10 Things No One Tells You About Parenting (That You Should Know)

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Eight years ago now, I was pregnant with my firstborn, Scarlet, and looking forward to the warmth and light of spring. This was our first winter in New England after moving from California. The winter was particularly icy, cold, and treacherous, and we were in the process of moving into a condo and setting up our first nursery. I was registering for baby classes and touring the hospital I chose for her birth. All I could think about was what it would be like to meet her and to hold her in my arms.


Before she was born, I could only think about the birth – like the last lap and then finish line. Quite like how we think about our weddings, sometimes more than the actual marriage after the events, the hard/rewarding part is always still to come to you. The hard work, the sleepless nights, the changes, and the unimaginably wonderful/scary years are still in your future.

You may get released from the hospital, look at each other, and then say, “Now, what??” (we did)

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Like many first-time parents, I was blown away by parenting. And like many second-time parents, I was blown away by parenting my second born, Desmond, and how his pregnancy, labor, birth, and infancy were so different from Scarlet’s. If there’s a third? I’ll be blown away by him/her as well. It’s all about adjustments, transitions, and heart-grabbing love. It’s about the challenges and the joys, and the astonishing things that NO ONE ever tells you! I’m here to tell you these things!


Speaking of telling you things, I’d also be remiss if I didn’t tell you about the Registry 101 and Completion events offered nationwide at Babies “R” Us. The Registry 101 Event is for prenatal moms who are setting up registries or exploring the registry process. It takes place on the 1st Saturday of the month – and registry experts guide you through the process. The Registry Completion Event takes place on the 3rd Tuesday of the month to close out a registry after you have had your baby. Babies “R” Us offers a completion discount for all items on the registry not purchased! This is so helpful to parents.

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Here are 10 Things No One Tells You About Parenting (That You Should Know)!

Here are 10 things no one told me about parenting that I wish I had known. Laugh, cry and love! #FirstMomentsMadeSimple #ForBetterBeginnings #MomsFirsts #ad

1 – You will go through SO MANY diapers, which probably isn’t a huge surprise to you, but the bigger surprise will be how often you examine the contents of the diapers and analyze it. Who knew you could be so proud/fearful of what’s in a diaper?

2 – The love will open your heart so fast and so wide, that you will get dizzy and knocked off your feet. Probably literally!

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3 – The postpartum period is uncomfortable, sometimes painful, and emotional. I remember with my first one that I didn’t feel “normal” until she was four-months-old! It was earlier with my son, but some of the body changes took me by surprise.

4 – Congratulations. You’re now a Mama or Papa Bear. It will come out in the strangest ways, like when a well-meaning relative asks, “How’s MY baby?” about your baby. And you retort back, “I don’t know! MY baby is fine. How is yours?”


5 – You will need to delegate tasks, especially feeding, so that you can breathe, eat, sleep, work, rest, etc. Whether you’re using formula, breastmilk, or both, have your partner, parent, in-law or friend take turns too – especially overnight turns!


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Lastly, the micro-channel vents of the Playtex VentAire keep air at the back of the bottle as your baby drinks, so virtually no air will mix with the milk and get into your baby’s tummy. This means less gas, spit-up and overall fussiness.


6 – The emotions might not make sense. It’s ok if it’s not love at first sight. It’s totally ok! Your heart, body and mind may have just been through the ringer. That love will come, and it will hit you hard like I mentioned above. And sometimes, the emotions will leak out of your eyes at the strangest times. I once cried over baby socks. They are so tiny and so vulnerable, and the tiniest socks are the most temporary in wear and tear. I could cry thinking about it!


7 – If you have a partner, the experience will change the relationship between the two of you. Let it change you – our wise cousin once said. It might get worse, and it might get better. It might get worse before it gets better.

8 – There are so many questions, concerns, ailments, etc. that you will be looking for in your child. I’m not sure that part of parenting ever stops? We are always nurses, along with being parents. Some of these things won’t happen, and some will.


9 – The comparison game is strong. Trust your instincts first and foremost. There are real concerns in this world, but the chances are high that your child is progressing normally – at their own special and unique rate. And that’s ok.

10 – The “perfect” birth? The “perfect” baby? “Perfect” kid? The “perfect” mom? Perfection is just a myth, but I believe that there’s a perfect baby for YOU, and that you’re the perfect parent for YOUR baby. Never forget that. Promise you won’t?

