This Is Big, People! Big!

Edited to add that our book is now out and available on Amazon. Check it out HERE!

I very nearly called this post, “Growing Up And Liking It.”

So I’m not pregnant, nor am I trying to be. I’m still completely horrified by the idea of pregnancy and financially providing for three children. I love the idea of newborns and Des being a middle child, so he can have Middle Child Syndrome. Like me. And Scarlet told me that it would be ok if she could be sisters with someone, but she doesn’t want another brother. I have no idea why. Des is an angel. Sure, he knocks her My Little Ponies on the floor and puts his hand down his pants whenever he gets the chance, but, he’s ace. That boy. He’s luscious. And that was an awfully long-winded way of telling you that I’m not pregnant.

I did, however, give birth to something. And I’d been holding it (him? her?) in for a long time. It’s this:

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I’m in a book. A real live book. With 29 other talented writer/bloggers! You’ll be able to purchase it on Amazon. Coming soon!

You see, everything hurts this week. Ever have one of those weeks? And I don’t mean physically. I mean, emotionally. Things sting. I get the mushy, squishy feeling a little too easily. Des was knocked down by a big kid at the playground and he cried for me. Maybe not a huge deal on a non-hurting week. A kiss, a hug and three minutes can solve that. On a week like this, that still hurts my heart after bedtime. I feel completely and utterly out of my element, emotionally. The voices in my head tell me I will never be able to cope when things are really wrong, if I can’t cope when things are mostly all right. I silence those voices.

It’s the smaller things that shatter my heart on some days – tags sticking out of shirts, (why? I don’t know) bumps on Scarlet’s head, any kind of whimper of pain. So I write. I started writing before I started doing photography, but it was for a similar reason. The emotions and the beauty and the pain were welling up inside me so heavily, that if I didn’t find these outlets, I’d probably burst from the pressure. If I can’t describe it, I photograph it. If the emotions are beyond the visual, I write about it.

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(I’m sprinkling in random photos of myself in blog posts now, because I was sorely absent from my Renaissance Faire tale.)

This writing/photography thing works pretty well to make me a reasonably happy human being. Sometimes I’m delightful.

Sometimes I’m delighted.

Especially when I’m checking an item off of my bucket list. I’m going to be a published author. In a book. With its new book smell! (or Kindle!) With 29 other writers/bloggers. I have gotten the chance to know most of them and their writing, and they do not disappoint. This book is a must-read for every future parent, new parent, experienced parent, and more. You’ll find yourself laughing along, crying along, and just plain nodding along. Adult tantrums? Public meltdowns? Scenarios you thought only happened in movies and TV shows? We’ve got them all. Humor. Heart. Parenting. Life. Real life. Sweet and insane real life.

Coming soon to print and ebooks! Make sure you stay tuned at our WEBSITE, and our social media spaces and places:

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And now..if the book tour takes us to Alaska, I’ll be checking off two big bucket list items..

About Tamara

Tamara is a professional photographer at, a mama of two, a writer/blogger at and a nearly professional cookie taster. She has been known to be all four of those things at all hours of the day and night. She is a very proud contributor to the book, The Mother Of All Meltdowns. After two cross country moves, due to her intense Bi-Coastal Disorder, she lives with her husband, daughter and son in glorious western Massachusetts.


This Is Big, People! Big! — 127 Comments

  1. I can't wait for our release date! So excited! And of course it was a blast with working with all of the amazing bloggers we got to work with!! Alaska is on my bucket list too!

      • I just LOVE that you are in this book TOO!!!! WOOHOO!!! I need to do a post about it as well… it's SUCH an honor to be a part of something so wonderful with someone so talented as you Tamara!!! And Michelle!!! Woohoo!!!!

        SO. Cool. πŸ™‚

  2. I'm so excited for all of you! What an amazingly huge accomplishment. I, of course, cannot wait to read it!

    LOVE your red coat and black boots. You guys look like super heroes!

    I totally get the mushy/smushy feeling. I have it right now because I'm leaving the kids for a few days. I can't wait for them to wake-up so I can love on them!!

    • You know, I think that’s what we were going for! Superheroes. I love that coat and those boots.
      Oh, I know that feeling. So well. The reunion will be so great.

  3. Does it really ever change? Boys putting their hands down their pants? I am so excited about our book release. I can't tell you how happy that we've been a part of this journey together. You are amazing Tamara and you deserve all the success coming your way! Ohhh, I'm do a book tour in Alaska with you! And when it goes global and is translated into 15 languages, how about Italy?

