You can hear yourself sigh, with all of your hope pinned onto a weekend taking away a bad week, and washing away the pains and frustrations. You can see the relief on your face, and on the faces of your loved ones, and even your five-year-old who wanted to stay home from kindergarten yesterday because, as she said, “I could really use a break.” Couldn’t we all, Scarlet?
This has been a week of bad medical news from loved ones, frustrations, a slight disconnect between what I want to say and what I say, as well as Des moving suddenly during a routine haircut and having his bangs cut a little too severely for my taste. I am officially the butt of my family’s jokes because they all know how NOT lightly I take any haircuts that the four of us must endure. I’ve let go of most of my control over the situation, but every time I look at him, well. Heck. He’s still the cutest boy I know. I promise I’ll get over it.. in 2-4 weeks. With the help of lovely friends who have assured me it’s still shagadelic.
Here’s a soundtrack for today’s post because this is the song I’ve been blasting in the car today. Despite being from NJ, I’m not crazy for Springsteen, or Bon Jovi for that matter, but Springsteen grabs my heart with One Step Up & Tunnel of Love.
Man meets woman and they fall in love
But this house is haunted and the ride gets rough
You’ve got to learn to live with what you can’t rise above
If you want to ride on down, down in through this tunnel of love”
And with that, I have a brand new partner for Ask Away Friday this week and she asked me some really awesome questions. Please welcome Jill from The Singapore Writing Homemaker. She’s a new friend from the Ask Away Friday Facebook Group and she is just stunning, helpful and enthusiastic. I look forward to learning more through my questions for her.
#AskAwayFriday was created by the amazing Penny from Real Housewife of Caroline County as a place for us to connect with other bloggers by asking them ten questions to really get to know them. The sky is the limit with the questions you ask!
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Make sure you check out Jill’s answers to my questions HERE. And here are my answers to her questions:
1. Your pictures are beautiful. What are three things you enjoy shooting the most?
I actually feel a bit stumped right now, based on a good question and a bad week. Photography is such an intense process based on who I am, how I’m feeling and what I hope to achieve from the world. It’s also a balancing act between embracing fun and shielding myself from it with the camera. Weird, right? Also, it IS fun. So I guess that I’ll say I love shooting love – and that includes families, weddings, engagements, babies.. I love shooting joy and laughter because those are moments that leap off of photos and make you smile just by looking. It’s a contagion. I also love shooting powerful moments and events. I don’t think I have the guts for doing some of the harsher stuff, though. Crime, protests, animals killing animals, people hurting people. I’m no photojournalist in that way. I don’t have the stomach for it. Luckily there are many beautiful things to find.
2. You are also a mother. Tell us 3 activities you enjoy doing with your children.
- Well this time of year we love to drive after dark and yell, “Lights!” every time we see Christmas lights. I like the rainbow ones best.
- I like taking them to my favorite cookie store. We don’t actually go very often, because I like to keep it special. The looks on their faces when I pull into that familiar parking lot are just wonderful. I want to bottle it up.
- I like doing New England road trips and BIG adventures too.
3. When and where was your most memorable photo shoot?
They are all memorable in their own ways. All of them. One definitely pops up in my mind because it was one of the first ones I ever did professionally and on my own. It was for a family photo shoot and it was the weekend in which they adopted their son. What a happy and beautiful occasion, because it was a very long wait. I happened to be about eight weeks pregnant with Des at the time and it was frigid November and I had to tell them about my pregnancy in case I was exhausted and/or queasy.
4. You co-authored a book named “The Mother of All Meltdowns”. Name 3 meltdowns which were most challenging to manage.
- Well there was one with Scarlet on the school playground in the beginning of the school year. And you know how it is when other kids and parents are around. The other kids will seem like angels in comparison when your kid is screaming. And the other parents will look sympathetic (to you) and pretty nonchalant about it because.. it happens. During this one on the playground at school, I just said the words, “Do you want to take the bus home?” and she quieted down pretty fast.
When I was pregnant with Des, Scarlet had a tantrum at the local park that was so bad that I threw her over my shoulder, pregnant and all, and stormed out of the park in the “Parental Walk of Shame, Anger & Other Tantrum Feelings.”
Des was so restless and loud on our flight back from Florida that we gave him an entire bag of Lucky Charms and let him pick out the marshmallows. He didn’t eat them all, but he did spend time picking them out.
5. Tell us the 2 most impressionable character traits about your other partners in writing the book which make this book possible.
Well, we have Crystal Ponti of Blue Lobster Book Co. to thank for everything. She has a lot of intelligence and tenacity and she inspires all of the co-authors very much. I will certainly work with her again, I hope!
6. Have you ever encountered any writer’s block? If so, how do you overcome it?
Yes and no. I never really have writer’s block because the mind never stops spinning. I don’t generally think before writing – it’s more like the writing overtakes me. The words just pop into my mind, and generally at inconvenient times – like when I’m in the shower or driving. So yes I do get scared that will stop happening and sometimes it does slow down, but that usually just means I need a break. When I lived in California for 1-2 years, I didn’t do writing or photography. I was not a writer or a photographer, even though somewhere inside it was brimming to the top. It was bad. I used to be afraid it could happen again, but this blog makes that impossible. I thrive on deadlines and connections and readers.. so.. I’m don’t see myself having writer’s block too often. Or rather, I have learned not to fear it as much. It just means I should go eat a cookie.
7. What’s your fondest dream which you have yet to accomplish?
I think I have a post brewing about this, and I’ve written them in the past but accomplishing dreams doesn’t feel the way I thought it would feel. It.. hurts more. It’s both better and worse. So I guess I’m always waiting to have this feeling, or this entire gallery of feelings, of accomplishment, joy, happiness, and very importantly – confidence! Now I just see that it wavers and flows. And I get these magical moments. And I build this life pretty slowly, and certainly with my share of anxiety, but I guess I always wait for that feeling. That I’ll do something that will have that feeling. I don’t know what that something is. I’d love to write a successful book about writing, parenting and photographing my way through anxiety. I’d love to achieve more photography dreams. I just really want to go to Alaska already. And I want to enjoy every second there too.
8. Name us one travel destination which you would never forget.
It’s a bit strange because I will always say this even after having called it home. It’s San Francisco. It’s always been a place that has called to me. So I answered the call. It wasn’t the city itself so much as the surrounding areas – wine country north and the beach highways and beach towns south. And the whales and dolphins.. After we moved back east and Scarlet was about three-months-old, we went back to San Francisco for a wedding, and it was exactly a year to the day since we had last driven out of there to move east. To be back there, at our old favorite restaurants and cafes, and with a baby, was intense. It was like being at home and on the most exciting trip of your life at the same time. I’ll never forget that. There were people who hadn’t known we’d had a baby in the year since we had left, so walking into old workplaces holding Scarlet was quite the life experience. I always wanted to take both kids back to Inn 1890, where I worked as an Innkeeper, but it closed.
9. Who is your favourite author?
I don’t know that I have just one but I’ve read every Jodi Picoult book, except the new one. And I met her!
10. Your children are beautiful. Would you consider having more children? Why and why not?
Oh, sure. I think about it a lot. It’s so strange but if not for pregnancy, I’d be so much more into the idea. I don’t even mind labor and delivery, having done it twice. I’ve become somewhat pregnancy-phobic, which is sad. Also, we’re in such a great place right now with the kids. Scarlet’s in kindergarten. Des is two and in daycare. I have energy. I’m really into my business. I weigh 115 pounds. Maybe that last part is shallow, but I still don’t really want to rock that boat. These boats.
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