And You Can Tell Everybody This is Your Love Post.

Somewhere in a box of old film photos and negatives, there’s a blurry photo of a cow moose in twilight.


I sing Elton John’s “Your Song” all the time and now Scarlet has come to expect it. It was vetoed for the wedding, but I still love it all the same. It’s one of the great Tamara earworms of our time. I won’t tell you some others, because then you’ll be cursing me for days. This one.. it’s a good one. This song is a good egg. This song has good bones. Anything else you can say.

– I used to think that marriage and relationships were easy, just as long as you had love.

– Speaking of things that take work, like WORK, I used to think my eventual fate was to suffer in a corporate office, unless I figured out a way to get a second college degree. And if you do work in a corporate office, please know I don’t think you suffer. I did. I suffered. My work partner once told our own client that me working there was like keeping a tiger in a cage.

I’m really glad I found work otherwise – here in this blog – and there out on the fields.

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– I used to think moose were easy to find, and maybe they are for some – on the right day and at the right time – but it took us nearly all day on July 4th weekend, 11 years ago, to see a cow moose when I met Cassidy for the first time.

Little did we know, bigger antlers were in our future – with just a little maturity and patience.

That’s a metaphor, I think.

– I used to think my kids would never whine or wear princess nightgowns. I never thought I’d have parking lot tantrums, or that she wouldn’t be exactly like me, and he would even be a “he” because I thought I was a certified female carrier.


– I used to think that central air-conditioning and housekeepers were a must, (I still kinda do.. shhh..) and that wallets would always be full, as well as hearts. I used to think a disconnect would always be chronic, but now I know they aren’t. Hearts empty and fill on a near daily basis, but the stronger stuff is always on the bottom anyway – rock solid and going nowhere.

I’m going nowhere too.

But we, we’re going everywhere.


Happy 11 years of meeting in JFK Airport. At 10:06pm or some time like that at night, but who’s counting? I wouldn’t take a second of it back, and in fact, I’ll meet you on a beach at the Hamptons, and at a Friendly’s in Holyoke, just say the time.

This post has been sponsored by love. I got no compensation for my review, but I got 11 years of deep experience in return for my honesty. All opinions about love and moose are always my own, or those of my virtual assistant – Scarlet.

I will be taking Friday off for the July 4th weekend. I never do this! I never take time off! I plan to send the kids with their grandparents and then I plan to sit in a quiet theater by myself seeing Inside Out. With that chemical butter popcorn.

What are you doing this weekend?

“It’s a little bit funny this feeling inside
I’m not one of those who can easily hide I
Don’t have much money but boy if I did
I’d buy a big house where we both could live
If I was a sculptor but then again no
Or a man who makes potions in a traveling show
Oh I know it’s not much but it’s the best I can do
My gift is my song
And this one’s for you

And you can tell everybody this is your song
It may be quite simple but now that it’s done
I hope you don’t mind
I hope you don’t mind
That I put down in words
How wonderful life is while you’re in the world

I sat on the roof and kicked off the moss
Well a few of the verses well they’ve got me quite cross
But the sun’s been quite kind
While I wrote this song
It’s for people like you that
Keep it turned on

So excuse me forgetting
But these things I do
You see I’ve forgotten
If they’re green or they’re blue
Anyway the thing is what I really mean
Yours are the sweetest eyes I’ve ever seen

And you can tell everybody this is your song
It may be quite simple but
Now that it’s done
I hope you don’t mind
I hope you don’t mind
That I put down in words
How wonderful life is while you’re in the world
I hope you don’t mind
I hope you don’t mind
That I put down in words
How wonderful life is while you’re in the world”

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  1. OH MY ALL THE FEELS!! I’m trying to hide my sobbing from my kiddo, who can’t quite figure out why the laptop has suddenly triggered my allergies. Good gravy.

    I love anniversary stories like these, of meeting and adventure, more so than ones of weddings. I like the beginning of love, and remembering it, and celebrating it. We need more of that. In a selfish way, I’m almost glad to hear that my little corner isn’t the only one filled with all kinds of ish lately. Sorry for that. But it gives me hope that we, too, will rise over it, through it, to still be celebrating on the other side.

    I hope I can sneak away to the movies, too. I could use some air-conditioned peace.

    Happy Anniversary of new chapters. May there be more adventures on your horizon.