    • haha, you made me laugh! It’s more of a diaper thing these days, so Des is often thwarted unless his diaper is off. TMI, really.
      I can’t remember how I met you but I don’t remember blogging without you! So glad we “met”. Let’s share a hotel room in Alaska to see moose, and in Italy to eat pasta.

  4. I am so excited that so many of my faves are in this book! I can't wait to read it!! I too thought you were sorely missed from your renaissance faire post!! Loved the red coat!!

  5. Yay, congrats! So looking forward to reading this book by some of my favorite bloggers and seeing what stories you have all chosen to share.

    • Right? I may have been off and dreaming there…but I would like nothing more than a book tour in Alaska meeting all of you and your families, with mine.

  6. We are SO EXCITED for every single amazing writer in this book! Because we bribed the authors, we got an advance peek, and it is FANTASTIC! Mothers everywhere are going to LOVE it! πŸ™‚ Congratulations! So proud of you!-Ashley

  7. Wow!! That's so cool! Congratulations!! I can't wait to check this out when it's available. Lord knows I've had plenty of those "lose your cool" moments!!!

  8. And another reason why I love you, because seriously you described having three kids pretty much the way I would. Yes, I am so excited for our book to be released and seriously cannot wait now! Loved that picture of you and seriously keep them coming!! πŸ™‚

    • It's like…why shake a good thing? Three kids? I can barely manage two kids and my job and I'm not even very far into my business yet!

      I'll keep those photos coming!

      Love to you!

  9. This just might be my favorite PR piece of all! You just…it's just…oh, breathtaking is the word I keep coming back to. You know I love your writing, and this is just too beautiful. Sharing it all over the place. And definitely referencing it in my teaser post! thank you! xoxo

    • Thank you for sharing. You my get the favorite comment award because this made my day. I didn’t really know how to announce it the way I wanted to, and then it just relevantly wrote itself.

  10. There are no words that can express how happy I am for you! This is so exciting!! Big fist bumps to you, my dear! I'm so glad you get to cross this item off your bucket list, because you definitely deserve it. You are an amazing writer! And PS, may I just say you are absolutely gorgeous. Every time I see a picture of you, I marvel at how beautiful you are. And I mean that in a totally non-creepy sort of way!

    • Oh, thank you! Nothing creepy about it. AT ALL! I love it. I haven't felt attractive in many moons, so when I put myself out there and people like you compliment me, it's like Christmas. And cookies. Christmas cookies!!

    • Thank you, Joi! May our book prepare you (or scare you), although I think understanding meltdowns and adult tantrums does not require one to be a parent. Just a human! And you have such great stories too. We should write a job meltdown book together.

  11. Congratulations!!! I'm so excited that you are in the book, too – I can't wait to read it since so many of my friends are the authors!!

    Love the picture of you and your husband – glad you are sharing some of yourself!!

    • Thank you! I felt like it was due, after my whole long post without a single picture of me! Lame. I'm going to have myself photographed with Elmo tonight at Sesame Street Live. That'll be a hit.

  12. Ummmm how cool is that?! You wrote a book, and being a future first time mother (in just one month now) this book is definitely something I would love to read. Congrats on this, and totally feel you about when all gets hectic just write



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    • Thank you!! Good luck with everything in the next month (and the next lifetime, really). And thank you for visiting. Writing to me is like a very good calming drug.

  13. OMG!! Book tour?? I’m in – anywhere! Although it stills feels a little weird to think of myself as being one of the ones who is actually signing a book rather than waiting in line giggling like a high schooler. Oh and the pregnant thing – I titled my teaser post “Big News.” My hubby said, “Everyone is going to think you’re pregnant!” I said, “Good! If they think that, they’ll be sure to read it!” Sure enough, it’s one of my most viewed posts EVER!! Not sure yet if that is awesome or really pathetic! πŸ™‚

    • I think, based on the writers of the book, the friends of the writers of the book, and how awesome you are, NC should be the #1 stop for the book tour.

  14. Yay! I cannot wait to read this. You just let me know if you need another reviewer πŸ™‚

    Also, I totally feel the need to explain I'm not pregnant when I tell people I have news. It feels like at least one person at any moment believes I'm pregnant.