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*Days are long and years are short. It will take your breath away when you count down the months and years with photos and props. That doesn’t mean don’t do it. Do it, for sure. We all feel inexperienced at first, and we grow with our children.


Now tell me – what’s something you wish you had known before you had your first (or 2nd, 3rd, etc.) child?


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About Tamara

Tamara is a professional photographer, a mama of two, a Lifestyle Blogger/Social Media Influencer/Brand Ambassador, and a nearly professional cookie taster. She has been known to be all four of those things at all hours of the day and night. She is a very proud contributor to the book, The Mother Of All Meltdowns, the Stigma Fighters Anthology (volume 1), and The HerStories Project: So Glad They Told Me. She is also a proud Community Lead and a regular contributor to the SoFab Food blog, and the Target Made Me Do It blog. After two cross country moves, due to her intense Bi-Coastal Disorder, she lives with her husband, daughter, son, dog, cat, and 11 chickens in glorious western Massachusetts.


10 Things No One Tells You About Parenting (That You Should Know) — 32 Comments

  1. I just love this post. I wish someone would have told me that I’d never known unconditional love as I knew it with my kids. I wish I’d also known that parenting doesn’t really get easier the more kids you have, but you do things differently. 🙂

    • That’s so true. Certain phases get easier and if you like sleeping through the night and NOT having sore nipples, that gets easier!
      For me, it gets harder to let them go as they grow.

  2. These are all so true and so is the thing about every pregnancy being different. My pregnancies and deliveries were so different from each other, it was hard to believe that I had done it once before already!

  3. Wow these are all so true. It brought me right back to 9 years ago! Parenting is always a challenge, it just changes as they grow. But we are the exact right parent for our own kids! {client}

  4. I’m getting some serious baby fever Tamara, I could be the fact that most of my blogging friend are Moms, or the fact that I’m 35 with no kiddies but whatever it is something inside of me actually aches when I see babies now. If only my new boyfriend would put a ring on it so we can get this train moving. Actually i know he’s saving for a ring which makes it a little easier, just a little. I savor and cherish all the advice you share Tamara 🙂 That “how’s my baby” comment made me laugh. I’ll make sure not to say that anymore lol

  5. I honestly could not believe how many diapers we blew through!! For the second baby my mom would just drop off diapers randomly. OMG I was SO grateful for that!!

  6. parenting is so hard, yet so rewarding. right now, I am trying to figure out where my son is going to go to school…which seems like the most important decision ever. but of course, he will be fine wherever he goes. it’s so hard to just let go and relax about it all.

    • It does, doesn’t it?? My son is starting kindergarten in three months and I was a bit confused. I could have let him do another year of preschool. Or a year at a special kindergarten in town. Ultimately he’s going where Scarlet goes!

  7. That brings back so many memories. I wish I knew tell that my daughter fall asleep on her own at night. We couldn’t bear to hear her cry and made it a little harder on ourselves. I love how much they’ve improved these feeding bottles. There is nothing better than seeing your baby for the first time!

  8. This reminded me of my “new mommy” days! Fun times, huh? 🙂 It was crazy but loved every single moment. Well, not everything but you know what I mean. 🙂 Love Playtex!

    • I miss a lot this time of year because that’s when I was nearing the end of pregnancy with both kids, but then other times I think I’m insane to miss that!!

  9. I remember these days. Oh man. I sometimes miss my kids being tiny, but then I remember this and lack of sleep and I’m glad they’re older. But I do miss the 3-4 year stage. It’s so cute.

  10. The picture of the aisle flashed me back to standing there and wishing I had known I’d needed some moisturizer for my nipples before the were cracked. Sorry TMI. That wasn’t a sweet moment, more like a total despair moment, I could have sent my husband but I needed to get out of the house moment. The first month was the hardest, but boy was it love at first sight.

    • I salute your TMI and raise you with the story of how I wouldn’t even wear a shirt around the house because of cracked nipples. That lotion did not help me!

  11. Oh m’goodness with all these adorable photos!!! I wish I would’ve known more, even the books can’t compare you. They still can’t years later, but I’m enjoying the journey. I hope a new mama reads this and gains something new here, because you shared some things the books didn’t. 🙂

  12. I totally remember saying “what now” when we brought our babies home. Those bottles are so cool – we didn’t have anything like that! I wish someone had told me that the teen years will be even more interesting!

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