Exciting news is being announced this week – Penny’s amazing Ask Away Friday will live on for your enjoyment!
Please bear with us because we’re scrambling to get it back up and running, with some amazing help from many, and we even have a new logo designed by the talented Tiffany. We will be more prepared for next Friday, but I couldn’t resist posting today.
The NEW #AskAwayFriday
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And now for my first partner in the new #AskAwayFriday – Ida from Second Chances Girl! Well, who knows how we met anyway? (maybe she does) Many of you know all of this wonder blurs together for me and I just feel like I’ve known you all from the start. And really, I should have, because it took me three years into blogging to start having blogging friends. Ida is raising a blended family, which reminds me wonderfully of my own childhood. She throws incredible parties, posts thoughtful reviews, and writes about her life in warm and sunny Florida in a way which makes me sometimes (often) regret the whole New England thing.
To see Ida answer my questions, go HERE. And here are my answers to her questions:
1. What’s the best piece of advice you have ever received?
Oh, that’s good. It would be near impossible to narrow down all of the amazing parenting, love, photography and writing advice I have gotten. I’m not positive this is advice, but I think it is, and it came from my mother-in-law. I don’t know that she’s the original source of the quote but she was the first to say it to me and it stuck with me. It’s actually quite simple: “The hardest thing you’ll ever have to do, is to let people in and out of your heart.” It might be “in and out of your life” too. And that’s really it. Let them in. Let them go. All things must pass. It kind of jumpstarts your heart and makes you want to LIVE while you can.
2. Which fairy tale character do you most associate with?
I tried to cheat and ask Cassidy and Scarlet, but it wasn’t much help. I think I’m a little bit Belle because I enjoy my solitude and my nose is often in a book. I’m a little bit Alice because I know what it takes to grow up, and I still have much more to explore down the rabbit hole. I’m definitely a bit Elsa because I know too well (or I used to) how to conceal, don’t feel. And when I do let it go, giant wonderful things can happen. Or giant, scary ice castles can happen. Maybe I’m also a bit Snow White because I like to talk to animals, and sometimes birds land on my shoulders, and I could probably really rock a Snow White dress.
This see-through, last minute, $20 one isn’t a great example, though:
3. What’s on your bucket list?
Someone asked me this recently and I referenced THIS POST with a few examples. So I’ll give some different ones right now:
1. See a blue whale. No explanation necessary.
2. Have photos I’ve taken featured prominently on the walls of a home that doesn’t belong to either me or my family. An unrelated family who loves my work that much.
3. Go on a (somewhat) safe Great White Shark Expedition during breeding season off the coast of the Farallon Islands. Some people would be afraid to do that. I’m less afraid of sharks than I am of…like…trying marijuana. So we all choose our battles in life.
4. Either live half of the year or even all of it, eventually, in northern California.
5. See Tom Petty live.
4. Do you believe in destiny, fate or free will?
Whoa, heavy hitter. I do think my opinion has changed/changes throughout my life. I think it’s…all of the above. I guess I believe that our lives/futures are somewhat fated, but that we do have free will. I think there’s a balance, but I try not to think too much about it because life is happening right NOW. We have choices. We also have luck and chance. We also have coincidences. And maybe, just maybe, something a little (or a lot) more?
5. Let’s talk hair. You have beautiful hair. What do you use to take care of it?
You know, not much. I wash and condition it. I don’t fully dry it. It’s half wet a lot. I don’t use products, but I probably should. At my wedding, I’m certain there was product. It doesn’t curl like that at the bottom so perfectly, but it does curl at the bottom!
6. I know you grew up in a blended family. What advice would you give to us moms raising blended families?
There is so much I wish we knew then but we didn’t yet have the capacity to know it. It’s about love. And I wish I had known that we’d all grow up to love each other fully and that the word “step” wouldn’t be in our vocabularies. It is complex, though. My situation was born out of grief and not divorce or separation or single parenting, so it might be different because of that added element of pain. We were either too young or too grieving to just admit – this is hard. It will take years to get rid of a large percentage of the thoughts of, “You love your ‘real’ (insert blank – mother, father, child, sister, brother) more than me.” And those thoughts may never be fully gone, but we live on and the love lives on.
7. Are you planning on involving Scarlet and Des in any extracurricular activities: (playing an instrument, sports, etc..)?
Funny you should say that because the discussion came up TODAY about how beautiful of a singing voice Scarlet has. She sings in key, memorizes lyrics, and has incredible voice control and emotion. Obviously, I’d love for her to sing because it’s an unrealized life dream of mine, and I kinda suck at singing. I’d love for them to learn piano and/or guitar. We’re more of an artsty family than a sports family, but I welcome all physical activity!
I’d also love for both kids to take art lessons with my mom.
8. You are very open about your life on your blog. What’s one thing you haven’t shared with us yet?
Oh. Gulp. Um. When I was in 5th grade, I stole a rubber shark from a science classroom. I still have it. If I can’t unfriend you on Facebook without it being obvious, I will hide you from my news feed. This feels great.
9. What’s been your most embarrassing moment, so far, as a mom?
It’s hard for me to get embarrassed, and it didn’t even happen when Scarlet talked loudly about if Des’ “pagina” had fallen off, and it didn’t happen when Des had a blowout diaper that flew out of his diaper and onto his clothes AND my dress. I handle those things with grace. I think it’s when Scarlet has pushed me to the point of nearly yelling in public, or this one time at the park that I threw her over my shoulder, while pretty pregnant with Des, and carried her screaming and flailing to the parking lot.
I shouldn’t have been doing that in this condition:
10. Would you rather go without the internet or a car for a month?
Car. Which sounds totally PATHETIC, but I’d find ways to improvise. Without internet, I’d lose my livelihoods for a month – blogging and sharing photos. And I just can’t have that, can I?
Thanks for the questions, Ida! People, link up if you can! Sorry for the last minute!