If You Leave..

This is me linking up, as one of my favorite things to do, with Finish The Sentence Friday. This week's topic is
(I added the moon and stars for a fantasy photo)

There are things I can always do, like stare at Andrew McCarthy’s sweet face for two hours straight.

And there are so many more things I can’t do. If you want a more in-depth description of the “mushy, squishy feeling,” I wrote about it long ago and I’m certain the sentiment still stands. I hope the sentiment stands. You see, I need it to stand. There’s that fine line we skate – between being desensitized enough to live our daily lives (like kid tears and deer roadkill and the absolute atrocities of this world) – and not getting too hardened. How do we find that balance of feeling feelings, palatable and comfortable, little by little? It sits in between feeling nothing at all, or screaming loudly every five minutes.

Humans are amazing. We are strong and resilient and graceful. And we’re complex and layered. Tides turn, and we do too.

The “feeling” is one of indescribable sorrow – triggered by seemingly small things. Turns out, they’re not small to me:

– Eyeglasses folded neatly on a book on a nightstand. Eyeglasses that fall to the floor or ground.

– Hats and crowns and things getting knocked off of heads, after being placed there so importantly.

– Elderly people fumbling for their wallets. (This one was sent in by my mom)

– People staring vacantly at the vast yogurt selections of a grocery store, late at night. (Oddly specific, no?)

– Kids. Husbands. Parents. Siblings. The people you love the most? Their pain will break your heart.


– Animals in the winter. Do they have enough food and fur? Are they warm enough?

– Fresh roadkill when you can see the still-warm fur blowing in the breeze and they just look like they’re sleeping – peacefully and lovingly. God, I hate that. Scarlet always says, “You can still see that they’re cute. How sad.”

– Des has a bottom lip tremble where he starts wiping his eyes with the back of his wrists when you’ve hurt his feelings. As two formerly sensitive kids turned sensitive adults, that one is really rough for Cassidy and me.

– This scene in Hook. I can’t!

– Books in which animals die. Movies too. And movies like Marvin’s Room and The Curious Case of Benjamin Button and Life is Beautiful and Coco. I struggle with endings after enormous beginnings and middles.

– They way they both legit won their own giant huskies at the fair yesterday. On the way home, way past nightfall, I turned around in the dark to see them and they were both snuggling their huskies. It looked like four people in the backseat!

– I can’t do broken hearts. Not the way other people can. People talk about their spouses leaving them, or people having been left, and all of the muck and junk and horror of it all – divorce lawyers, the division of things, the kids. I always ask, “What about the broken heart? Isn’t that unbearable?” And they just blink at me, like that’s the afterthought. “Oh, well they already hated each other by then. Oh, it was a relief. Oh, who cares anyway?” It wasn’t fresh love – it wasn’t a new wound – dripping hot red blood. It was dark and scabbed and old and untended. What’s the point of it all then, I wonder?

If your heart can’t even be broken anymore.

The things I can’t do – some I can’t do because I actually CAN do, but it’s just so bittersweet and happy and sad and time happening all at once and overwhelming and heart-bursting that I say I can’t do it. Of course, I can do it. That doesn’t mean it’s easy to feel everything all at once all bittersweet and happy and sad and overwhelming and heart-bursting, but I prefer it over leaving. I prefer to stay in the ring and stay in the round and stay in the game and stay on the track. I won’t leave.

No matter how painful, uncomfortable, squishy, mushy, and overwhelming it is. I’ll always stay.

I’m no leaver. I’m a slow learner and the long-game-player. And I’m oblivious and buffoon-like. I’m the last one to know, the world’s worst (but best) procrastinator, slow on the uptake, and fast and furious on the downhill. My heart. It’s here.

This is me linking up, as one of my favorite things to do, with Finish The Sentence Friday. This week’s topic is “Leave..” (5 minute stream-of-consciousness) And there’s still time to write yours. Come link up with your spin: HERE.

What would you say?