    1. You were sobbing when you read this?? I get it about the feels.
      By the way, I did sneak away to the movies which was an adventure all on its own. And now I can’t wait to do it again. I think I found a new semi-regular thing to do when the grandparents have the kids for the day.

  2. I’ll camp with ids on a day with 50/50 chance of thunderstorms. We’ll fish and we’ll play and we’ll hope to make a fire and then play a jacked-up version of 21 with cards until we fall asleep on our cards. And if we make it out okay, we’ll even watch the women’s world cup on TV Saturday.

    1. I love that you wrote “ids” instead of “kids.” Was it a typo or on purpose? It could go either way.
      Our house got down to 68 today because we slept with the doors open. How’s that for New England nights? Does that ever happen in July in NC?

      1. The ids was unintentional, but now is here to stay. those conditions can happen in July in NC – way up in the high country. Where I long to be.

        1. I kept thinking about the id, the ego and the superego. It would be pretty cool if all three of your kids were ids. As it stands, Dinah is the only one in this house although sometimes Des comes close.
          My friend lives up in the high country and told me it was the most perfect place for me because I hate winter. And heat. I’m a bag of fun.

  3. Eleven years ago! Congrats!I am also like a caged beast in an office, I hate it. Luckily, I too don’t have to spend much time in such spaces. It kills my soul. I sing the weirdest songs at the most odd times, my kids are used to it and sing along like your cute Scarlet.

    1. Me too! Although my dad worked in the corporate office of M&M headquarters when I was a kid, and even if it wasn’t good for his soul, in the long run, the whole experience was amazing. Like.. Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, but without any scary stuff.

  4. Happy 11th Anniversary Tamara and Cassidy of meeting for the first time! “Your Song” is a timeless ballad with the perfect song title. I love that picture of Scarlet. Her sweet expression and her pose. My brother and sister-in- law and I will be heading to my niece Kelly’s beautiful and always welcoming home. There will be fireworks in the area that we can enjoy on the night of the 4th. My cousins will be visiting us Sunday. It’s much better for me to only make the one trip, and I’m glad my cousins are coming here to visit us. Do you put rainbow sprinkles on your popcorn, Tamara? That sounds interestingly yummy to me, and maybe you can make them red white and blue sprinkles for this weekend! Happy Fourth to you and Cassidy, Des and Scarlet, and Karen and everyone in your family!

    1. I hope you have a great time at Kelly’s house! We haven’t seen fireworks this year. They were canceled last week due to rain, and the ones tonight are a bit far. Maybe if Cassidy was home from his trip and one of us could stay with Des, the other would take Scarlet to see them. Perhaps next year.

      I don’t put sprinkles on my popcorn! Only butter! I love eating sweet food and then salty food, or vice versa, but I never like to mix them at once. That’s a little fact for you!

      Happy Fourth!

  5. I am off for the weekend now too and actually cutting back to one original post a week for the summer months on my own blog. Just feels right to sit back and enjoy as much as I an with my own gang. So wishing you a wonderful time off this weekend now, as well πŸ˜‰

    1. That’s a great idea! I think I’ll alternate two and three. On weeks I do a sponsored post, I’ll make sure to do two original.. or maybe one. I don’t even know. We’ll see!

      1. I know I went down to two and worked well during the regular year, but the amount of comments I think for two for me would be just too much to keep up with with summer, the kids home and more, so I am going to try the one for the next few weeks and see how it goes until the fall and school is back in session again. I figure my blog, my rules πŸ˜‰

        1. It’s true! It’s the comments. And I guess we should be grateful that our problem is too many comments to keep up with, but we both know we give it back.
          Your blog, your rules for sure!
          And fall will be here before we know it. Sob.

  6. Happy 11 years! What an exciting journey you two have been on together. And man, yes, love is a lot of work. It can hurt like hell, but it’s so worth it.
    Yay for taking time off to spend by yourself. Bring lots of tissues to the movie. You will feel all the feelings.

    1. So worth it. And so painful but amazing.
      I took a little pack of tissues but it was the cheap kind! Boo! So I went through three and then needed soft toilet paper from the bathroom.

  7. Enjoy your day off. You deserve a break. Having some alone time at the movies with some chemical butter popcorn sounds great. My husband has offered to send me out to the movies by myself, but I haven’t taken him up on his offer yet.

