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Eight years ago now, I was pregnant with my firstborn, Scarlet, and looking forward to the warmth and light of spring. This was our first winter in New England after moving from California. The winter was particularly icy, cold, and treacherous, and we were in the process of moving into a condo and setting up our first nursery. I was registering for baby classes and touring the hospital I chose for her birth. All I could think about was what it would be like to meet her and to hold her in my arms.
Before she was born, I could only think about the birth – like the last lap and then finish line. Quite like how we think about our weddings, sometimes more than the actual marriage after the events, the hard/rewarding part is always still to come to you. The hard work, the sleepless nights, the changes, and the unimaginably wonderful/scary years are still in your future.
Like many first-time parents, I was blown away by parenting. And like many second-time parents, I was blown away by parenting my second born, Desmond, and how his pregnancy, labor, birth, and infancy were so different from Scarlet’s. If there’s a third? I’ll be blown away by him/her as well. It’s all about adjustments, transitions, and heart-grabbing love. It’s about the challenges and the joys, and the astonishing things that NO ONE ever tells you! I’m here to tell you these things!
Speaking of telling you things, I’d also be remiss if I didn’t tell you about the Registry 101 and Completion events offered nationwide at Babies “R” Us. The Registry 101 Event is for prenatal moms who are setting up registries or exploring the registry process. It takes place on the 1st Saturday of the month – and registry experts guide you through the process. The Registry Completion Event takes place on the 3rd Tuesday of the month to close out a registry after you have had your baby. Babies “R” Us offers a completion discount for all items on the registry not purchased! This is so helpful to parents.
1 – You will go through SO MANY diapers, which probably isn’t a huge surprise to you, but the bigger surprise will be how often you examine the contents of the diapers and analyze it. Who knew you could be so proud/fearful of what’s in a diaper?
2 – The love will open your heart so fast and so wide, that you will get dizzy and knocked off your feet. Probably literally!
3 – The postpartum period is uncomfortable, sometimes painful, and emotional. I remember with my first one that I didn’t feel “normal” until she was four-months-old! It was earlier with my son, but some of the body changes took me by surprise.
4 – Congratulations. You’re now a Mama or Papa Bear. It will come out in the strangest ways, like when a well-meaning relative asks, “How’s MY baby?” about your baby. And you retort back, “I don’t know! MY baby is fine. How is yours?”
5 – You will need to delegate tasks, especially feeding, so that you can breathe, eat, sleep, work, rest, etc. Whether you’re using formula, breastmilk, or both, have your partner, parent, in-law or friend take turns too – especially overnight turns!
That’s where Playtex Baby™ for Better Beginnings comes in. We love the Playtex VentAire® from Babies “R” Us. It’s for less colic and reflux for happy feedings. All Playtex BPA Free Baby Bottles are designed for your baby’s unique feeding needs.
The Playtex VentAire was a “Mom’s Pick Best of 2017” finalist in the BabyCenter Awards – determined by a vote of moms on BabyCenter. It has a unique bottom vent designed to keep air at the back of the bottle, and out of your baby’s tummy. Not only that, the VentAire’s angled design promotes a semi-upright feeding position to help prevent ear infections. The VentAire’s Most Like Mom® NaturaLatch® Nipple has a natural wide shape and a raised texture for baby to latch on naturally.
Lastly, the micro-channel vents of the Playtex VentAire keep air at the back of the bottle as your baby drinks, so virtually no air will mix with the milk and get into your baby’s tummy. This means less gas, spit-up and overall fussiness.
6 – The emotions might not make sense. It’s ok if it’s not love at first sight. It’s totally ok! Your heart, body and mind may have just been through the ringer. That love will come, and it will hit you hard like I mentioned above. And sometimes, the emotions will leak out of your eyes at the strangest times. I once cried over baby socks. They are so tiny and so vulnerable, and the tiniest socks are the most temporary in wear and tear. I could cry thinking about it!
7 – If you have a partner, the experience will change the relationship between the two of you. Let it change you – our wise cousin once said. It might get worse, and it might get better. It might get worse before it gets better.
8 – There are so many questions, concerns, ailments, etc. that you will be looking for in your child. I’m not sure that part of parenting ever stops? We are always nurses, along with being parents. Some of these things won’t happen, and some will.
9 – The comparison game is strong. Trust your instincts first and foremost. There are real concerns in this world, but the chances are high that your child is progressing normally – at their own special and unique rate. And that’s ok.
10 – The “perfect” birth? The “perfect” baby? “Perfect” kid? The “perfect” mom? Perfection is just a myth, but I believe that there’s a perfect baby for YOU, and that you’re the perfect parent for YOUR baby. Never forget that. Promise you won’t?
*Days are long and years are short. It will take your breath away when you count down the months and years with photos and props. That doesn’t mean don’t do it. Do it, for sure. We all feel inexperienced at first, and we grow with our children.