10 Things I Hate About You

“Why are you so angry all of the time today?”

Scarlet asked me that yesterday, and it stopped me in my tracks. There’s nothing like questioning your crankiness after a sweet little voice questions it first. And to be honest, her voice is sweet and little, and was even a little hoarse yesterday, but she was throwing me a lot of attitude right back. THAT is why I was cranky. I hate the word “hate” but there are things I hate. I hate crowds, which sometimes translates to others that I hate people, which is absolutely not true. Although I do hate feeling trapped or overwhelmed or anxious. I hate that I think people can be so incredibly oblivious, but I hate even more the fact that it’s true for me too and that people don’t use their brains to their full capacity. Ohhh, I’m guilty of that.

The thing is, the range of things to hate is so vast. I hate the feeling of a hangnail, and how if you don’t clip it or have access to clippers, you can’t let it stay like that. So you pull it and it HURTS, and then continues to hurt for hours or days. It’s small, though. I hate racism, and that’s quite large. I hate my own inadequacies, of which there are plenty, but I hate more how trapped I feel sometimes – completely unable to rise above – and react, heal, combat, surrender, let go, and deal.

That’s what I hate.

Hate is a bad word in my house, along with “stupid” and “fat” which are the really bad “s” and “f” words. That doesn’t mean they’re not words, though, and that we don’t sometimes fling them with meaning. When Finish the Sentence Friday proposed this topic today: “10 things I hate more than anything”, they joked that maybe they made a mistake with the topic, and that we’d have to be cranky to participate. To be honest, I am cranky today. I’ve had two sick kids home with me for most of the week and I have SO much to wade through before two business trips within the next week. I don’t even feel that well but it’s allergies that are making me paranoid it’s more. I haven’t even been out in the world to hate anything.

You don’t have to be cranky to write this post. You do have to properly examine some tough stuff, though, and your reactions to them. I decided to break mine into categories, and to say things I hate about each one. Fun? Well. We’ll see:

1 – Foods. It’s so hard to pick a least favorite. I used to say raw onions, but I think there might be worse things. Like cilantro, truffle oil, stinky cheeses, octopus, and duck liver! That fake grape flavor in candy and kids’ medicine. YUCK.

2 – Destructive Human Behaviors. Where to begin? Lying. Violence. Stealing. Cheating. Bad habits. Bullying. Greed. HATE. Gosh, we really are a weird bunch, aren’t we? Luckily, we happen to exhibit such positive behaviors too.

3 – Driving patterns. People are greedy on the road, aren’t they? Sometimes people drive as if you can’t die while driving, and others are just annoying. I’d say driving slowly in the left lane for awhile is an oblivious or malicious behavior.

4 – Bodily fluids. I can’t think of any to be a walk in the park, but vomit is my most hated!

5 – Animals. I really don’t love scorpions, spiders and snakes, but I’d let them all live. I will carry a tiny ant to safety and I have almost zero violent tendencies to speak of, but as far as I’m concerned, mosquitoes and ticks can DIE.

6 – Unpleasant physical feelings. I’ve been lucky to experience this minimally, and only from reading in the car, but I think motion sickness feels SO MUCH worse than any virus or food related sickness I can imagine. And it LASTS so long.

7 – Weather. There’s a lot to hate out here. There are those endless thick-clouded days in March. We have dangerous ice storms, cold rain, steamy rain, or just plain gloominess. I think the endless thick-clouded nothing days are the worst.

8 – Other people’s habits. Audible eating and close talking are in the lead!

9 – Places. I’ve had some dark times in Delaware. And Rahway, NJ isn’t my idea of a peach. There’s that congested driving area near, but not in, NYC and it’s just my idea of the worst places to live. Pollution and houses right next to each other.

10 – World crises. Terrorism, poverty, hunger, and polar bears clinging to icebergs. Gun violence, polarizing political views, racism, homophobia, intolerance, fear, hate, and hurting animals. Hurting ANYONE. Religion wars. CANCER. Just stop.

My list of things to love? It’s nearly endless. I can’t count that high! It’s raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens. It’s eyelashes on Des and love with anyone. Basically this was hard for me, because I’m mostly all about the LOVE!