    1. It was my first time in ages! I used to work for a non-profit that worked as a movie theater and I’d see movies for free alone, but always run into someone I knew. This was my first time going solo in.. I can’t even remember.. a decade?
      It was so glorious!

  8. Oh, this is so lovely. Hearts do empty and then re-fill. I love that, Tamara. What a perfect explanation for the ebb and flow of our relationships. Enjoy the movie and I’d like to hear all about it! Have a lovely little break and Happy 4th!! I’ve always love that Elton John song and it makes me cry. It did back when I was a kid and it still does today.

    1. I wonder if I’ll write a post about it! I did see it and I did love it and I did eat popcorn although not a lot.
      And I do still have Your Song in my head, days later.

  9. If I’ve learned nothing else in my 48 years so far on this earth, it’s that everything worth having takes hard work and dedication. Especially relationships. But when there’s true love, it’s so worth it. Happy 11th, and have a wonderful weekend! You will love Inside Out…

    1. I’m so learning that in my 34 years! I used to think love and work would be easy.. boy have I been wrong. Mental health is hard too! What gives??
      I totally loved Inside Out.

  10. I love that I can leave a comment while the song is still playing. I enjoyed this post! Congrats on 11 years of love! Enjoy the movie, we saw it this week. I didn’t cry – so many people said they did. I just was really like “Awwwww”. It does leave a sweet impression though.

    1. Nice! Does that mean it was a short post, or a long song? Both!
      I didn’t cry for most of the movie so I thought maybe I wouldn’t. Maybe I was missing something other people saw. And then it hit me. Hard.

  11. Happy 11 Years!! Love is beautiful and time is precious. I hope you enjoy your time; make sure to bring some tissues, because Inside Out calls for it. I don’t know why they didn’t say that before going into the theater, plus if you’re as sensitive to all the feels as you and I are…. πŸ˜‰
    Wishing you a beautiful weekend!!

    1. ha, thanks! I had ONE hater.. out of a ton of non-haters who didn’t think I should write for money. I bet she spends precisely five seconds on her crappy posts.

  12. Yes anything worth having does take a lot of work, but is SO worth it! I love Your Song too – it’s beautiful, Happy 4th of July to you Tamara! I am currently on a cruise ship in Italy so I will miss fireworks this year. Enjoy the weekend!!!

    1. So true! I used to think everything would be so easy. I was so wrong!
      Enjoy that cruise ship in Italy! Man, does that sound good.

  13. Have a great weekend, Tamara! So cool to read what you once thought would be certainties and how life said it had plans of its own πŸ˜‰

    1. Yes, it was my total youth speaking. I just thought everything always would come easily. I guess I’m kinda glad to know the truth, while there’s time to work for the good things!

  14. OH GOOD FOR YOU!!!!! Now I will picture you in the dark theater with that big ol’ bucket of buttered goodness!! Embrace the ‘rest’ from it all, my dear!! I LOVE that song… it’s one of my favorites. And I just love how you weaved it into your heart and your own love story.

    1. I did it, Chris! I sat in that dark theater but it was a small bag of popcorn. And I didn’t even eat it until after the movie – that’s how captivated I was!!

  15. One of my favorite songs of all time. I have several versions of it on my iPhone. Great pics. Lovely metaphors. Go have a vacation. You deserve it. Even it you’re no longer in a cage.

    1. I want a real vacation. Cassidy seeing The Dead this weekend made me crave my own magic. I’ve been stuck home with whining and hot kids and a half broken a/c and so many details!
      Cape Cod will save me soon..

    1. Chemical popcorn is so gross! I worked at a movie theater that only used real butter and it was SO GOOD. Cassidy makes stovetop popcorn and as much as he tries to show me how, it’s never as good when I make it.

  16. Happy Meet-in-Person-iversary!! I love that song that’s now stuck in my head. It seems strangely appropriate with the mood I’ve been in.

  17. We will go to a local 4th celebration and just chill out. And then we leave for our family vacation on Monday so I gotta pack!! ADORE that photo of Scarlett. And central A/C IS a must where I live! πŸ˜‰

    1. Ooh! Tomorrow is your trip!! Enjoy!
      Central air is not so common here and I used to think everyone was nuts for not having it (I still kinda do) but the nights get down to 55 a lot, so the house gets very cool and then takes awhile to build back up.
      Mind you, this is me talking with half broken central air. The first humid day above 90 will have me crying to get it fixed faster.

