetically, I’m a supertaster and I have that rare gene that so few of us have in which I’m either indifferent or repelled by the taste of alcohol. Saves me a lot of money and grief, though. However, I hate when people don’t choose an answer when they’re asked to choose one, so I’ll say wine. Manischewitz. In a tiny cup after a Bar/Bat Mitzvah. That’s the stuff.
4) Knowing her little personality now, what do you see Scarlet doing in life, someday?
Well today she said, “I care about anyone. I care about bad guys, even.” So maybe a defense lawyer? She is so many wonderful things, and it will change, and change so many times, but I’d like to believe it’s something really special and dear to her heart. A vet. A business leader. A foreign diplomat. A real princess. An actress.
5) Knowing his little personality now, what do you see Des doing in life, someday?
This one is tough because I automatically say he’d be a great engineer – he’s always trying to fit things together, and see what that creates. However, I think most 15-month-olds are probably little engineers. Focusing on his personality, I’d say a comedian! A comedian who juggles. Without a doubt.
6) What was your best vacation to date?
Funny you should mention that because the reason for it took place four years ago today! (October 3rd, as I write this). It’s hard to narrow down vacations, because so many are outstanding, but for me it’s about not wanting to go home. Not even at the end. I’ve always been so tender-hearted and homesick and slightly anxious, that sometimes when something is really big and wonderful and epic and life-altering, I tend to want to hide away or go home. Not my best trait, but it’s me. So my best vacation was exactly a year to the day after we left San Francisco to move east. The vacation was back to San Francisco, after a year apart. We had a newborn baby girl. We were there for a wedding, and we went all over our favorite city – visiting our old home, our old restaurants and parks, our old coffeeshops. It was such an experience that I’m nearly tearing up writing about it. I remember that feeling. It was like coming home, but being away from home just the same. I’ll always feel that way. It’s my bi-coastal disorder. In love with two places. Thus far.
7) What do you do with all your photos, save digital or put in scrap books, or print and share in frames for viewing?
A little of everything! I save them digitally in at least three different places. I archive them. I print and put some in frames. I’m not perfect at photo management yet. My friend Michelle knows a world of information on that matter.
8) Are you delighted today, or delightful?
I’m not terribly delightful today because both kids were up too late last night and were a bit obnoxious today. However, I am totally delighted because today is the day I became a published co-author on Amazon. And a best-selling one at that! Check us out HERE!
9) Do you plan to write a short story, as an actual book, for your children to cherish when they are older?
That is definitely up there as something I’d love to do with my life. I’d love to write a few books – memoirs and children’s books and maybe a book about photographing children, and a book about overcoming anxiety. Or a book that combines all of those things!
10) Cassidy seems an unusual name, which I think is great. Does your hubster know how he came about being named “Cassidy”?
Well, I asked him and he said it was just that his parents flipped through a baby name book and liked it. I figured there was more to the story so I asked his mom. She was nice enough to give me some great quotes. Like I thought, more to the story. There is always more to the story.
“Well, of course we didn’t know if we were having a boy or a girl. We settled on a girl’s name fairly quickly — Jean. In retrospect I’m a bit puzzled by that because my mother was Jeannette and you don’t name a child after a living relative. But I think we just really liked the name.
As for boy’s names, we didn’t have a clue. Every name we tried out seemed wrong, lacking in some respect or other. Both of our fathers had died by this time, but neither of us resonated with their names — Harry and Clifford. So, rather late in my pregnancy as I remember, we got our hands on a book of baby names and started to go through them one at a time — hundreds of them. We read them aloud, swiftly rejecting almost every one, until just a very few remained as finalists. This was quickly whittled down to two names: Kelsey and Cassidy. I knew no one with either name and that was a big plus because I knew this person-to-be was going to be unique. We considered both names, but Cassidy was the clear favorite. I remember saying that I could envision this boy/man named Cass who was tall and strong and maybe a rock musician, definitely a presence. Larry agreed. And so it came to be. And it always seemed so right!”
Cassidy. Des. I can see it.