Every Time I Think of You, I Always Catch My Breath

This is me linking up, as one of my favorite things to do, with Finish The Sentence Friday. This week's topic is 10 songs/pieces of music that changed me. And there's still time to write yours. Come link up with your spin.

Isn’t that the way with music, though?

It makes you catch your breath. That and scents, and while we live in a more fragrance-free world than I ever imagined lately, and growing, I personally don’t have trouble with perfumes and colognes. In fact, the right scent of a Bayberry candle or Shalimar perfume is all it takes to transport me to my Grandma Bella’s house. And if I kept a bottle of that perfume in my house, just to remember, I wouldn’t smell it often. Maybe only one or two times a year – a sort of bittersweet treat to myself – to be transported. To have so many memories bottled up in that.. bottle. Well, it’s as powerful as music, isn’t it?

And I don’t have to tell you that music brings about memories in the most heart-wrenching, knee-bending way, because you probably already know that. And I don’t have to tell you that it’s really hard to narrow it down to 10 songs, isn’t it?

Our lives are shaped, molded, changed, swept away, by more than 10 songs. I’ll try to cheat the system, though.

There. I already snuck one in and you didn’t notice, did you? Yay for me for sneaking in more! Now, let’s begin. Finish the Sentence Friday, those absolute linky pioneers, are challenging us to pick out 10 songs/pieces of music that changed us.

Oops, I did it again. (also, “Oops, I Did it Again” is NOT on this list, but A+ for music references thrown in there)

1 – “Missing You” – John Waite. It came out the summer my father died so my mom had to hear that over and over and over. You would think we would all hate it, but it’s a piece of him that I carry to this day. Quite literally, I catch my breath.

2 – “Learning to Fly” – Tom Petty. This song goes on every mix tape, cd, digital download, Pandora playlist, whatever. It’s one of my desert island songs. I never saw him sing it live, and it sucks to check an item off your bucket list because you’ll never do it, and not because you’ve done it. When I had the worst broken heart of my life, and it was quite literally chronic (still not over him, the punk), I drove alone to the middle of NOWHERE, Maine and made some heartbreak mixes to play on my way there and back. This was there for me. I always loved it, but after that, I loved it in ways I still can’t say.

3 – “Safe and Sound” – Capital Cities. I would hear it on the radio and think it was too cool for me. Too young. Too pop. Then I realized I was in love with it. I would use it to feel safe and sound when I was photographing my first wedding, and when my grandmother was dying and I knew it was getting close to the end. The lyrics. The melody. And the meaning. YES.

4 – “Somewhere Over the Rainbow” – Eric Clapton. Yes, by Clapton! This was our wedding song. A few weeks ago we were on a date and it came on Cassidy’s Sirius Satellite Radio in the car. It’s not something you just hear, right? I couldn’t believe it.

5 – “Thriller” – Michael Jackson. If you’re a trooper, you’ll watch this video! I won’t. This was my first love, and the first time my heart was gripped by a man and by music. Other than my musical father, of course. Michael Jackson = first love.

6 – “Romeo and Juliet” (LIVE) – Dire Straits. Pick a version. Any version. My friend Sheila put this song on a mix cd for me before I went on the most life-changing trip of my life. It was a Sweet 16 birthday gift and I was on the precipice of.. everything. I listened to that song in many hotel room windows. Eight years later, it was the weekend I met Cassidy at JFK Airport, and we were driving from western Massachusetts to Maine to see moose. We had both made mixes for potential road trips, and we both had the live version on our own mixes. After we had broken up for two years, I thought the song might kill me. It didn’t. Our wedding rings are inscribed with its lyrics. Mine says, “You and Me, Babe.” And his says, “How About It?”

7 – “Cloud on My Tongue” – Tori Amos. This one, like “Learning to Fly”, might be my favorite song in the world. It was on that same road trip and that same mix cd from Sheila. This song brings me to my knees because it reminds me of shedding youthful innocence and finding your own brand of healing magic. I believed in everything after that trip. This song helped.