How to Help Our Young Girls Use Scientific Thinking

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Last night we were at our big multi-state fair, having the time of our lives.

Everywhere you looked as far as the eye could see, there were delights to take in. Ferris wheels, deep-fried strawberry cheesecake, vendors, food trucks, colorful lights, and more. It was decadent, to put it mildly. I so love watching my kids take in their world, and this is one of those special, once a year things we do that is not like any other day of the year. That said, even with my kids’ stomachs filled with fair foods, their arms filled with giant stuffed huskies we won at “The Birthday Game,” and their heads filled with visions of rides, it was the kids’ science tent that really grabbed my daughter’s attention.

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My daughter’s eyes lit up. Both kids did a mad science camp week at the end of summer and Scarlet often says she wants to be a scientist when she grows up. Des is also science-minded, but I think it’s important to help our young girls and daughters use scientific thinking at a young age. For Scarlet, she was enrolled in a STEM class in preschool. Des was too! Now that they’re six and nine, I feel like it’s more important than ever to foster a natural love for science, math, and the like.

I started reading WordFire Press’ Danielle, Chronicles of a Superheroine and I got Scarlet hooked as well! It took us about five seconds to get drawn into the book – which introduces Danielle’s sister Claire as an equally intriguing narrator – after losing her mom and the entire life she knew in an earthquake in Haiti. Spoilers, though! We can talk about the book’s messages. Be Smart, Be Kind. Inspire your children to dream big, pursue their passions, and be kind to others along the way.

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Anyone can change the world. Teach your kids that you don’t have to be an adult to change the world.

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Learn by Doing. Inspire your children to care about world issues and create change. Pursue Your Passion. Encourage your kids that you can do anything you set your mind to. Talk to your kids about ideas. Their ideas. Your ideas! Turn your ideas into action! Empower your children to use their gifts to make a difference. And one way to do that is with girls and science.

How to Help Our Young Girls Use Scientific Thinking:

1 – Use a microscope. I had one as a kid and it was a life-changing gift. You can go out to a local pond and safely collect samples to look at under a microscope. Microscopes can be inexpensive, but can spark scientific thinking!

2 – Enroll in science camps or after school programs. Around here, they run year-round and have SUCH a variety. There’s something for all ages and personalities and it also links kids up with other science-minded kids. It’s a total win-win.

3 – Visit a local science center or natural history museum. I know as a kid we used to go on field trips to them every year. This year, Scarlet is going on a field trip to a natural history museum in Amherst and she’s so excited!

4 – Watch science or even science fiction movies that raise questions about real science. Bonus points for movies based on women scientists and astronauts. I took Scarlet to see a wonderful award-winning movie based just on that!

5 – Take a nature hike together. We do photo walks where we find all sorts of natural treasures.

6 – Buy a science kit or subscribe to a science-based subscription box. We get monthly science experiments and I like to film Cassidy doing the experiments with the kids. They are always excited and inspired to participate.

7 – Learn WITH your kids. You can do this with games, with kitchen experiments, with books, and with anything. When my kids ask me a question I can’t answer, we look it up together and then it really sticks because we’re all learning.

And never stop talking to your kids about life, humanity, and our collective and individual experiences.

Unlock the potential of your brain. Teach your children that their potential is limitless.

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Change is waiting. Remind your children that even if we can’t start big, we can still start small. Raise your voice. Teach your children that their voice matters and to fight for what they believe in. We’ve been super inspired by Danielle, Chronicles of a Superheroine. I must have read the preface aloud to Scarlet seven times. It’s so amazing how these powerful inventions and messages start out as a spark in a child or adult’s mind. I know I’m going to keep inspiring my science-minded kid.

I see my daughters eyes light up, concerning science, and I think about all that potential there. Our kids have the ability to change the world. We can ALL be Danielles, and we can help our children to become Danielles too. We’ll keep reading!

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So, how do you empower the young girls in your life to be science-minded?

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