10 Ways to Empower Yourself Right Now!
Tell me, am I the only one who totally knows what empower means, but totally had to go Google it and read about 17 articles on the subject? Anyone..? And I didn’t write this until an hour ago so I’m 90% sure it’s missing some of my fiery sassiness, but there’s that 10% that knows I can still write up a weird storm by the light of the night. It’s been a week. I mean it’s always a week and as we saw in memes this week, “I love how being an adult is just saying, ‘But after this week things will slow down a bit again’ to yourself until you die.” Isn’t that the way, though? I keep waiting to get into my “regular routine” but I just rarely stop working. It weaves its way through.
You know who else finds a way? Me. I find a way to write these posts on time, and to even write them at all – so sure the words will stiffen within me and never ever find their way here. It’s got to be such a backlog, such a traffic jam, to be words or feelings stuck within me. That’s why they gain traction and gas and sort of just hurl out into this sloppy canvas that doesn’t make sense, but TOTALLY makes sense. These are the words. And that’s how I now feel about empowerment.
I know what empowers me, or at least I know some of the ingredients in the strange brew – although I don’t often get the measurements and times right and it’s all sort of random and inconsistent – but I was surprised to read articles about empowering ourselves. I was surprised to find that the articles all mentioned things I already do. And I love that. I can put my own spin and anecdotes in there, but ultimately, I had to narrow down ten of my favorites. For you:
1 – Use affirmations. Do this. You can affirm what you want, consistently, and you can affirm what you don’t want. The more you say these words, the more you’ll believe them. Mine are often something specific like, “I am free from anxiety and illness.” I can’t believe I told you mine!
2 – Take responsibility for your actions. Basically, own them. Sometimes I feel like there’s nothing I can’t do – even when I think of the darkest things I’ve done in my life – I can still hold my head up high, look you in the eye, and tell you why I did what I did, and what I learned from it. Mostly it’s not dark stuff, though. Just dumb stuff! Or stuff done without being intentional, or without being honest. Everything from cheating on an exam to not giving something my all. I don’t have an in-between, you see. It’s not all or nothing, but it is all or piss-poor! That’s my vibe.
3 – Kindness. Well isn’t kindness just the way, though? It’s the sexiest, boldest, strongest, best thing ever. The more you do for you, the better you feel. And mostly the more you do for others will send you soaring into empowerment! Well I suppose you have to do the kindness for yourself first, so that you’re clear and energized enough to do for others. Oxygen masks and all.
4 – Stand up straight! Yes, you. Throw those shoulders back (well, don’t throw them) and straighten your stance! It’s better for your back, it’s better for your future, and goshdarnit, you look great when you do it! And other people can’t help but notice. Fake it ’til you make it.
5 – Good handshake, steady, lower voice, and great (but not creepy) eye contact. All of that probably sounds like a lot but when you’re genuine, it just comes naturally. I don’t even know how to explain it past that! My voice is already pretty low but when I drop it a touch lower, it sounds more steady, because I’m often nervous. A good handshake (not limp and not breaking their hand) is pretty self-explanatory, I think! As for eye contact, that one is always weird, right? It’s ok to look away too when speaking and listening! Just give that winning smile and pure eye contact at key points in conversation! And when you meet someone, or are happy to see them.
6 – Create a support system. And I said system – which means you’re an integral part of it too – both as a supporter and a supported. Talk every day, if you can – use the Whatsapp app if 450 text messages a day isn’t your thing.. (and that’s a slow day) Be each other’s cheerleaders and each other’s go-to people. I have this with my mom and sisters. It’s magic. There’s nothing like being connected to yourself, to this world, and to others – heart to heart.
7 – That at home feeling. And this one has layers – like feeling at home in your actual home, and in your town, community, family, state, etc. I struggle with this because I always wanted to leave NJ but had trouble finding that feeling again. I have it in western MA but oh, to have been in California again! It was hard to leave. It’s my place of dreams. That said, this is my home right now and it feels darn good. And that feeling of being comfortable in your own skin is key too.
8 – Never stop learning. I remember my Human Behavior teacher in high school saying a few important points on the matter. She taught us how to learn, rather than memorize, and I was still acing my vocabulary tests. (who knew??) And she said that Senioritis is a bit of a privilege because really if you’re at that point of no return in your career (high school, college, career career), to just enjoy the learning itself. Without the pressures of grades and money, etc., isn’t learning itself such a beautiful thing? And you can pursue more learning as well.
9 – Let go. Let go of so much – negativity, negative people, expectations, toxins, fears, etc. There’s an art in learning to say “yes” and learning to say “no” and learning to tell the difference.
10 – Is there anything so empowering as hope? I didn’t Google this one, or read it in a book. I just know it for myself – daring to hope gives you a mindset that sets the stage for how you approach obstacles and opportunities. And I think hope gives us a more open mind and heart, gives us creativity and resilience, and helps confidence and true happiness emerge. Amen!
I’m linking up with Finish The Sentence Friday (FTSF) for another great prompt. This week’s topic is “I’m most empowered by…(listicle)” And there’s still time to write yours. Link up HERE.