So You’re Pregnant – Now What?

So, you’re pregnant? First of all, congratulations! You may be wondering what’s next.

So, you're pregnant? First, congratulations! You may be wondering what's next, right? This informal resource guide is meant to guide you through the journey

Luckily, there are so many resources out there to help you – including this here little informal, authentic guide post. I really think that once you’re openly or visibly pregnant, that’s when it starts – the unsolicited advice, the unasked for stomach touching, the people who say “Just you wait” in the grocery store. I’m a firm believer that you shouldn’t give advice when you haven’t been asked to give advice. I’m also a firm believer that your story is unique. Your pregnancy is unique. Your baby will be unique. And, you will be a unique parent – there will never be another parent who loves/is loved just like you!


Not only that, but you’re the best parent for YOUR baby. So there’s my best piece of advice for you – unsolicited, of course.

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The first time I got pregnant, it was the biggest shock in the world – to ME. It didn’t matter that I was ten days “late”, I suddenly hated and hid from smells I had loved the previous day, and I had started sleeping 14 hour nights. I attributed it all to stress. A trip to Target and an 8 dollar pregnancy test revealed the truth at the end of that long week. PREGNANT – in big digital letters. I sank to the bathroom floor and I started to weep in my husband’s arms. I was SO scared. And, I wasn’t ready.

Luckily, we get nine months or so to prepare ourselves through the weird symptoms, reactions, advice, dreams & nightmares.

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I didn’t have any pregnant friends or sisters. I was the first of my friends and my family to give birth. Also, I was moving cross-country, unemployed, far from family, and scared out of my mind. It was also November at the time I found out – not my favorite month to begin with, and this one had an ice storm that knocked the power out for four nights! Displaced, physically, and displaced, emotionally = not for the weak. If I could do it, you can do it! Here’s my unsolicited advice/guide for you.

I guess if you’re read this far, it’s not so unsolicited anyway! Let us begin:

1 – Call your healthcare provider, or consider a new one. This doesn’t mean you don’t like your doctor. It means that there are more options in this case – you can choose from ob-gyns, midwives, family doctors, doulas, and practices that have all or most of the above! You and your partner need to decide what kind of provider is right for you. This will depend on your health, your concerns, your wishes for pregnancy care, labor, and birth. I was new to my town so I took the first doctor’s name I got – from my mother-in-law. It worked out for two births! This is an important choice, and not one that can wait long.

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2 – Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes. Vitamins? Diet? Exercise? I needed my new ob to give advice about prenatal vitamins, diet, exercise, etc. because I hadn’t a clue otherwise. Also, I’m awful at swallowing pills and needed to know my options! In case you’re wondering, they gave me a prescription for chewable prenatal vitamins and it wasn’t covered by insurance. My appointment was scheduled for ten weeks into my pregnancy, so they sent over paperwork about foods to eat, foods to avoid, exercises to do, exercises to avoid, etc. I knew the obvious ones – like no cigarettes and alcohol, but some surprised me.

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3 – Prepare for your first appointment. My paperwork told me what I could expect and it still didn’t cover everything. For example, you will most likely have an ultrasound and the wand won’t go on your stomach like it does in movies. It will for later ultrasounds but the first one might be a transvaginal ultrasound. There is also a lot of testing right away. I don’t have a needle phobia so it was ok, but there were a LOT of vials of blood. You will also be asked to uncover/relay information about your medical history, as well as the history of your parents and grandparents, and your partner’s relatives too.

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4 – Get internet and book resources. Get a book on pregnancy – even if you intend to throw it at the wall like I did – or subscribe to emails based on the week of your pregnancy. They will tell you what you might be experiencing, what your baby might be experiencing, and even how big the baby might be. Some of them compare your baby’s size to fruits and vegetables. I also joined BabyCenter and found my birth month groups, as well as some groups on photography, health, etc. Sometimes it can get.. dramatic in forums like that, but they’re also hotbeds of information.

5 – Go to the dentist. Seriously, don’t be like me and wait two long years. Dental health and pregnancy are actually quite related. And brush and floss as wonderfully as you always do. Right? Of course you do.