  18. I just got back from visiting my family so haven’t been home for a week – might not post til next week lol

    hope you have a great 4th and happy anniversary of meeting.

    That Elton John song is my sister Sheryl’s wedding song though πŸ™‚

    1. I just took five days off and it’s weird to think about starting up again! I rather love the summer pace.
      Your sister had a great wedding song!

  19. 11 years! Awesome! I wish you and Cassiady so many more years! What a wonderful song, too!

    P.S. I recently saw a book on moose and bought it just for you all. I think it’s geared towards kids, but aren’t we all kids inside? And even more so on things we really adore. I want to send it your way!

    Have a Great Friday! πŸ˜€

  20. I absolutely love your writing style. I love how succinct and pointed you are with your statements about work, about your daughter wearing princess dresses and the Elton John song! Loved this post πŸ™‚

    I also had an interesting time in the corporate world, so I took a break and am traveling with my boyfriend. It has been a wonderful break, and I think I will be recharged for when we go back!

    Ginger Side of Life

    1. Thanks so much! I generally write posts like this, during emotional weeks, and other times I find other things to write about!
      The corporate world never worked for me but I just kept trying! Glad I finally gave up.

  21. Oh I love this. The Elton John song, moose, 11 years. And so many more adventures in your future. We’re hanging out at my in-laws in NJ this weekend. I’m glad to get out of the city for a little bit.

    1. I hope NJ went well! My old home!
      It’s nice to think about new adventures. Cassidy is coming home today from a big one, and it’s time we had one together.

    1. That is awesome! I’m going to start doing it once or twice a month. I have the opportunities now that it’s summer and movie times are in the day. And.. babysitters!

  22. I LOVE Your Song. I actually mention it in the book I wrote. That I’m still trying to get published. There has to be an agent out there for me!

    Happy 11 years. And have a great 4th of July!

    1. Oh man. If I were an agent, I’d have published that book already! Good luck because it is surely awesome.
      Happy 4th to you! I know it’s belated.

    1. We had a low-key weekend too.. if you count Cassidy seeing the Grateful Dead low-key! It was low-key here but I had my hands full with these two kids!

  23. Happy Anniversary! Ah, I love that song so much. I suffered in a corporate office too–I’ve been free for a long time! No regrets. Yes, hanging in there with marriage through EVERYTHING is so worth it! I love the cow moose.

  24. Happy Anniversary Tamara! I love your love story, so its so nice to see the progressive in current day in your daily tellings. That’s such a blessing!

    I used to think I’d be that mom that didn’t have a kid that would throw tantrums, much less let those tantrums drive me crazy. Oh man…how I thought so much about everything before it became a reality.

    1. Thank you! I have to throw it in there every time the mood strikes me, which it very much did now.
      Des was tantrum-free for so long, and they’re still not much, but of course they happen. Loudly!

  25. Goodness!! I love that song. Well you know I’m a corporate girl. Sometimes I suffer, oftentimes I don’t. LOL. And I understand that it’s not the same experience for all. 11 years is such a big feat and you have wonderful kids and you always create magic for them, that’s just wow!

    1. I definitely admire that you’re a corporate girl – but you seem to do what you should be doing within there. I was a classic underachiever. I never would have climbed the ladder. Never. And I’m totally ambitious in other settings.
      It was weird!

  26. What a lovely post (pun intended)! Seriously a beauty. I love your little twist at the end πŸ™‚ remembering your encounter with someone who’d rather not have you do sponsored posts – hahaha – this is really good. And I am with you on the song, one of the very few by Elton John ones that I love, too. And your story, the episodes you are telling here is beautiful. Happy 11th anniversary!
    Gosh, I missed visiting you, but I had to take time off my site and in fact am still taking my time. Hope you had a wonderful Holiday weekend!

    1. Yes! That same person who reads my blog but doesn’t like everything I have to say. I think I’ll put disclosures like this on even my sponsored posts too. What fun!
      Thanks so much for visiting and I do get it. I’ve been slow too. It just happens.

  27. Beautiful – sponsored by love, indeed! This I LOVE: “and that wallets would always be full, as well as hearts. I used to think a disconnect would always be chronic, but now I know they aren’t. Hearts empty and fill on a near daily basis, but the stronger stuff is always on the bottom anyway – rock solid and going nowhere.”