  15. I've said it before and I'll say it again! CONGRATULATIONS!! This is so awesome and amazing and wonderful all rolled into one. You deserve it and if there is a tour and you come to Florida – make sure you come as far south as possible…I'll hold a margarita for you!

  16. Ah, congratulations! How great that so many people will get to read your writing! I always wanted three kids, but I was almost 37 when I had my daughter so decided not to. (Even though now I think that is absolutely not too old to have another!) The reality of having three, might have been a bit too much for me personally, not sure. BTW, I get that mushy, squishy feeling a little too easily too.

    • I had my son at 31… I think I still have years to hem and haw! My husband is older and three kids isn’t really possible for us in spatial and financial ways, but… oh well.

  17. OMG, the rock star #LOBS are going to Alaska…. NO WAY??? my dream!!! cheering for y'all all the way from down here in NC!!! WooHoo!!!! πŸ™‚ LOVE it!!!

  18. Frances wanted a sister too, but she got two little brothers. She still secretly hopes, though…
    I am so freaking excited to smell this book!!! (and read it too, but I’ve kinda already done that!

  19. Yippee! You joke (I think) about the book tour, but how awesome would it be to actually meet in person at a book signing? Could we write that off as a business expense?

  20. I've been having one of those weird emotional weeks myself. You know what makes it better? Being published in a book! So excited and proud to be a part of it. I seriously loved every story in the book.

  21. So excited for you! I'm excited to read the book as it is featuring so many of my favourite bloggers! Glad you were able to take something off your bucket list too!

  22. Well you know…having four kids is a nice even number! (I love even numbers) If I had another one, it would really mean two. The twins gene runs heavily in my family too. Yikes.

  23. Jean, I just think we might!

    I remember two years ago telling my friends I had big news and their eyes INSTANTLY flicked to my stomach. To be honest, it was a possibility at that point, although Des didn't come for two weeks later. Anyway, the big news was a new house.

  24. I'm so excited. It's as if I'm actually in the book with you. I can't wait to read it. I'm definitely getting it for my Kindle and I can't wait to read your story. As for baby #3, give Scarlet what she wants and I love that photo of you and hubby together. πŸ™‚

    • haha, I can't guarantee her a sister, though! And when you have at least one of each… I guess I have no preference for either myself.

      Glad you will read our book!!

  25. CONGRATULATIONS!!! And congratulations again and again and again! Just know I’m here doing a little internal happy dance for you. I can’t wait to get a copy…and to give a copy to my co-worker who’s expecting his first little one this winter!

    • haha, I’m sure there’s a math equation out there that says if you rock, I rock. And if I rock, you rock. It’s because we’re identical cousins, right? Without being identical. (which is unfortunate for me)

  26. This is fabulous! Congratulations. You have to be so proud! I will definitely buy it for my little sis', she's had an 8-year old and a 7-month old. She needs to share 'meltdowns'.

    Good luck!


  27. This is so exciting! I'm extremely happy for you all. I was ecstatic to know you were in it! I'm currently reading it and I can't wait to get to your story! xoxo

  28. Massive congratulations to you, and your fellow authors, Tamara! Every Mum has a hilarious tale of woe to tell so it will absolutely resonate with your readers.

    (I am teaching a sewing class at Lucas’s school this year. He opted to be in my class, as he “misses me when he’s at school.” He is now spending the hour telling everyone else Stories about Mummy. Last week he told them all about the time I found a scorpion in my shoe and killed it. I live in fear that he’s going to come out with something more on the embarrassing side!)

  29. Tamara, I am so happy for you! Becoming a published author is so worth celebrating…..for an eternity! =)
    I love that idea of having more than one outlet. A backup plan is always good, even when it comes to venting!
    Can’t wait to buy the book!

  30. I am SO excited and elated for you! I was able to get a free copy of this book so that I can review it, I can't wait! I know you and few other bloggers on the list and your blogs never disappoint, so I know this book is sure to be full of good stuff.

    And I actually laughed out loud when you described Des and his boy-ness. My younger son loooooves to get his hand down his pants any chance he can get. I'm definitely not gonna walk into his room without knocking one day!!

    Congrats on being a published author. I could easily see you writing many books and being on the bestsellers list every time.

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  32. Just finished reading the book and posted my review! I loved it, so many heartfelt and hilarious stories. And my hat's off to you ladies who had the guts to put your real stories out there. I'm not that brave. Or maybe the meltdowns I had in my head looked like something from the Exorcist and I don't want to scar anyone for life. Yeah, that's it.

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