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6 – Examine your emotions. For my first baby, I was in incredible fear and chaos at first, but it smoothed out. For my second pregnancy, I actually saw a therapist who specializes in prenatal therapy. MANY women experiences feelings of anxiety and depression. For some, the passing of time and a good support network help. For others, it takes more. It’s a time that should hopefully have some relaxation and enjoyment – as hard as that can be to find. You have to try, right?

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7 – Talk to your doctor about vaccinations. Your doctor may recommend flu shots, as well as the TDAP vaccine. You may have had those in the past, and maybe you haven’t. It’s time to make choices you may never have had to make.

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8 – Check in with your HR department. If you have one! It’s important to know what your company will grant. You will also spend a lot of time thinking about if your current job will still work for you after baby – depending on what it is.

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9 – When to spill the beans? With my first, I waited the full 12-14 weeks. With my son, I waited maybe eight weeks, tops. I’ll never forget the midwife saying that the chances of a loss after the heartbeat is seen on an ultrasound are much lower, but there are no guarantees about anything in life. It’s something to think about and/or discuss with your partner.

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10 – Go shopping. When it’s time, it’s time. All of the ins and outs are up to you. I waited until after that first ultrasound to buy something. Anything. Then I waited until the second ultrasound because I found out what we were having by 20 weeks. It got more comfortable as time went on. There are things you will NEED and things you will WANT, and excitement and preparation can go hand in hand. One resource I have found – not through my own children, sadly – is PeuroBaby. It wasn’t around several years ago, but in shopping for my two new(ish) nephews, I discovered a perfect website for peace of mind.

EVERYTHING here is chosen with thought and care.

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*Special note: There are no affiliate links in this post, and this post isn’t sponsored. I received no products at all for this post, although if I get pregnant again, you can bet I’ll try! I just love this company and their values! Wheeeee!

PeuroBaby curates the European market for the highest quality, multi-functional items manufactured in fair trade environments. There is no sacrificing of quality or design. They also do the legwork for researching and testing products – their healthy, non-toxic baby products are essentials for a new mom. Here are five of my favorites:

a – Safe Co-sleeping Bassinet. Many parents end up co-sleeping, as it is recommended by the AAP as a way to prevent SIDS for the first year. Also, it feels good! You don’t want to worry about safety, though, and this is the ONLY co-sleeper (and bassinet) totally free of harmful materials. It can convert to a rollaway crib or bench too.

b – Nuna Curv. My babies loved bouncers, rockers, swings, etc. I would too! Does this come in my size? This Nuna Curv is soundless, and doesn’t take up space.

c – Nuna Pipa infant carseat. A car seat is essential. The choices are overwhelming. There are pros and cons to all of them. This one? Light, cute, easily-installed, without terrible chemicals..

d – Organic Swaddle and Sleepsack Duo. Light and super soft and perfect for soft baby skin.

e – Glass Bottle With Sleeve. Whether you exclusively breastfeed, formula feed, or use both, these bottles are critical to have.

Which natural baby products look best to you?

So, you're pregnant? First, congratulations! You may be wondering what's next, right? This informal resource guide is meant to guide you through the journey

10 Things No One Tells You About Parenting (That You Should Know)

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Eight years ago now, I was pregnant with my firstborn, Scarlet, and looking forward to the warmth and light of spring. This was our first winter in New England after moving from California. The winter was particularly icy, cold, and treacherous, and we were in the process of moving into a condo and setting up our first nursery. I was registering for baby classes and touring the hospital I chose for her birth. All I could think about was what it would be like to meet her and to hold her in my arms.


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Before she was born, I could only think about the birth – like the last lap and then finish line. Quite like how we think about our weddings, sometimes more than the actual marriage after the events, the hard/rewarding part is always still to come to you. The hard work, the sleepless nights, the changes, and the unimaginably wonderful/scary years are still in your future.

You may get released from the hospital, look at each other, and then say, “Now, what??” (we did)

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Like many first-time parents, I was blown away by parenting. And like many second-time parents, I was blown away by parenting my second born, Desmond, and how his pregnancy, labor, birth, and infancy were so different from Scarlet’s. If there’s a third? I’ll be blown away by him/her as well. It’s all about adjustments, transitions, and heart-grabbing love. It’s about the challenges and the joys, and the astonishing things that NO ONE ever tells you! I’m here to tell you these things!