    1. I think I’m going to start putting a disclosure like that EVEN ON my sponsored posts. Ah, my passive aggressive, but full of love rebellion.

  28. Okay, this is my favorite tameracamera post ever. I love that song, I totally think that after a while love is a choice, and I applaud you for keeping that alive with Cassidy. This is encouraging. I’m going to have that song in my head all day, but that’s a good thing. πŸ™‚ Also, wow, that you never take time off….I should learn more from you…I don’t belong in a corporate office either, and did you say you met your hubby at JFK, as in for the first time? I’d love to read that story.

    1. Thank you! That always makes my day when someone says a new post is a favorite because it reminds me I still have some love to give in this blog! Lots!
      So the story is 20 parts. I think you can link to it right on my main page. Just click on a photo of the two of us and it will give you the links to all the parts. It’s time-consuming, though, and I know you have your hands full!

  29. Happy anniversary! I used to think love was just a feeling. Then I got married, went through struggles and learned how the feeling part was only a small portion of love. Still learning. πŸ™‚

  30. Hi Tamara, I love that song too, we shouldn’t be ashamed of sharing how we feel and that song sums it up nicely. Life is full of twists and turns. Things are rarely as we expect. Relationships are rarely smooth (with children and partners), but that makes them real and keeps us on our toes and they are never smooth.

    That moose will always have a special place in your heart, just as Cassidy does.

    Happy anniversary and I hope the chemical popcorn was as good as ever.


    1. Oh so true! About smooth relationships. It always changes too. Especially with kids.
      The moose and the Cassidy and the popcorn are the good things!

  31. Aww happiest 11th anniversary!!!!!! Gosh, I’m such a sap for anniversaries and love and all that great stuff–and isn’t it so fun to see all the milestones that have been accomplished together along the way!! Hope you guys had the best 4th:-)

    1. I’m a sap too!
      The 4th was a bit of a wash with the rain and Cassidy being away, but I have decided to celebrate it all week! AND, it’s Scarlet’s birthday week.

  32. That is such a good song! I don’t know who decided to start telling young girls that ‘happily ever after’ meant not ‘everything comes easily’. It’s a total load of BS. All the best things in life take work…lots of work. And I’ve come to believe that working so hard for them is one of the things that makes them so good. Kids, marriage, family. They all take every little piece of you. But when the lights dim at night, and after all the hardship is done for the day, it’s hard not to look back and say ‘it was worth it’.

    Anyway…sorry to hijack! Happy anniversary of sorts, and I hope you had a fantastic weekend off!

    1. I love comment hijacking! It’s totally the whole point – great discussions.
      I had a good weekend off, but Cassidy was away so it wasn’t the true weekend off where I get to actually relax! One day.
      And I love everything you said about kids, marriage and family.

  33. That song is on our wedding CD. I have so many thoughts and things to say – but I”ll stick with HAPPY ANNIVERSARY. Marriage isn’t easy, but when it’s good it’s worth it. Hope you are savoring your weekend and had a lovely holiday! xo

  34. just gonna bask here awhile in your words, and his words in THIS song which should be all our song, and drift on sweet moose sightings and deep woods scented dreams.

    1. Are you still basking here? Hi! Wouldn’t it be awesome if you were really in my woods.. or in my head. Like Herman’s Head. No? Yes?

      1. oh gosh my thoughts immediately went to that other movie… the one with John Cusack and Cameron Diaz, and they look go inside John Malkovich’s head??!!! trippy. and Sledgehammer is playing softly in the background.

  35. Happy 11 years! I am glad you were able to take time off. Sometimes it’s hard to go back after tasting that freedom. Lol I would e gone to see that movie with you! Was it good?

  36. I so hope you had a great time at Inside Out. I love all posts sponsored by love–they have the most value. I wish I could remember the day I met my husband but it’s wrapped up in a blur of 15 year old crazy. I learned early in my career corporate life isn’t for everyone then I learned later on that sahm life isn’t for everyone that’s why I preach do what makes you happy and know that it likely won’t please everyone πŸ™‚

  37. Fricken ninja onions. Damn you!! Such a sweet, endearing post. Now if you’ll excuse me I need to go search for tissues.

  38. “I used to think a disconnect would always be chronic, but now I know they aren’t. Hearts empty and fill on a near daily basis, but the stronger stuff is always on the bottom anyway – rock solid and going nowhere.”

    A thousand times YES……thank you πŸ™‚

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