8 – “Don’t Stop Believing” – Journey. I know, I know. Hear me out, though. I’ve been listening to this song since I was a young kid, and finding my own meaning. I always hear it exactly when I need to hear it. That’s not anything but magic.

9 – “Just Like Heaven” – The Cure. This was the first song, after “Eternal Flame” that I printed out the lyrics to so I could memorize them. I’m historically bad with remembering lyrics. This song overcomes such barriers. The lyrics are pure poetry.

10 – “Round Here” and “Murder of One” – Counting Crows. A tie! I love the way he mixes his words with his music, and all of his lyrics remind me of exactly what I’d write if I were a songwriter. I only know what they mean to me, and it’s lifelong.

This is me linking up, as one of my favorite things to do, with Finish The Sentence Friday. This week’s topic is “10 songs/pieces of music that changed me.” And there’s still time to write yours. Come link up with your spin: HERE.

What songs would you pick?

A Love Story With Whole Damn Mess



This post is sponsored by One2One Network. All opinions are my own.

You already know I love the new Whole Damn Mess album: The Queen and The Outcast! Now you can read more about the real life love story behind the album and the band. Don't wait to download it! #wholedamnmess #ad

You all know I’m a true sucker for a good love story.

I shared my 20 part love story here, and then went for a long honeymoon story in Alaska! When I meet people, I love to ask them how they met. It’s what keeps me going – the storytelling. I love to tell my own stories, and I love to tell other people’s stories. I don’t know if it’s the writer in me, the photographer in me, or just the ME in me that is so fascinated by love stories. It seems so ludicrous – that you could love someone SO MUCH – and then that the same person could love you back. Right?? Ludicrous! And yet, it happens every day. It happened to me. It happened to Don Miggs and Lisa DeBartolo.

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Last month I was thrilled to review Whole Damn Mess’s new album: The Queen And The Outcast. Today? I’m thrilled to share that there’s a beautiful back story behind the band, and it’s romantic and fateful. The album is a unique love story for rock and roll dreamers. The name of the album actually came from the love story of singer/guitarist Don Miggs, and his wife, Lisa DeBartolo – the daughter of Pro Football Hall of Famer and former San Francisco 49ers owner Eddie DeBartolo. Biggs was a Long Island boy and not from a lot of money, and this unlikely pair inspired the course of The Queen and the Outcast.

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All of the songs on the album are deeply personal and thrillingly infectious, and Miggs admits that he lives in a mansion because he married a rich girl, and not because of the hit record. That said, he still put all of his heart and soul into this record. And he was helped by co-writer/producers – Mighty Mighty Bosstones guitarist Lawrence Katz and songwriter/producer C. Todd Nielsen. When you go through a deep life experience, it imbues everything you do. For me, that’s photography and writing. For Miggs, that’s music. Every song on the album tells a story of his love and life.

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I think that’s why the songs resonate. We’ve all been there – in love – maybe with someone from a different kind of life. We’ve broken hearts, had our hearts broken, taken leaps of faith, and thought about the craziness of the world. Lisa struggled with postpartum depression, and Miggs wrote “Be Good to Yourself” about that song. I have worked with people with postpartum depression, and sometimes they wonder how it affects their partner. I LOVE this song for its depth and sensitivity. And I really love that this album is based on a love story. A real love story. Real love stories are messy and beautiful.

You already know I love the new Whole Damn Mess album: The Queen and The Outcast! Now you can read more about the real life love story behind the album and the band. Don't wait to download it! #wholedamnmess #ad

Don’t just take my word for it! Check out the album. I’d love to hear the songs you love on it, and the stories you hear when you listen to the lyrics and imagine the meanings. So good!

TRACKLISTING:

1) And Then They Were
2) We Don’t Need A Reason
3) Be Good To Yourself
4) Anywhere Without You
5) That’s Just How It Goes
6) Maybe We Should Do It
7) Helium
8) Summer Under Covers
9) When She Says
10) Got You Stuck in My Head

Enjoy and Happy Valentine’s Day!

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