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Speaking of telling you things, I’d also be remiss if I didn’t tell you about the Registry 101 and Completion events offered nationwide at Babies “R” Us. The Registry 101 Event is for prenatal moms who are setting up registries or exploring the registry process. It takes place on the 1st Saturday of the month – and registry experts guide you through the process. The Registry Completion Event takes place on the 3rd Tuesday of the month to close out a registry after you have had your baby. Babies “R” Us offers a completion discount for all items on the registry not purchased! This is so helpful to parents.

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Here are 10 Things No One Tells You About Parenting (That You Should Know)!

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1 – You will go through SO MANY diapers, which probably isn’t a huge surprise to you, but the bigger surprise will be how often you examine the contents of the diapers and analyze it. Who knew you could be so proud/fearful of what’s in a diaper?

2 – The love will open your heart so fast and so wide, that you will get dizzy and knocked off your feet. Probably literally!

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3 – The postpartum period is uncomfortable, sometimes painful, and emotional. I remember with my first one that I didn’t feel “normal” until she was four-months-old! It was earlier with my son, but some of the body changes took me by surprise.

4 – Congratulations. You’re now a Mama or Papa Bear. It will come out in the strangest ways, like when a well-meaning relative asks, “How’s MY baby?” about your baby. And you retort back, “I don’t know! MY baby is fine. How is yours?”

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5 – You will need to delegate tasks, especially feeding, so that you can breathe, eat, sleep, work, rest, etc. Whether you’re using formula, breastmilk, or both, have your partner, parent, in-law or friend take turns too – especially overnight turns!

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That’s where Playtex Baby™ for Better Beginnings comes in. We love the Playtex VentAire® from Babies “R” Us. It’s for less colic and reflux for happy feedings. All Playtex BPA Free Baby Bottles are designed for your baby’s unique feeding needs.

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The Playtex VentAire was a “Mom’s Pick Best of 2017” finalist in the BabyCenter Awards – determined by a vote of moms on BabyCenter. It has a unique bottom vent designed to keep air at the back of the bottle, and out of your baby’s tummy. Not only that, the VentAire’s angled design promotes a semi-upright feeding position to help prevent ear infections. The VentAire’s Most Like Mom® NaturaLatch® Nipple has a natural wide shape and a raised texture for baby to latch on naturally.

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Lastly, the micro-channel vents of the Playtex VentAire keep air at the back of the bottle as your baby drinks, so virtually no air will mix with the milk and get into your baby’s tummy. This means less gas, spit-up and overall fussiness.

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6 – The emotions might not make sense. It’s ok if it’s not love at first sight. It’s totally ok! Your heart, body and mind may have just been through the ringer. That love will come, and it will hit you hard like I mentioned above. And sometimes, the emotions will leak out of your eyes at the strangest times. I once cried over baby socks. They are so tiny and so vulnerable, and the tiniest socks are the most temporary in wear and tear. I could cry thinking about it!

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7 – If you have a partner, the experience will change the relationship between the two of you. Let it change you – our wise cousin once said. It might get worse, and it might get better. It might get worse before it gets better.

8 – There are so many questions, concerns, ailments, etc. that you will be looking for in your child. I’m not sure that part of parenting ever stops? We are always nurses, along with being parents. Some of these things won’t happen, and some will.

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9 – The comparison game is strong. Trust your instincts first and foremost. There are real concerns in this world, but the chances are high that your child is progressing normally – at their own special and unique rate. And that’s ok.

10 – The “perfect” birth? The “perfect” baby? “Perfect” kid? The “perfect” mom? Perfection is just a myth, but I believe that there’s a perfect baby for YOU, and that you’re the perfect parent for YOUR baby. Never forget that. Promise you won’t?

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*Days are long and years are short. It will take your breath away when you count down the months and years with photos and props. That doesn’t mean don’t do it. Do it, for sure. We all feel inexperienced at first, and we grow with our children.

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Now tell me – what’s something you wish you had known before you had your first (or 2nd, 3rd, etc.) child?

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