Into The Dark Months

This is me linking up with Finish The Sentence Friday. This week's topic is: As the Days Grow Darker, and there's still time to write yours. The Dark Months

Halloween felt different to me this year.

It had the usual pre-holiday excitement and decorations and costume planning. On Halloween itself, I couldn’t seem to wipe a smile off my face to save my life. It was all in the way the town comes together. It’s the political messages carved on pumpkins – subtle but there. It’s the way Des walked in his velociraptor costume. I had that existential feeling I know and loathe so well. Instead of enjoying the now, I couldn’t help but think about how fast he’s growing. When he puts his arms around me every night at bedtime and says that he loves me forever and ever and ever, I know that he always will but it won’t always be the same. The dinosaur waddle will give way to something else, the way the two-year-old prance has left us permanently. I still see snippets of it in the cobwebs of memories. Faded, yes, but never really gone. Different. Growing.



It all came to somewhat of a crashing halt the week of Halloween. For one, I was underwater with work. I mean really in the weeds – and almost drowning. So much opportunity and learning. For another, Astro got a viral infection and healed, but he seems to have a congenital front leg problem that we thought he’d grow out of – and it’s only gotten worse. So off to an orthopedic surgeon this morning, and then I’m straight to Boston for an intense work event. Sometimes it’s hard to breathe.

I just want to stop for a minute but know I can’t – trapped by my own stringent work ethics – and truly loving what I do.

Into the dark months and into the dark. Sometimes, often, it’s nearly impossible to make sense of this world. My kids – still young and innocent enough – to dream and breathe and believe and dinosaur waddle. It’s changing, though. Scarlet finished Harry Potter book 6, and that’s a whole other loss of innocence. The news is on and blaring and I don’t know how they aren’t hearing about this world. With demons crawling out of the darkest depths of our imagination. No, though. I never imagined this. We never imagined this. And if you did, and you still think it’s ok and progressing, there’s something you’re not admitting or seeing or dreaming and breathing and believing and dinosaur waddling. And that describes me too today.

A fire going out; an image disappearing. I feel powerless and helpless in the face of what I never imagined, and never would.

This is me linking up with Finish The Sentence Friday. This week's topic is: As the Days Grow Darker, and there's still time to write yours. The Dark Months

And that is where the gift lies. That we can’t imagine this. That we never could. How could we possibly fathom this? We’re made of better and stronger stuff. It’s the fire and the magic and the dreaming and breathing and believing and dinosaur waddling. It’s in the darkness being greater than our imaginations, because our imaginations are made of cotton candy and bridges and growth. Progress and kindness and tolerance. Our imaginations are made to soar, and to know that you’re ONLY comfortable enough in your own skin, your own heart, your own dinosaur waddle, your own religion, your own race, your own identity – ONLY if you want the same for all. If you can understand that another person’s rights don’t actually take away your own, and if you learn to fight and stand and think and dream and believe. It never pays to show your own pain and emptiness by hurting others or keeping and VOTING them down. Lift others up as you truly want and need to be lifted.

This is me linking up with Finish The Sentence Friday. This week's topic is: As the Days Grow Darker, and there's still time to write yours. The Dark Months

Into the dark months we go, and into the darkness – where your only choice is to find light. And that is why I not-so-secretly love this time of year. There’s nowhere to look but up and ahead and right in front of your face – in dazzling lights and promise. In hope and pain and choices. We have to make important choices right now, while we still can make choices.

Will you choose the side of light? And will you pass it around?

This is me linking up with Finish The Sentence Friday. This week's topic is: As the Days Grow Darker, and there's still time to write yours. The Dark Months

This is me linking up with Finish The Sentence Friday. This week's topic is: As the Days Grow Darker, and there's still time to write yours. The Dark Months

This is me linking up with Finish The Sentence Friday. This week's topic is: As the Days Grow Darker, and there's still time to write yours. The Dark Months

This is me linking up, as one of my favorite things to do, with Finish The Sentence Friday. This week’s topic is “As the Days Grow Darker..” and there’s still time to write yours. Come link up with your spin: HERE. I don’t know about you but I TOTALLY meant to write about something else, and then this post sort of hiccuped onto my screen and I just ran with it.

What would you say?

How to Be A Good Role Model To Your Kids

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If you want your children to live the right way, it’s important that we, as parents, model the right behaviour. It’s about being a good role model, and there are a number of ways we can do it.

Eat healthily

Don’t tell your children to eat their greens, when you regularly sideline your veggies into the bin. Don’t tell your children to eat a better breakfast when you regularly skip this meal out of your day. And don’t tell your children off for eating unhealthy snacks between meals, when you are regularly sneaking the odd chocolate bar into your diet. Role model good eating behaviour, opting for healthy ways of cooking and eating so your children see how important it is to eat healthily.

Focus on self-improvement

We all have new things to learn in life, so never stop growing. There is always more we can do to improve ourselves, boosting our careers with advanced courses such as this operations manager degree online, and by reading books and other literature on subjects that will broaden our horizons. By doing so, we will show our children that education is important for progression in life. And we will show them that learning is something we can do for ourselves, even without the intervention of a teacher.

Be respectful

If you want your children to respect you, people at school, and those in the world around them, then you need to role model that respect. Speak kindly to the people in your household. Refrain from gossiping about people at work. Don’t criticise anybody simply for being who they are. And offer kindness to strangers. If you model kindness and respect to and about the people in your life, your children will hopefully do the same.

Talk about your life

You don’t have to share every aspect of your life with your children, but if there are valuable lessons you can teach them, then do so. Talk to your kids about your mistakes and failings. Talk to them about your doubts and fears. If you are upset or angry, let your children know your feelings. If you are able to show vulnerability in front of your children, and if you are able to open up your life to them, your children will be less likely to bottle up any problems or feelings they are experiencing, and they may be more inclined to talk to you about these things.

Exercise more

Telling your children to get out of the house and exercise isn’t useful when you are inclined to sit in front of the tv for hours on end. Role model good behaviour, and spend time exercising with your children. Go on a bike ride with them. Take them out to the park for games and sports. Go for family walks in the country. Do anything that shows your kids that you take exercise seriously, and when possible, do it in a way that also brings you closer together.

Finally

As a parent, don’t just talk the talk! Walk the walk, and model good behaviour to your children. They are more likely to live the right way if you do!