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It was NOT going to be an early night. All weekend long I stressed to the kids that I was going to be having a few close female friends over to watch the Emmy Awards and we were going to watch it in a way we’ve never watched it before. We were going to thoroughly celebrate all of the strong and influential women in the TV industry. I had Scarlet by my side.
I’ve never had a life event drastically alter my appearance, except for pregnancy and childbirth, but I’ve always been sensitive to aging. I remember fearing it when I was only 21! I can recall two events that changed me. First, I was with an older woman looking at a photo of herself from her 20’s or 30’s. She said, and I quote, “Gosh, I was SO beautiful. Inside and out. I wish I had known it then.” As a photographer, I take photographs in order to preserve moments, emotions, and experiences in time. It’s the same reason I’m a writer, but with photos, you look back at them and you feel SO MUCH.
It’s indescribable. I don’t want to look back in regret. I don’t want to lose my confidence, but my bigger fear is that I’ll never gain it to begin with. And all I can say to that, as the mother of a daughter and son, is: “Not on my watch.”
The other story was when I was with my sister at a convenience store in New Jersey and a man said to me, “Your smile reaches your eyes. Never lose that.” So all of my old fears – of laugh lines and grey hair – are less overwhelming these days. Perhaps I’ll embrace it all – like the badges of courage and honor it is – to receive this gorgeous, irrerversible gift of aging.
Back to the party, I invited a certain group of women, for sure. I have many varied and scattered female friends in this world, but there’s nothing like those wingwomen who will laugh, cry, and play cards with you. Scarlet settled comfortably next to me on the couch and we dished and watched for hours. It was nothing short of bliss. I chose women who build each other up, rather than tearing each other down. There was no criticism as the night unfolded. We may have discussed an actor or presenter’s dress, but we mostly discussed talent, writing, speech-making, and grace. A whole lot of grace.
Women sometimes experience unanticipated changes to their appearance throughout their lives, and Real Beauty Productions’s third film “Meet Diana” shows how one woman’s inner confidence helps her to overcome life’s challenges. It helps her to regain belief in her #ReallBeauty. Dove partnered with Shonda Rhimes and put the power of storytelling in the hands of real women – to help expand the definition of beauty for women and girls. It’s time to see more stories like these because an overwhelmingly 7 in 10 women and girls cannot relate to depictions seen across film, TV and media today.
You can “Meet Diana” with this video and find out how you can make a difference in a girl’s self-esteem at Dove.com/RealBeauty. We sat together on Television’s biggest night, while Shonda and Dove honored the real women in front of and behind the camera to celebrate the strides the industry has made to change the way women are seen on screen.
Dove believes that all women can be a positive inspiration for the next generation. By modeling their own beauty with confidence, girls feel they have a positive role model and are less likely to let anxiety about their looks hold them back.
72% of girls around the world feel a tremendous pressure to be beautiful, and they cite entertainment and media as a source of this pressure. The Dove Self-Esteem Project was created to ensure that the next generation develops a positive relationship with the way they look. This helps girls develop the confidence they need to reach their full potential. Over the past decade, the project has provided more than 20M young people around the world with body confidence and self-esteem education. Dove is the largest provider of self-esteem education in the world. The new goal is to help 20M more by 2020.
Then, there’s Diana Wright. As a mother of two girls, an athlete, and a teacher, Diana was used to living up to her namesake – Wonder Woman. She strived to reclaim confidence in her appearance after losing her leg in a car accident. When it came to her recovery, Diana reached goal after goal – learning not only how to walk again, but how to run. She did this through her passion and strength. Diana is a mother and mentor – and taps into that same passion and drive to ensure that the girls in her life develop positive body confidence and self-esteem. She’s an inspiring example of the power of all women to help the next generation develop confidence in their #RealBeauty.
Now, for 60 years, Dove has listened to and cared about women. They launched Real Beauty Productions with Shonda Rhimes to shift the power of storytelling from Hollywood to real women. With a 100% female crew, Shonda and Dove continue to celebrate inclusive, diverse and real beauty in front and behind the camera.
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