Feeling cranky today? This is me linking up, as one of my favorite things to do, with Finish The Sentence Friday. This week’s topic is “10 things I hate more than anything.” And there’s still time to write yours. Come link up with your spin: HERE.

What would you say?

5 Mother-Daughter Activities For Spring

This post was sponsored by Reebok as part of an Influencer Activation for Influence Central and all opinions expressed in my post are my own.

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For as long as I could remember, I’ve wanted a daughter to dress up with.

I think many of us have those thoughts before we have kids. We imagine what kind of kids we might have. And sometimes we’re close, but often we can’t even begin to wrap our heads around these complex beings. I knew I’d have a daughter who would love to read, but I pictured someone more shy and maybe more eccentric. Scarlet is a people’s person, though. She can get along with everyone, and she is bubbly and kind. She’s athletic and good at math, but of course, can spend hours reading. That’s one of our activities together actually, but SPOILER. When she was born, she looked a lot like I had as a kid, but now she has her own unique look, and her own flair. We butt heads like crazy, but also meet perfectly in the middle.

And I LOVE that we can dress alike. I’m not even sure if I should say “already” or “still” because I hope it lasts. I think that one day we’ll be borrowing each other’s clothes. I was lucky to have two sisters and we all three wore the same size. One of us was curvier, one was more athletic, and I was more willowy, but somehow we all wore the same size, and could share with our mom too. Scarlet got a jean jacket just last month that I coveted. I was so happy when my friend, Rachel, found me the adult version of the jean jacket. I mean – could it get more adorable than this? Jean jacket twins for life, I hope!

I’ll never forget that it all started with a red peacoat, and now it’s leggings, jean jackets, dresses, and more!

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It’s not just dressing alike that I love, but it’s mostly about the fact that she’s proud to do so. Last week we had an occasion to dress alike, and she spent a lot of time putting together our outfits. Hers wasn’t clean so she made sure that we’d have enough time to wash and fold her outfit. I was charmed, I will admit. I love that she loves spending time with me, because of course the feeling is powerfully mutual. And here’s our comprehensive list of 5 mother-daughter activities for spring!

1 – Train together. Last fall, Scarlet was in a 5K and we had the option to join her. Cassidy wound up doing it, because I had anxiety about it and didn’t want to disappoint her. Now I realize I couldn’t possibly disappoint her if I at least tried. She trains twice a week for her upcoming spring 5K and I’m training too, because I don’t want her to leave me in the dust then!

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2 – Volunteer together. Now that it’s spring, it’s time to tackle a community service project together! Pick one activity that will help you two give back to others, while also spending that impactful and meaningful time together.

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3 – Find passions together. We love to read together, and make little dreams come to life. Whether that’s hiking, a family-friendly class or activity, or important events locally, find something to flourish with together. The sky is the limit.

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4 – Road trip together. That’s sort of our thing. We love to explore new places and stay in hotels too! She loves a good room service picnic. Des often comes with us, but we started our scenic road trips just the two of us. Our first trip was Vermont:

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5 – Shop together. In fact, you can shop as a whole family at DSW. That’s my favorite store! Be still my heart. I fell in love with it in New Jersey, and then had an incredible location to visit downtown in San Francisco. Now that I live in western MA, I was so pleased to find that we have a big location only a few miles from home. So good! Reebok Classics for the fam!

You can get a pair of Reebok Classics for the whole family today! I love the benefits of one stop shopping for the whole family at DSW. I never imagined I’d be going to my favorite store years later as a mama, but here I am, totally thrilled!

We don’t always match, but when we do, I can’t believe how much we have in common! We both like colorful leggings, red dresses, cool headbands, and comfortable, pretty shoes. I love knowing we’ll be running together in the same shoes!

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And I love knowing that we’ll be doing a lot of fun activities in the same shoes! Scarlet always attracts smiles wherever she goes, because she radiates happiness, kindness, and a whole lot of color with her eclectic way of dressing/being.

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What’s one of your favorite mother-daughter activities?

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